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  • I haven't had enough interactions with faith-based homeschoolers to form an opinion.

    6 9.23%
  • Most of my interactions with faith-based homeschoolers have been positive

    13 20.00%
  • Most of my interactions with faith-based homeschoolers have been negative

    6 9.23%
  • I've had a mixture of both postive and negative interactions with faith-based homeschoolers

    40 61.54%
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    It is ironic that this should come up at this time, because I have been trying to convince these folks that creationism is not a science ( silly me ). I have to say that out of about a half a dozen folks who weighed in on the debate were put off by my suggestion. This being an issue of great controversy I would expect nothing more than to have them all be resistant which they were. However there was one nice lady who reached out and while she did not agree she was kind and showed a great deal of heart. I think most people wish to avoid this issue and I don't blame them. However if we never talk about it then it will never be resolved.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aimeejoe View Post
    It is ironic that this should come up at this time, because I have been trying to convince these folks that creationism is not a science ( silly me ). I have to say that out of about a half a dozen folks who weighed in on the debate were put off by my suggestion. This being an issue of great controversy I would expect nothing more than to have them all be resistant which they were. However there was one nice lady who reached out and while she did not agree she was kind and showed a great deal of heart. I think most people wish to avoid this issue and I don't blame them. However if we never talk about it then it will never be resolved.
    Hi Aimeejoe, I'm not sure that this issue will EVER be resolved whether we discuss it or not... in my own experience, people's opinions are rarely changed by being challenged. I think it takes a personal experience - maybe a negative experience with members of their own religion or realization that they can't really know if there is a god or not, or inversely, witnessing something that suddenly changes one's mind about there being a god after all. Atheists will never be able to prove that there is NO god and believers ask you to trust that you will find out for sure when you die. Personally, I feel uncomfortable with the act of trying to "convince" anyone. To me this is what missionaries, evangelists, and other proselytizers do, and I don't really want to be lumped with them. Live and let live, that's my motto when it comes to that. I choose not to believe and to teach evolution and I try to get along with folks of other persuasions as long as they don't preach to me and don't infringe on my rights to be an unbeliever Plus, some folks get really scary when you challenge their belief system. In the end, it's not worth it, at least not to me.

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    My experiences with faith-based homeschoolers usually start out positive. They want to get to know us, find out if we are the "same". We do a few activities together, but genuine friendships do not develop. I have no faith-based homeschool friends. It can be very lonely at times. I am sticking with my decision to homeschool not only because I know it is the right thing for our kids, but because the schools in our area are simply an extension of the dominant area religion.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aimeejoe View Post
    It is ironic that this should come up at this time, because I have been trying to convince these folks that creationism is not a science ( silly me ). I have to say that out of about a half a dozen folks who weighed in on the debate were put off by my suggestion. This being an issue of great controversy I would expect nothing more than to have them all be resistant which they were. However there was one nice lady who reached out and while she did not agree she was kind and showed a great deal of heart. I think most people wish to avoid this issue and I don't blame them. However if we never talk about it then it will never be resolved.
    We are Catholic but do not choose to home school for that reason nor is religion combined with schooling. I'm pretty open minded about most everything so Christian home school groups do not seem like the right place for us.

    The interesting thing is that our Catholic church in fall had an evening study group about how believing in evolution does not exclude the idea of creation or vice versa. The short version is that when they say "on the first day . . . " it doesn't literally mean a day. It might have been 1,000 years. I won't go on and on but I find that most groups that make a declaration of their Christianity are not as open minded. I think they take the Bible as more literal than others might. JMHO

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    "but my faith is something that I prefer to keep separate from my kids schooling (they get enough religious education at CCD, church, etc.). I've gotten very annoyed with the lack of non-Christian based curriculum, and some of the holier than thou attitudes of said curriculums."

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    Hear! Hear! Those are my feelings exactly. I used a Christian curriculum in a box this year, because it was convenient (and I had to come up with something fast since I pulled my son out of public school in the middle of the year) but the holier than thou attitude and the constant preaching that infused every single lesson in every single subject is a real turn-off.

    Still, my experience with faith-based home schoolers has only been positive so far, but perhaps because most of the home schoolers I know are people I work with and know outside of home schooling issues.
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    My experience so far has been a little of both. Around here, the reason that most of the people homeschool is for religious purposes and the idea of wanting to homeschool for other reasons is met with, "Then why not just send them to public school?" Since we haven't officially begun homeschooling, it'll be interesting to see what sort of interactions we have since our reasonings aren't religiously based.

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    Our first 5 years of homeschooling was in a conservative Christian area, and it was very hard for us to find people to connect with. In fact, NONE of my son's friends were homeschoolers! I've seen everything from little kids tell each other that the other is going to roast in hell because they don't belong to the same church to a parent proclaim while we were at a restaurant that she couldn't read her fortune cookie because she's a Christian, and fortune telling is witchcraft! Having grown up in a family where I was told from a very young age that I was going to hell, or - my personal favorite - that I was a heathen, but my grandma loved me anyway - this kind of thing always makes me bristle. To be fair though, I've known some obnoxious athiest homeschoolers, too, so I really think it has less to do with the belief system and more to do with the ill behaviour of the actual people involved.
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    Hi, I voted that my interactions were mixed..but mostly for the good? I think.(I'm very tired right now, I might have trouble thinking clearly) Our interactions, on paper, would be considered ok. However I have chosen to back off from contact with the 'Christian bunch.' The word Christian, got such a bad rap around our house, that my daughter, one day had to ask me, "mommy, are we Christian?" We're Catholic,( raised) and have been somewhat practicing. I had to explain what Christian meant. It is my opinion that the "christians" I meet give Christianity a very bad name. God gets alot of credit for things He would prefer not to have credit: in my humble opinion. People behave very badly in the name of Christianity. We had been active in a group that was supposed to be secular. The core was christian and that core can't be held down for long. The ugliness rears its head and is very uncomfortable. We also took part in Catholic based. I found that I 'wasn't really
    Catholic' - that was based on my political feelings. It was said to me, by way of a discussion that took place at a ceramics (painting) ceramics event. Over my shoulder, and next to me was a discussion by the main mothers of this
    group, talking about people who were like me. They didn't even know me yet. They assumed, I suppose, that I had the same beliefs,(political)... just because I am Catholic. I realized that people of my own faith had turned ugly - mostly
    because of their political views. I can't sit and act as if it isn't happening. I won't chose to teach my daughter that it is, ok, to just let people bash others' beliefs. Presently, I have a friend in the Intensive Care Unit in the
    Hospital, so I was up late and I'm tired. I wanted to read a little of the posts, and post at least a little bit. I'll post more when I'm more coherant. Sorry if I rambled. Nancy g.

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    I have had negative responses from faith based families here. Maybe it is because I live in a rather leftie, liberal, pro-Obama, Democrat, progressive, pro-socialism, pro-national health care town. The faith based folks here may feel outnumbered and defensive. When we tried to join their group (because it is the only one that has a lot of fun activities for my kids) they saw my daughter's Harry Potter T shirt and my other daughter's artwork (with dragons in it) and for the most part shunned us and our kids. They even tried to prevent my artist daughter from entering her art in the local county art show they have each year by hiding her drawings under other students' drawings so the judge wouldn't see them. They wouldn't engage me in any conversations, and I am a very friendly, conservatively dressed person. I raise my kids to dress and act conservative (meaning decent and not revealing [girls] or sloppy, droopy, butt-crack-revealing- pants [the boy]) and none of us uses foul language or acts rude. Yet they asked me what church we attend the first day I signed up and when I said none, they wouldn't give me the e-mail list even though it is part of the welcome packet they give everyone. I dropped out of the group.

    When I meet the ones that are less militant around town, they act like they don't know me and they still won't allow their kids to play with mine. It is as if they fear we will somehow sway them from their faith. A thief thinks everyone else thinks like a thief; people out to convert others either by intrusion or legal imposition think everyone else thinks the same way. They are totally surprised when they find out that I am very knowledgable about the Bible and can agree with a lot of it (help others, love one another, feed the hungry, help the poor, be kind and compassionate, be careful of your body, be modest, etc). They seem a suspicious and exclusive bunch here. Not very nice at all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Firefly_Mom View Post
    ... To be fair though, ..., so I really think it has less to do with the belief system and more to do with the ill behaviour of the actual people involved.
    Hear, hear! Sadly, "holier than thou", disrespectful, obnoxious, ill mannered people come in all faiths and lack thereof ....but then so do the good folks
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