View Poll Results: Weekly Poll: Do you trick or treat?

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  • Yes, every year!

    23 76.67%
  • Yes, sometimes

    1 3.33%
  • Yes and No

    2 6.67%
  • No, not our thing.

    3 10.00%
  • Other

    1 3.33%
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    I am trying to come up with something we can do. My kids have no one to hang out with and are feeling a bit blue. I considered a last minute party but everyone in their little group of friends has plans.

    My kids really wanted to have a party and asked months ago. I told them ‘no’ because last year one of their friends had a party. We never rec’d an invite, found out at the last minute we were invited, and were told they have a party for families every Halloween. Only my daughter went last year because my son already had plans, I stayed home to pass out candy and my husband worked. So, this year I assumed they were having the party. My daughter was really looking forward to it and I had already told my husband to plan on going.

    Well, my husband ran into the other husband last week and mentioned the party. The husband seemed uncomfortable and said they weren’t having a party this year. I didn’t know they talked until last night. I saw the mom Sunday evening and the party was brought up by another mom. I was standing there and was told “You can come if you want to, but your kids said they don’t want to TOT so I didn't invite you.” (My son did say he wasn‘t sure he wanted to TOT.) It was weird; I didn’t feel like she wanted us there but figured I was being paranoid. Now that I know about my husband’s previous conversation, it looks like there is a party but we were not on the invite list. I’m not sure why.

    So, that is my long way of saying I should have let my kids plan a party and not worry about another families feelings. I have a bad habit of placing other people’s needs in front of my family’s needs.

    Maybe we will have a movie night or a game night. Or maybe we’ll have a fire in the pit and I’ll be able to talk the kids into TOT’ing – just the two of them.
    finished 8th grade (our fifth year homeschooling)
    Dumplett (girl - age 14) and Wombat (boy - age 14)

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    That's so sad that anyone would make nasty comments on him especially if he HAD been a young father, doing his best to be a good one. People and their idiotic assumptions, including that no family has kids that are more than 2 years apart, or more than 2 kids, for that matter.
    Middle-aged mom of 4 kids spanning a 10-year age range, homeschooling since 2009, and a public school mom also, since 2017.

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    We treated at the mall this year. Last year we went over to the next neighborhood where the treating was a little scary with no sidewalks and a bit of monster truck traffic. There is one huge neighborhood that really goes all out. It's very busy and crowded - a little anxiety inducing for me with the teeny tinys running around. The mall is outside, relatively empty, they start during daylight hours which is nice, there are wide sidewalks, and the candy is really good. No dollar store Tiger Pops or what's that gross pink gum? No, it was the real deal. Hershey, Snickers, Reeses, Sour Patch Kids, the good stuff.
    I'm a work-at-home mom to three, homeschool enthusiast, and avid planner fueled by lattes and Florida sunshine. My oldest is 6 and is a fircond grader (that's somewhere between first and second, naturally), my preschooler just told me she wants to learn how to read, and my toddler is a force of nature.

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  5. #24


    As with thanksgiving, we used to go trick or treating every year. But since DS was diagnosed with a chronic illness that requires a very strict diet, we dont bother to go out begging for candy any more.

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