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    Site Administrator Arrived Aandwsmom's Avatar
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    Default Weekly Poll: Do you celebrate Thanksgiving with friends, family or both?

    Well, we are about 10 days away from Thanksgiving. The one holiday that I feel is a Secular one. Some can turn it into religious and that is their choice. But, it is about being THANKFUL. And for me, that is not religious.

    I look forward to spending it with my family. My boys, hubby and I travel to spend it with my side. It is chock-full of traditions that have been around since I was little!
    And it's a time for 4 generations to get together and be thankful for what we have in this world.
    And you never know when it might be the last with anyone, especially since we will have my 2 Grandma's there and they are 100 and 86.

    It is just family for us but when my husband was in the military, we were always away from home for the holidays and we would have many at our table. Single men and women that were alone on a new base.
    So while our holiday table now is just family, it has been both friends and family in the past.

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    We celebrate with family. Traveling home to see grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins. Will will go for a week, since I get a whole week off from work for the holiday.
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    Thanksgiving might be my favorite holiday. Lots of food, no presents, non-religious, and a nice long weekend. We are doing dinner at our house this year for the second time. It will just be the five of us and my grand parents. Last year my dad and aunt and uncle were in town, too. It is fun and DH does all of the cooking, so no stress for me.
    I'm a work-at-home mom to three, homeschool enthusiast, and avid planner fueled by lattes and Florida sunshine. My oldest is 6 and is a fircond grader (that's somewhere between first and second, naturally), my preschooler just told me she wants to learn how to read, and my toddler is a force of nature.

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    We don't go anywhere or invite people over so it is just dh, me, dd.
    So family but a very small family.
    mom to one awesome teen dd

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    Our nearest family are 5,500 miles away, so we celebrate with friends. As it's not really 'our' holiday, though, we just have a meal and hang out

    4th year of homeschooling DS, now 9!

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    We gave up traveling to family for Thanksgiving after getting stuck in traffic one year. We eat a nicer than usual meal, but not a huge turkey, usually just a small ham, sweet potato casserole and fruit salad. This year I'm slammed the weekend before the Tday working a rock and gem show and the weekend after Tday putting on an archery tournament so I plan on spending Tday doing as little as possible!
    Stay at home physicist - Mom to C (18 & off to college)) and J (15)

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    We spend it with family.

    Recently though we've started a new tradition for the day after. We escape to the mountains for the day with friends. We freeze, huddle by a campfire while the kids play, and we have a cookout. It is a super fun way to wrap up the weekend and much more low key than actual Thanksgiving.
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    We spend it with immediate family.

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    We don't have a set tradition. This year we're going to a potluck, and I'm not sure we'll actually know anyone else there.
    Mama of one DS, class of 2026;
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    It's the one day each year where we see DH's extended family - beyond his parents. It's usually big stress. Big ugly come home and shower to wash the yuck off and go to bed with a headache stress. His mom asks for one day each year to have everyone together and this is the one we give her.

    Most of the family really is nice enough and I can easily spend a day making small talk and catching up with them. Most are wildly successful financially (numerous homes and big trips - month long safari, Australia for 6 weeks, Disney twice a year, Tuscany for the spring, cruises and Caribbean to get through the winter) and though there is absolutely no snottiness about that on the part of those living that life, I think MIL and SIL feel a bit "less than" and THEY get weird about it. Sometimes mean, ugly, or just trying too hard to prove....something.

    There is too much drinking, IMO, and one of DH cousins is a rich church sports bigot type guy. Not what I want my kid around, but we use it as a learning experience and discuss it on the way home. He's kind to DS, so a few hours around him isn't the end of the world.

    The worst bit is that DH has a sibling with a decades long serious alcohol addiction, who has never sought help and ruined his life and who crawls out of his misery to show up. He's been chronically unemployed - fired time and again - for the past decade. Every year he is worse - meaner, sicker, more bitter. He looks terrible and it's just so bizarre to sit there with everyone dressed up and being "holiday nice" and social he literally looks like he crawled out from under a bridge - unkempt, food dribbled down his dirty sweatshirt, shaky hands, thin as a rail, yellowed eyes, shrunken face, snarling at attempts to be nice to him. Every year I'm amazed he's still living. Last year he rode the edge of insulting DS for having "weird ass homeschool friends." Nice way to treat an 11 year old relative - with a history of special needs! When I called him on it, he checked himself and said "I meant their unusual names."

    His wife and grown kids, are there too, which are a co-dependent mess and plowing through their own numerous bottles and getting meaner by the hour. And everyone just sits and pretends none of it is happening, meanwhile giving their spouse the googly eyes to say "Did you see/hear that? Boy are we going to have stuff to talk about in the car on the way home!" According to his mom and wife we aren't supposed to say anything to him about his problems, or offer help because it makes him feel as if we are judging him. DH tried to help once upon a time and has walked away from it when all he gets his grief from everyone.

    This is not the "fun" in dysfunctional type of event. I will say, though, we feel so joyful to be out of there, and NOT be some of those people, that we feel very glad to be the loving little family we are, and we sing along to the Christmas tunes the few hours it takes to drive home and feel very thankful and content with what our family is/has. And relieved that our duty is done for another year!
    homeschooling one DS, age 13.

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