View Poll Results: Kids are okay to be home alone at:

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  • any age over 5y

    1 2.17%
  • 6y

    1 2.17%
  • 7y

    2 4.35%
  • 8y

    4 8.70%
  • 9y

    2 4.35%
  • 10y

    11 23.91%
  • 11y

    2 4.35%
  • 12y

    8 17.39%
  • 13y

    4 8.70%
  • other (details below, please)

    11 23.91%
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Thread: Home alone?

  1. #51

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    Depends on the kid, and unfortunately, the state laws. My oldest would have been fine around 7 or 8 without her younger siblings. 2nd, closer to 12. 3rd around the same as the oldest. I think I was about 7 or 8 and came home from school before my brother or mother by about 45 minutes. Time of the party line and in the country. Crime was actually higher then than it is now. And...I didn't have a lot to occupy me like kids now. I couldn't read yet on my own, and the TV only got 3 channels.

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  3. #52

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    No one-size-fits-all answer here, because my 11-yo isn't your 11-yo, you know?
    And my DD could have stayed home alone, no trouble, at 8, or even 7, for such a short time, whereas her bro was a different matter....but then, plug him into Minecraft, give him a plate of snacks beside him, and actually, he wouldn't stir for 3 hours, so no trouble there either.

    As for home invasions? MMV, but here, you don't bring it, there won't be it, so may as well worry about meteorites falling through the house. In other words, just get over the fact that life is 100% guaranteed fatal, and you may as well live first.

    I have no prob leaving my DD11 and DS 8 home without me for several hours, and no prob leaving DD 11 babysitting DS 1 while DS 5 plays with DS 8 on computer, for <1 hour if I needed to run a quick errand.

    My biggest fears are not what the kids will do or not do, nor what some supposed bogeyman will or won't do. My biggest fears are what some Concerned Citizen/Nutjob would do if they found out that anyone under 18 were Home Alone (OMG!) these days.

    More power to Lenore Skenazy and the Free RAnge Kids (previously known as Normal Parenting) movement.

    And yes, I envy my parents' generation, who never had to look over their shoulder in case the Concerned Citizens' Brigade were watching, when doing normal things like letting kids old enough to be in school play at the park, walk the neighborhood, etc. without an adult escort.

    Sheesh, we have come a long, horrible way since Henry Huggins was the youngest paper route boy, when he was in 3rd grade. My DS is about that age, and where is his opportunity for a paper route? He'd love one. Society has gone nuts.
    Middle-aged mom of 4 kids spanning a 10-year age range, homeschooling since 2009, and a public school mom also, since 2017.

  4. #53

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    Adding Meteorite Strike to list of unlikely events. Although if it hits the house, hed probably be thrilled. Has any American ever been killed by a meteorite?
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    Homeschooling DS13, DS6.

    Atheist.

    My spelling was fine, then my brain left me.

  5. #54

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    AM, no HUMAN has ever been killed by a meteorite, at least in recorded history.
    Eclectically homeschooling 8th grade dd, who likes science as much as art...

  6. #55

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    Yah, no human been killed in zombie apocalypse either (even florida).

    Our fears arent really based on reality, are they?
    Homeschooling DS13, DS6.

    Atheist.

    My spelling was fine, then my brain left me.

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    You know - a Concerned Citizen in a white SUV stopped my son when he was walking home from the park one day a couple years ago. From my vantage point less than a block behind him I saw him back away from the car while answering something the couple said to him. All good, he didn't get too close, looked around, thought about running from the STRANGERS in a CAR - a situation we'd discussed in terms of kidnappers and fake stories about puppies, candy, being lost, needing kid's help, mom/dad hurt, etc. Kudos to him.

    I stopped Concerned Citizens (aka crazy busybodies) to be sure they were doing what I thought they were doing. I asked them if they spoke to my son. They said they were worried because he appeared to be alone - I was like, yeah, walking 3 blocks home from the park in broad daylight with his mom actually following not far behind. They said they used to volunteer with CPS (?! CPS has volunteers?) and it was dangerous. I said they definitely appeared to FRIGHTEN my son - two strangers in a car trying to stop and talk to him! I told them they they'd have been better off LEAVING HIM ALONE. He was like 6 / 7 yo for goodness' sake and our neighborhood, while in a city, was quiet and centered around said Park.

    The world has gone nuts, Crunchynerd, I agree. My parents weren't lax, but me and the neighborhood kids roamed our area for hours and no adult ever stopped to ask us anything - even when I was walking home alone from my friends' houses on the other side of our neighborhood - at 6, 7, 8 yo.
    The worst of it is that although I'd be happy to let my kid play in our neighborhood / walk or ride his bike to the park - there's no one else for him to do it with and he doesn't even want to, it'd be boring. Sigh.

  8. #57

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    Quote Originally Posted by alexsmom View Post
    Adding Meteorite Strike to list of unlikely events. Although if it hits the house, hed probably be thrilled. Has any American ever been killed by a meteorite?
    Thanks!
    This is pretty hysterical and the timing is a tad spooky...I'm just now getting around to playing catch up on the SHS site and am just now seeing your post, AM.

    Truthful story: DH and I were both wide awake at 4:30am-ish this morning and started talking (cause we're in our 50's...that's what we do now - talk). Longgg story short, he started telling me a story about when he drove courier for a company in central NY. His route took him from Albany to Rochester between midnight and 8am every weekday. One night, just outside of Syracuse at about 3am, he said he heard this loud BAM noise as something hit the van. He pulled over and looked all around the van, but couldn't find anything. Three days later, he was standing on the loading dock at the bank where he was making a delivery, talking to the bank employee, when he noticed something on top of the van. He had to climb on top to get a closer look because something was about 3' from the driver's seat area. Looking at the spot, he could see something that looked like a rock embedded in the metal of the van and, around the object, the metal was melted and the paint was blistered. Whatever this thing was, it was hot when it hit the van. DH is convinced it was a meteorite and that it missed him by 3'.

    As for bogeymen, we have a registered sex offender (I found it on the state database a few years ago) at the top of our block and a ridiculous number within a 2 mile radius of the house. We live in a tepid neighborhood where, I'm fairly sure, there's more than one person doing illegal stuff on a daily basis. We're paranoid, but it's for a reason.

    On the topic of concerned citizens, we had someone call the BoE a couple of years ago because they noticed DD playing in our yard during school hours. They reported us for truancy. Ahem. Instead of simply checking with us to see what was up, they assumed DD was playing hooky and we were letting her. And, instead of the BoE checking their own records, they sent someone out to check out the situation. I tried not to get annoyed, though, because there are a lot of kids that skip school around here and the parents really don't care. It would just be nice if CC's would dig a little deeper before throwing up an alarm.

    I've left DD alone a couple of more times and we've all survived. Short stints, but still a bit tense for me. I also started discussing the alone thing with DH in the wee hours this morning. He's been forced to only take night and online courses at the college since starting his degree. He's 11hr from being done and none of the classes he needs are at night...they're just day side. I've told him to consider taking a morning class or afternoon class next term. DD would only be alone 1.5hr or so if he did it. OTOH, I've told him that I want an alarm system for the house if we're going to leave her alone for more than 2hr. I trust girl. It's the rest of the world that sucks. I want something that will trigger a call to the police station IF a door is opened. I would also want a third phone/land line for her. Right now, one of us leaves our phone with her when we go somewhere without her. This alone stuff could get expensive.
    Carolyn
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    Just found out about this and thought I'd post it here:


    A landline is a good thing, imho, if leaving kids home alone, especially. Quicker route to EMS and faster to trace/send help if there is an (highly unlikely!) emergency. I recently re-negotiated our cable bill (we have phone/internet/TV through a cable company) and they had an "emergency phone line" option - able to receive calls - free. Able to call out free for 30 minutes a month and of course any 911 call is free. Way less expensive than a regular phone plan. Just posting this possibility in case anyone else was nervous about relying only on cell phones with a kid/s home by themselves.

  10. #59

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    When princess E went to kindergarten my oldest was nine and she'd stay home (she was homeschool) by herself for about a half hour.
    My thirteen year old doesn't babysit her sister they'd probably kill each other or I'd get a phone call every five minutes telling me that one or the other is chewing too loud or dated or something annoying! I do let my oldest stay home if she wants to if I have to run to the store but she does not like staying home by herself and always tries to convince her sister to stay but then they both end up coming with me! I think it's different for each kid. I don't think I'd let princess E stay home by herself and she'll be ten in a few weeks but like I said before my oldest was nine when I let her stay home, they are complete opposite in personality and everything else about them

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