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    Hi All! I'm preparing to start homeschooling my (currently 3rd grade) daughter at the end of this school year. She is in a negative feedback loop in public school because she has dyslexia, APD and ADD. The services and school schedule just aren't cutting it and I find myself working with her after school until she's exhausted to make up what she misses in class because she can't hear, read the content, or sustain attention. It isn't fair to her in the least so we are taking the plunge.

    I'm more than a little terrified about choosing a math curriculum because it's not my strong suit. I've considered trying to maintain the eureka math program she currently gets at school to keep pace with her peers but I'm not overly fond of it. So far my plan is to have her try several placement tests for various curriculum and see which she prefers.

    I plan on focusing most of our time in the beginning on dyslexia programs. Trying to keep her up with a full curriculum when she can't effectively or fluently read hasn't worked in her favor this far. I'm going in a different direction and intensively addressing the dyslexia with both remediating programs and supportive technology lessons so hopefully she can access everything else better going forward.

    But just to reiterate, I'm definitely terrified.

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    Welcome! Dont Panic! and relax.

    Youre probably worrying too much about math.... if you cant do 3rd grade math, then the review of you two learning it together will be great for both of you!

    One thing to keep in mind is to not try recreating school at home. Youre both in an entirely different environment, and there is no advantage to pretending to recreate the institution that isnt serving her needs. She isnt learning anything there, and she is miserable, and you both are stressed. Starting out homeschooling gently so you can both learn what youre doing is going to be an improvement because even when youre not cranking through piles of worksheets, at least the stress and misery will be alleviated. Plus, you can always justify it that youre learning how to homeschool now, and can make up the time in the summer.
    You will probably find, though, that work gets done way faster at home.

    Trying different math placement tests to see which BOTH of you prefer is a good idea. Dont be lured into something expensive and flashy, though! There are plenty of inexpensive programs out there, and arithmetic hasnt changed much in the last 900 years. Errrr... or since 0 came to us, maybe that was only a few hundred years ago.

    Focusing on her reading skills seems like a good idea. You can “work in” general science and social studies by watching documentaries that interest her... there doesnt have to be reading involved. You can also scaffold her writing by doing the physical writing (or typing) for her. The BraveWriter “Jot it Down” program is geared to pre-writing kids, but you can easily adapt its philosophy to working with her. She (Julie, the BraveWriter lady) also has blog posts and podcasts with her gentle philosophy which might be useful for your situation.

    Ask here when you need help, or are looking for resources. There are a zillion out there, and the ones who pay google the advertising bucks arent necessarily the best value.

    Good luck!
    Homeschooling DS13, DS6.


    My spelling was fine, then my brain left me.

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    Wow. Thank you so much. This is the level headed feedback I really need right now!

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    Just relax and take it slowly! You dont have to rush and have everything set up from the get-go. The more you try planning everything out, the more money youre likely to waste and frustration you will have.

    One thing Ive learned from my younger son who has fine motor issues is that I only ask for the skills he has trouble with when we are specifically working on those skills. He only writes when we are specifically working on letter formation; when he was learning to read, he was only asked to read when we were having a phonics lesson. In public school, the teacher cant sit with your kid and write out answers for her, but at home you can.
    Adequate sleep and breakfast should not be a problem anymore, but keep in mind that there will be good days and bad days (I know dyslexia affects my mother in law way more when she is tired). Trust your instinct to know when shes not able to finish a lesson because her brain isnt cooperating rather than just that you feel she isnt interested.

    Youre not going to mess her up, or stunt her academic career. Working one on one with you she will have attention, some of the “lack of attention” issues should become irrelevant. (Youre not going to be asking her to work independently alone for a half hour.) You can also scour the internet for tips from specialist therapists on how to get the best from her.

    You got this!
    Homeschooling DS13, DS6.


    My spelling was fine, then my brain left me.

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    I can't believe I'm doing this!
    Welcome to the group!

    Second for what AM said.

    I'd recommend taking some time to de-school, just be and get into the routine of being at home.

    My DD has ADD. You'll be so glad you brought her home! I feel like at home we have been able to work with her ADD and give her coping skills that will serve her in the future vs. trying to make her, a square peg fit into the round hole of brick and mortar schools. One thing that helps her is her busy box. She keeps it full of things to fidget with while she works. We try have lots of different textures in there for her (the stuff in the tin is putty). It's looking a bit shabby now since it is the end of semester, we need to restock. Anyway if you don't have one already, it might be a fun welcome to homeschool activity.


    Good luck!
    DS 14, DD 12
    Year 8

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    Welcome! I am new to the forum and to homeschooling as well and was and still am to a degree feeling the same way you are, a bit terrified! I totally agree with everyone that your curriculum and flow of your homeschool days will fall into place. It took me a solid 3-6 months of researching to feel like I had a grasp of what I wanted to do, I considered online school versus various curriculums, and there are so many choices! I now have a plan in place, but am also giving myself free rein to change and adapt things, and I already know a couple changes that I will be implementing for next year. We are using Bravewriter and so far we both really like it, my dd is in 6th grade, the books are engaging and questions and writing copywork is not overwhelming but is thought provoking.
    Our journey to homeschooling has been over the last year, my daughter is academically gifted and has ADD, she was utterly miserable at the public school she was at last year, we ended up sending her to a private school in the spring and then for this fall semester of 6th grade. The private school was much better in some aspects, but they moved extremely slow in their curriculum and she was not learning a single thing that was new to her, so I have decided to take the plunge and homeschool. I am amazed at how much her ADD is not an issue while homeschooling. I lay out all of her work she needs to have done for the day and she has been amazingly good at managing her time. Her mental health is so much better, and I have found a co op class for her to take once a week and she has a friend that homeschools as well and she goes to her house the day I work, so socially things have come into place as well.
    I am feeling much more confident as things are going along, I also know that I am doing the right thing for my dd. Best of luck to you, sounds like you have a great plan in place already!

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    Thanks everyone! I appreciate the sage advice.

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