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    Hello from Virginia. I'm brand new to the idea of homeschooling. My 12 year old daughter is in 7th grade and is really miserable at her middle school. She is a good student, but is suffering with anxiety due to the environment at her school. I'm here for insight and help. I think I want to go with an all inclusive curriculum to start. Any help and encouragement is greatly appreciated.

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    Welcome and hugs!
    Im sorry to hear your DD is miserable. Getting her out of the toxic environment shes finding herself in is important! (And a good life lesson that she is never trapped in a situation, even if it means going against the current.)
    I know the first reflex may be to immerse her in a full academic homeschooling school-at-home type of thing, but you will all be happier (and more successful) if you take it a little bit slower. You can rationalize to yourself that you can always make up time you “waste” now, next summer. She will forget neither her multiplication tables nor that George Washington was our first president if you take some time to let her anxiety settle.
    (As a note, all-in-one curriculums are notoriously expensive AND bad, they prey on refugee homeschoolers like you.)
    Visit museums, let her work on a hobby if she has one. Teach her how to tend the house. The first period of refugee-ing is generally called “deschooling”, but I think should be framed more productively. Its not letting your kid veg out on youtube and video games all day. Its engaging with her to rebuild her confidence, and give you both opportunities to bond and figure out how youre going to interact as a homeschooling unit. (At her age, its closer to mentor than teacher.)
    I suggest you start brainstorming with her how she would like to approach her favorite subject. Does she love using textbooks? Prefer reading novels? Is she a hands-on kind of person? Does she learn best by watching documentaries and youtube videos?
    When you have a plan for the one subject, try it out for a couple weeks, and reassess. Is it miserable for either one of you? Adjust as needed. You both have a lot to learn! If its going well, add another subject in.
    Finding and pacing curriculum isnt that difficult. Most of it is broken into sections, you can do one (or more) sections per session.
    Farrar Williams wrote a book for homeschooling this age - I havent read it but shes always given sensible, practical advice. Ooooh, and I think she lives nearby you!

    Investing in a book about homeschooling is probably a better idea than rushing out to buy curriculum at this point.

    Ask specific questions you have. If youre looking for curriculum advice, tell us more about your daughter and her preferences.
    Homeschooling DS13, DS6.


    My spelling was fine, then my brain left me.

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