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    Hi my name is Chelsie, I have a 6 year old daughter and a 5 year old son. I am 28 years old,I've been married to my high school sweetheart for 10 years, he retired from the Army in 2013 not long after our daughter was born. I was born and raised in Iowa and have lived here the majority of my life.

    My 6 year old daughter is developmentally delayed, she falls more in line (still below average) with 4 year olds. this year she's enrolled in an amazing preschool program with her brother and is flourishing. That being said starting in the fall her dad and I have arranged for speech and OT to come to our home and work with her one on one. Despite her delays Irelynd loves art, in fact she uses art to express and communicate. She is extremely smart is the areas she isn't delayed in so that's all working in her favor..

    My 5 year old son, he's witty, honestly sometimes I forget he's 5 because you can converse with him with the same level of comprehension as a 12-14 year old. He's extremely intelligent. But he's sloppy, doesn't really like a lot of book work. He wants to go and explore the world, he has to touch everything. He's definitely the how? and why?

    There is my challenge, they are both ready for kindergarten in the fall but how do I find the happy medium here..

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    How is your DS “sloppy”? Do you mean careless with his work, or as in his letters arent written neatly? (If its the latter, mooch some advice from your OT!)

    I would suggest using something like BYL (BuildYourLibrary) for both of them together, and use additional resources as needed to keep your son engaged. Their Kindergarten program is a voyage around the world, with a list of recipes, activities, and picture books that you can choose to use. (I used it as a reference of materials for each continent.... and used it with my K (who also does Speech and OT), and my 6th grader (we used age appropriate novels and he learned country names for each continent and maps).)

    I also had a hard time finding a reading / phonics program for my youngest. Most programs want talking or writing, both of which are severely challenging for my boy. (I also scribe everything for him, except for his daily writing practice.)
    You may end up using two different programs for their reading, as inconvenient as that is. I dont like the program I am using for my youngest, and I wouldnt recommend it to anyone who has a kid that can do a mainstream one. (We are using Ticket to Read, its computer-based, so he only has to click on the answer. It is somewhat arbitrary, and buggy, and doesnt follow the general sequence that the half dozen main reading programs use.)

    Ask if you have questions for figuring things out, we all remember what its like starting out!
    Homeschooling DS13, DS6.


    My spelling was fine, then my brain left me.

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    My son is "sloppy" in the sense that he's got better things to do and worksheets bore him. So he just scribbles down enough to get by and he's off to the next activity. So most of his learning has honestly been just him and I playing around outside, or on road trips. I know that he's smart because he can count by 2's, understands that 1, 100,1000 and 2,200,2000 are the same just added place value, he can also count 3,5,7,9,11,13,15,17,19,21 and all the way to 100. He's a little impatient with letters but grasps sight words, he can't be bothered to do anything close to letter sounds so I point them out in music. HE LOVES MUSIC and he LOVES to sing. I want them to learn together but I also realize they are very different children and will likely use two different curriculums/approaches to teaching them. Its just really overwhelming at the moment, I don't know where to start. I did homeschool them for pre-k 1 until school started in the fall, but the local program is amazing and its allowed me to cram all my nursing pre requisites in 2 semesters and the summer.

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    Welcome. I am really just posting to say I know another Irelynd that is the daughter of a good friend we miss in the USA, so your post made me smile.
    New Zealand-based freelance science copyeditor. Homeschooling DD 11 (year 7) and DD 6 (year 2).

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    Welcome Momlife!

    My daughter and son are also a year apart in age and were at different stages in their learning. What worked for us at that age was to "do" language arts and math separately, but science, social studies, art, etc were done together. Even the approach for the topics they did together was very flexible. No texts or worksheets. We used lot of books from the library, documentaries, kitchen science, field trips.

    Even in high school, there was usually at least one course a year they did together--US government, chemistry, personal finance, health.

    Also, the longer you homeschool, the better you will get figuring out what works for each one.

    Where in Iowa are you? My daughter is a senior at U of Iowa and loves it there so much she's hoping to find a job there and stay.

    Homeschooled two kids for 11 years, now trying to pay it forward

    Daughter -- a University of Iowa graduate: BA in English with Creative Writing, BA in Journalism, and a minor in Gender, Women & Sexuality Studies

    Son -- a Purdue University senior majoring in Computer Science, minoring in math, geology, anthropology, and history

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