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    Sometimes the husbands aren't the dads and the dads aren't husbands. Well, you know what I mean.

    We talk a lot about curricula and planning and days, and whether or not a spouse is on board. BUT, we don't talk a lot about the relationships that started the homeschooling.

    Sorry for the dudes here, Mark? sorry dude. I apologize right up front.

    But here goes.

    Some of you have men who've gone but the children from the union are still with you. Because I am curious about experiences and what other people do, in all facets of their homeschooling/unschooling lives. I am writing this post to give us all an opportunity to either complain about or sing the praises of the men who made it all possible, in one way or another.

    Happy Birthday to my hubs, Lucien!!

    My man is a nutty-cuckoo, handsome devil whose birthday is tomorrow. When I met him he was punk rock, but then I realized that he was really 80's new wave. He supports our homeschooling all the time, but especially when I want to ship them off to school and get a job.

    He rarely lets me speak about which math/science/phonics/etc program I would like, but has listened to endless conversations that begin with... In co-op..... or On SHS....

    Once in awhile, he'll "teach" a lesson, but can't really stand to do it with any regularity. For the most part he focuses on teaching the girls how to cook. Thank Gad, because heaven knows I can't cook.

    He loves us with all his heart but has limitations that make him difficult to live with at (most) times. We have an unusual relationship, as my dad put it, it's either comedy central or WWE! Mostly WWE. I like to think we stay together because of the children, but it might actually be because we like each other.

    Every time I've come to him with a crazy idea, he's supported it. Hey let's have a home birth, hey, let's leave this town and travel, hey lets open a restaurant, hey, let's go on the road with our own brand of homeschooling!

    Somehow he understands that it is all worth it. Currently he's planning for economic crisis and what life will be like after the revolution or what he calls Economic Evolution.

    And to extend this conversation please join the group Boring People Who Hate Debate where there is a question that might be related to this thread.

    Pls, if you'd like to hear more encourage me to write the blog, Lakshmi & Lucien 24/7. Still undecided as to whether or not a warts and all blog would be interesting to anyone.
    ps, MOTH is man of the house and for some reason I find this riotously funny.

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    I'll listen, OK ? Seriously, this isn't a go there topic for me, although I will say my d-not-h has brownie points for being willing to go with homeschooling despite serious pressure from my IL's, is an awesome novelist and writing lecturer and is very good at keeping me in chocolate.

    Eta I bit on the boring people thread Happy birthday to your Lucien.
    Last edited by Stella M; 09-11-2011 at 12:05 AM.

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    LOL - well, happy birthday to your Lucien!


    OK, well, my first husband is my son's dad. He's always been supportive of homeschooling and everything else I have chosen to do. However, when we divorced, he totally flailed and failed (simultaneously) on getting things done. It was so annoying! He knew that he needed a full-time nanny for our son, and that he couldn't manage 12 hour work days, plus homeschooling. Honestly, he should have sent our son to me while he was getting settled.

    Well, now he's settled and there's a nanny for the 4 to 8 months a year our son is there.

    As for my new husband... I'm finally in the relationship that I always wanted. I'm not merely content, I'm happy. He's not the kind of guy who worries about his image as a member of the military. He wants me to be who I am.

    When it comes to homeschooling, he doesn't quite "get it", but he's had a chance to see it in action and that it works. So he's becoming more and more supportive of the idea. In fact, he can't wait to teach my son how to work on cars and use power tools. ^.^
    Mumsy to Gavin (13-year-old artsy boy) and Rowan (3-year-old disco queen)

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