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    Well, dd is graduating in May. She's still going to be pretty busy afterwards.Working, CAP, GS, maybe a class at the college. These are things she has discussed, and I am very happy she has even thought about them. She's young, it can change.

    What do us homeschooling parents do after our children have graduated? This is what has been on my mind for the last year! I think I touched on this a bit in another thread. The thing is, the closer to graduation we get, the more nervous I get.
    I would like to go back to work full time. But I am afraid my body wont be able to handle it. And I am also afraid of I stop walking dogs, is my body going to get worse? Then I went to the eye doc this afternoon for a reg check up and I was told I have optic disc edema. With my diabetes and lesions on my brain (ms?), this scares me.I don't know how serious this is? I don't know what the outcome is.
    I'm afraid my body is going to give on me, and now my eyes? So, do I want to travel? As I had originally planned. Do I want to stay and continue to work? Part time, which is what I would prefer now. I still have a dream of living in a small country house with a couple goats. I'm afraid it wont happen now.
    I have thought about a desk job. But my muscles will get tight, my blood sugar will rise as well as my BMI. Not good. I started volunteering at the state parks. This is great! I love it! I thought about applying for full time work, but I cant lift 50 lbs, never the less bend or get up from a squatting position. I thought about going back to waiting tables because it would keep my on my feet and active, but once again, lifting, bending and squatting. Ya. I thought about going back to school and getting either my math degree or wildlife biology or Veterinary degree. But, once again lifting, squatting and bending, and I don't want to teach. It does not appeal to me. And I don't want to be a dog walker for the rest of my life. I would like to do more. And now that my youngest is graduating, I am looking at my options and my options are looking pretty slim.
    I do have a couple of trips planned. I am definitely NOT going to pass these ones up. A lot of hiking and gambling! LOL! I love hiking! Gambling at the casino is a close second! LOL! Now, after today, I think I am going to plan a couple more.

    So I am looking into things that I could possibly do. What have some of you done? Do you have any ideas to throw out there?
    Bobo 13 yrs old - marches to the beat of her own drum, driven, out going and loud, yet she loves nature
    Booger Boy 21 yrs old - quiet, self assured, confident and laying his own path

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    I've been done officially homeschooling for almost 4 years now. In my situation, I continued to do more of what I had been doing (tutoring/teaching) but doing it more often. DH and I have traveled more, but not excessively so compared to when we traveled with the kids.

    I think it's great that you are thinking about your future plans. But I caution making changes overnight, especially with your health issues.

    If you have the option of not having to work full time, and you still like the part time dog walking, keep doing it. Loving volunteering at the state park? Keep doing it. But also keep your mind, eyes, and ears open to other opportunities out there. There may be things to do that you do not even realize exist yet.

    I know this doesn't give much specific advice. Even after four years, I sometimes feel like I'm still looking around for what to do next. But life is ever evolving.
    Carol

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    Son -- a Purdue University senior majoring in Computer Science, minoring in math, geology, anthropology, and history

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deli76 View Post
    I thought about going back to school and getting either my math degree or wildlife biology or Veterinary degree. But, once again lifting, squatting and bending, and I don't want to teach. It does not appeal to me.
    If you are serious about these majors, go talk to advisors at a local university about your employment options with these degrees. There may be jobs in these fields that don't involve the physical aspects that limit you. If you don't get anywhere with advisors, seek out professors.
    Carol

    Homeschooled two kids for 11 years, now trying to pay it forward


    Daughter -- a University of Iowa graduate: BA in English with Creative Writing, BA in Journalism, and a minor in Gender, Women & Sexuality Studies

    Son -- a Purdue University senior majoring in Computer Science, minoring in math, geology, anthropology, and history

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    You are facing different issues. One is what to do with yourself now that homeschooling is over. This is a real issue. Both of mine have just left and I was lost. So lost. But it gets better. I made a commitment to re-engage with my community. But it was hard.

    The second issue though is much more pressing and that is your health. The dog walking will get you outside and keep you healthy. Maybe there are walking groups in your area? Social engagement will lead to connections and from there information on part time jobs possibly.
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    Im with Lostrin in the taking some time to focus on yourself and your health, especially if there is no crisis for added income. Improving your body will set you up for the rest of your life.
    Unless your doctors advise against it, why not start exercises to help strength and flexibility? (Walking and hiking around is probably sufficient cardio.)
    I lost a ton of weight last year deciding to prioritize that, and I feel better, am eating healthier, and seemingly unrelated health issues have cleared up. (I now feel more comfortable, able to try exercises I wouldve felt miserable or ridiculous trying a year ago.... bear walk and crab walk, looking at you!) Biggest things I learned about weight loss: 1) eating healthy does not make weight come off, and 2) cant outrun your mouth (exercise doesnt make weight come off). Accepting those beat my biggest complaints “I eat right but am not losing weight”, and “I added more exercise, and am not losing weight”.
    Go kill that BMI!

    Spend some time taking care of yourself!
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    So the things I noted that I would think about more if it was me:
    — You said you would like to go back to work full time. Perhaps think about why you would like to and if you can fulfill what full time work would give you in another way with part-time work + something else (volunteering or a hobby).
    — You said you had a dream of living in the country with some goats but don't think it will happen. What are the parts of that experience that you would really like and can you get them some other way? For example, do you want to spend time with farm animals = can you volunteer or work at a rescue somewhere? Do want to work on the land/grow stuff = is there a community garden you can help out at? Do want to just hang out in the country = can you look into doing house and animal sitting for people who own land and want to go on vacation? You already have your dog walking skills. Could you take a certificate or diploma (less time and $ than a full on degree) in some sort of rural animal care, and then make that your job going round and house/animal sitting on small farms/lifestyle blocks? That might help fulfill both your vet/wildlife biology and country/goat ideas/dreams. I know in NZ anyway that people who own land are often very tied to it and its a struggle to find someone to look after their house and animals when they want to go on vacation.

    I understand health is a struggle and that might get in the way of fitness and strength, but my best advice is just to fit in as much as you possibly can. Don't do a desk/sitting job, walk, add in some light weight training, flexibility, but don't let aging + health issues stop you. Even when it hurts because of aging joints and is exhausting, the medical advice is to still keep moving because it does so many positive things for your body and health even if you cannot feel the effects of that.
    New Zealand-based freelance science copyeditor. Homeschooling DD 11 (year 7) and DD 6 (year 2).

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    Thank You all very much.

    I have decided to bite the bullet and get a personal trainer. I will be working with the trainer until September. Hopefully I can work on strengthening my muscles. My muscles are just so week. If I go back to work, full or part time, I will need to lift 50 lbs. Either way it needs to be done. The walking only does so much.
    As for going back to college, I think it is really going to depend on the job outlook. We'll see.
    So for now, we will concentrate on getting dd graduated and my health. We are very proud of her!!!
    Thank You!
    Bobo 13 yrs old - marches to the beat of her own drum, driven, out going and loud, yet she loves nature
    Booger Boy 21 yrs old - quiet, self assured, confident and laying his own path

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    Deli, I think you'll feel better both physically and mentally. I never really exercised until I was in my very late 30s. As we get older, especially as women, we really need to make sure we keep some level of strength, flexibility, and balance. As one who can sometimes trip on flat ground, falls are already starting to scare me. (See posts back from Labor day when I broke a rib tripping and falling on a root!).

    So while you're tackling your health in view of full time work, it will help you in all aspects of your life. Good for you for focusing on yourself!
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    Daughter -- a University of Iowa graduate: BA in English with Creative Writing, BA in Journalism, and a minor in Gender, Women & Sexuality Studies

    Son -- a Purdue University senior majoring in Computer Science, minoring in math, geology, anthropology, and history

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