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    We are thinking of homeschooling my daughter (age 11) for her middle school. My daughter herself initiated the idea of homeschool. Any feedback from parents how to make her transition to homeschool easy.

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    Senior Member Arrived dbmamaz's Avatar
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    If you have a motivated daughter, the biggest thing is to work with her! It all depends on why she wants to homeschool. If she just wants to get away from the social problems, you could look in to a virtual academy like k12, or even see if your state has free ones.

    If she has specific interests, let her explore a lot on her own. the library is a great resource!

    what are your and her biggest concerns?
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    Yes, follow her interests. Maybe let her choose which science or SS she is interested in learning about. I found my son is a lot more receptive to learning if he gets to pick what he learns about. This has been our first year of HS (he is in 8th grade) and the transition from PS was a lot easier than I thought it would be. He loves that his school time is flexible, he gets to sleep in, and he has more time for doing things he is interested in.
    Homeschooling DS16, DS12, and DS11

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    I'd suggest not only to let her pick her interests, but also try to find out what she didn't like about the way school went before. (I mean, within reason!) For example, maybe she didn't like how boring math was (find a more engaging math course), or didn't like switching subjects so often during the day (set up your schedule accordingly, maybe even focus on one or two subjects per day, but cover more ground).

    If you can be any more specific about what she wants, and of course what you think is appropriate and workable, it might help, so that we can give you some better ideas.

    Mom to one, 18 year old son.

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    I am in the same position. I will be homeschooling my 11 year old for the 3 middle school years. She plans to attend the public high school because she plans to be a cheerleader and wants to be involved. Because of that, we plan on sticking to a more structured style and trying to make sure she will have a good foundation for entering high school. I am looking at the Oak Meadow for History and Science as a spine and working from there. She really likes the Teaching Textbooks for math, so we will start with that. Our state has a convention coming up in June that we plan to attend and I hope to get my hands on some of the curriculum materials to really check them out in person.
    Mom to Andy 14 and Elisabeth 11. No longer hs'ing.

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    Thank you, all for your replies. The reason she initiated the HS idea because she wanted to be involved in more activities. Currently, she swims, plays cello and does fencing. She wants to incorporate more art classes ( eg pottery) in her other activities. When she attended our public school middle school orientation, she came home and mentioned to me that the principal talked more about the beautiful building, recently constructed, but not what they were going to teach her in the school! To be honest, I was quite amazed that this would bother a 11 year old!!. So she mentioned she would like to try homeschooling.
    I did get the Saxon Math books and she likes them. So I am trying to think and plan the curriculum for her, and be in the same wave as the state, should she decide to go back to public school. Thank you again for all your constructive responses.

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    It's worth remembering something that few teachers will admit, but some are candid about: They don't expect kids to learn much of anything in middle school! The curriculum is designed so that if a kid sleeps through it for a few years, they'll still be able to transition into high school. Middle school years are all about social growth, and not necessarily positive social growth. So it's a great time to homeschool because your child won't get caught up in the horrible social stuff in middle school. But it's also a hard time to homeschool because she'll want to have social experiences, and may miss the intense interactions that school kids have at that age. If you have a homeschool coop or program she can take part in, that will help her not get isolated.

    Her inclination to do more creative stuff is excellent! My son is a programmer, and he can't imagine going back to school and losing all the free time he has to do his own work. Creative kids thrive in homeschool. The big issues that come up usually have to do with expectations and your relationship: Do you both understand what your role will be? Are you willing to let go of "school" expectations, and if not, is your daughter still willing to fulfill them? Does she have a plan to motivate herself to do the work she needs to do in order to earn the time for her creative pursuits? If you're not planning on jumping into unschooling, you'll have to figure out a way to balance things.

    I think the most important part of homeschooling in the teen years is making sure that you do clear goal-setting, and making sure that your teen understands that she's got to be self-motivated. Homeschooled teens can't just be told what to do like in school - it destroys the parent-child relationship. She needs to take responsibility for her learning and make sure that the consequences of not following through are ones that she imposes on herself.

    Good luck!
    Suki Wessling
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    We started homeschooling in December 2011 because our 5th grade daughter became so frustrated with the social issues that school wasn't any fun.
    After half a year of HS, we are loving it! There are definat issues, and some days we get frustrated with each other, but we are working really hard at it and building a great relationship. My daughter did cross country in school, so now we are working on running together, which give us lots of girl chat time.
    As for studies, homeschool really does give you the flexibility to choose there to focus. We started out with Saxon math, but she hated it, so we did a cut and paste method of her old school math program (we kept the workbooks) and Saxon, which worked well. She and I did research together and she picked a new math program that looks more interesting (she like colorful pages).

    So, good luck to you and your daughter!! Make it fun, and remember that with even a few hours a day and some special projects, she'll be getting more eduction at home than she would have at public middle school, and deal with less social issues.


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