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    My daughter is 13 and this coming year would be her first year of high school. She's asked to try public school for a few years and we decided to wait until high school and this summer we told her she could go (once we moved and knew where we were going to living). She is mostly wanting to go for the social side. She doesn't have very many friends and the few she has are all public schooled. She hears them talk about their friends and activities and teachers they love and teachers they hate and she just feels like it's something she will regret if she never tries.

    Then Covid happened.

    I truly despise the public system but we have always been proponents of self directed education and this is my daughter self directing. We wanted to honor her choice but it's a terrible time to go to school right now with the limitations and stress put on teachers and the social distancing and possible switch to online learning (that was miserable for most people I know that dealt with it). We looked into private school options as well but I would hate to pay private school costs just to have them shut down.

    After much discussion we have decided to continue homeschooling for now but she would like a more traditional curriculum (She's a type A personality that likes to check off boxes and have things structured for her) so I'm looking for direction. It would nice to find something that's online but engaging and has some textbook work (so not everything has to be done at the computer). Something with on-line teacher support. I've looked into Oak Meadow which seems to have good reviews. I haven't found anything else that doesn't have horrible reviews. She was using IXL to work over the summer to make sure she was ready to enter high school and she liked that format over Kahn Academy. Kahn is great but there is no real accountability there. She wants more structure and support than that.

    Does anybody have any recommendations for online high school options?

    We are also committed to finding some new social circles to hang with (which is easier said than done as secular homeschoolers in the bible belt of Georgia) to help with the feelings she has about the social side.

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    Welcome, and hugs about trying to honor her requests for self-directed learning! Its small comfort to be able to rationalize it, but there is still the disappointment. “It’s not just you, hon. Peoples weddings, once in a lifetime travel and vacations, even family plans for births, and people unable to make it to see loved ones before they passed away. We are lucky that it hasnt hurt us harder.” All so hard for a teen to understand!

    I dont know of any good online schools... and i suspect the market is going to be flooded with impossibly bad new ones sensing an opportunity. Maybe some online, established classes, not promising the whole kit n caboodle?

    Friends in the time of ‘corona seems challenging too. My DS14 has made some new “friends” who’ve come from his existing friends, and they chat and play online games together. I cant hazard whether that sort of thing is sufficient for girls, though. (If your daughter likes playing Minecraft, Roblox, and Pokemon, Im happy to connect you to their little group. You could even observe their chat interactions when you wish.)

    Good luck, its tough now!
    Homeschooling DS13, DS6.


    My spelling was fine, then my brain left me.

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    You may want to look into the American School. It started as correspondence, and some classes still are. But there are also online classes now. It is accredited, so the transition back to a public school might be easier.

    Homeschooled two kids for 11 years, now trying to pay it forward

    Daughter -- a University of Iowa graduate: BA in English with Creative Writing, BA in Journalism, and a minor in Gender, Women & Sexuality Studies

    Son -- a Purdue University graduate: BS in Computer Science, minor in math, geology, anthropology, and history

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    You could also look at Outschool - I've had friends use it an like it. We'll be trying a class for the first time this fall, so I can't speak to it personally.
    DS 15, DD 13
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    Thanks for the replies!

    alexsmom: Finding friends is tough. She's not interested in those things but I appreciate your invite for her to join! Once we get settled in to our new home I'm putting her social needs at the top of the priority list.

    inmom: I will check it out! Thanks!

    RTB: We've used Outschool and we have enjoyed a lot of the options offered! They have some really great classes. My oldest is wanting something with more of a set structure and a consistent community of people. My younger two will probably do some Outschool classes this year because the flexibility works really well for them.

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