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    Jilly
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    Default Anyone have any children going to school while homeschooling others?

    I have been homeschooling since my twins were four, and this is the first year I am just not that excited about it. My daughter decided to go to public school last year, and she loved it. She will be going back in the fall, and this has been hard on me, and I think it is affecting how I feel about homeschooling. I find it is hard to have one in school and two at home. It is like we are in two separate worlds, and I feel as though I am still adjusting to having my daughter at school everyday. I miss her!

    Even though I miss her, I see her growing more confident in herself and excelling in many different areas, and I wonder if her twin brother should be at school too. He does not want to go, and he is very happy being at home, but she has so many friends now that I feel a little sorry for him and his younger brother. The thing is her personality is very different from my sons, she is very out going and sociable, that I think even if my boys were in school they would not have the same experience as her.

    Anyone deal with this? Do you find it hard to homeschool some children and have others in school. I think I am failing miserably at adjusting to this.

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    I cannot relate, I only have one kid, but I wanted to say I think that you are doing a great job. You took their wishes and individual personalities into account and everyone is happy it sounds like! What more could a mom do?
    Brandi
    Alabama Gulf Coaster,
    Learning and loving life with DS 6 and hubby of 21 years

    DS is in public school, but we enrich and expand at home

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    I have 4 kids.. oldest is 11 and came home after 1st grade. The next 2 are 5 and 4, then we have a little guy. My oldest was home for 3 1/2 years, we don't get along well, and I have a hard time accepting the "no effort attitude" he has, so in Feb. I lost it! I put him back in public school. He is doing OK there, not great, but he passed 5th grade with decent grades. I would love to bring him home next year because I feel something is missing, I hate having the school district dictate our schedule of life (like we can no longer take vacation in March without getting someone esle's permission). I hate some of the things he has come home having learned from his peers. I have spent the past week planning a trial run for him to see if we could make homeschooling work for us again, but my hubby is pretty sure he wants him to stay in public school. His reason is so oldest has friends, but really he doesn't have friends there, I think his reason is so oldest and I aren't fighting all the time.

    I'm having a really hard time resigning myself to the fact that oldest probably won't be home next year, and feel like I may as well enroll my 5 yo in K and my 4yo in pre-k and be done with homeschooling all together. I KNOW it's not what is best for my kids, and I know it's not what is in my heart, but I too am having a hard time coming to grips with it... and my all or nothing personality is probably not helping me here..lol.

    I know I have rambled a lot here, but hopefully you will find some comfort in knowing you are not alone.
    Slightly crazy mama to 4 very crazy kids and devoted wife to a man who puts up with us all.
    DS1~15, PS,
    DD~9, DS2~8, DS3~5
    My blog: Mountain House Homeschool

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    Jilly
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    Quote Originally Posted by MamaB2C View Post
    I cannot relate, I only have one kid, but I wanted to say I think that you are doing a great job. You took their wishes and individual personalities into account and everyone is happy it sounds like! What more could a mom do?
    Thanks for the reply. It makes me feel better.

    Quote Originally Posted by crazymama View Post
    I'm having a really hard time resigning myself to the fact that oldest probably won't be home next year, and feel like I may as well enroll my 5 yo in K and my 4yo in pre-k and be done with homeschooling all together.
    This is exactly how I feel. I am glad I am not alone.

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    It's really funny that you posted this today, I am really struggling today, even have that anxiety attack feeling going on inside...lol. I spent the morning thinking of things to make a list of for my oldest to pick from as electives, trying to get creative with the resources I have, only to tell hubby about my agenda and him to sweetly pop my bubble with his "it's up to you, but I really feel he should stay in public school". I tell him every time he tells me that that it makes me feel like he doesn't think I can do it, or that he feels they need the "socialization" or what ever and I should just put them all in.. but then I get the "The littles (what we call the 5 and 4 year olds) have each other" speech.

    It's hard because I feel I should be planning for oldest, but at the same time I don't want to waste my time.

    Why is this parenting thing so difficult?
    Slightly crazy mama to 4 very crazy kids and devoted wife to a man who puts up with us all.
    DS1~15, PS,
    DD~9, DS2~8, DS3~5
    My blog: Mountain House Homeschool

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    Jilly
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    Quote Originally Posted by crazymama View Post
    It's really funny that you posted this today, I am really struggling today.

    It's hard because I feel I should be planning for oldest, but at the same time I don't want to waste my time.
    I am struggling today too. I am resigned that my daughter is going to school, and she is happy, so I am happy for her. I am struggling more with what to do with her twin brother. They are so close, and I think her going to school has been hard for him (and me). I feel like maybe I should just enroll him too, but I know that is not the right decision for him, and he does not want to go. I guess I am just mourning the fact that they are growing older and starting to do their own things separate from each other.

    I haven't even bought any curriculum for my oldest son for next year. I was going to put together our own history program, but I have not had any interest lately in planning for him. Maybe I should work on this, and then I will feel better about everything. I don't know. Today I just feel out of sorts.

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    You know, every time I think about the "I should just enroll the littles and be done", I think of how close they are. It would CRUSH the 4yo to send the 5yo out to school. He would be sooooo lost! They are a year and a day apart, and as close as two siblings could possibly be without being actual twins, so I know keeping them home and together is the best thing for them.. at least for now.

    I have stuff for my oldest if he comes home, mostly because if I see something at a good price I buy it..lol and I do have general plans for every year so planning would only take a few hours. With the dream of bringing him home I'm scrounging to see what I could pull together to make life different if he were here... more unschoolingish type things and what not.
    Slightly crazy mama to 4 very crazy kids and devoted wife to a man who puts up with us all.
    DS1~15, PS,
    DD~9, DS2~8, DS3~5
    My blog: Mountain House Homeschool

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    Would anyone have issue if I link this particular thread in my blog post in the am? I am doing a post about unifying ps families with hs families and I want to show that not all hs families are primarily hs but do have children in ps as well. I don't want to link it if anyone is uncomfy with "strange eyes" peering in on the convo though.
    Angela
    The Pagan Mom Blog

    Mom to Alex (5), Claire (8), and Molly (10).

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    Jilly
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    Quote Originally Posted by paganmomblog View Post
    Would anyone have issue if I link this particular thread in my blog post in the am? I am doing a post about unifying ps families with hs families and I want to show that not all hs families are primarily hs but do have children in ps as well. I don't want to link it if anyone is uncomfy with "strange eyes" peering in on the convo though.
    I wouldn't mind if you linked this. Thanks for asking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jilly View Post
    I wouldn't mind if you linked this. Thanks for asking.
    No problem! I am hoping to show how different homeschooling families are and how some still use the public school system. Thanks!
    Angela
    The Pagan Mom Blog

    Mom to Alex (5), Claire (8), and Molly (10).

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