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    Hi All,
    I'm curious about others' fears when they started homeschooling! I'm sure my fears are common but it'd be nice to know that others have had some of the same fears.

    So, if you're willing - please share your greatest fear(s) about HSing when you were just starting. And, if that fear was realized or vanished into thin air!

    My greatest fear is that I won't be able to keep up with my DD5's seemingly insatiable desire for more (knowledge/facts, crafts, time with me, etc). She's only 5 but my goodness does she want to learn! I'm just starting out so I'll have to wait a while to give you the update

    Thanks.

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    DS is a sponge and takes a lot of initiative regarding learning. He is barely 6 now, but I seriously worry that I won't be able to keep up or challenge him. Recently he started telling me about wormholes and time travel - I was totally lost.
    I used to be really smart, but I feel like preggo brain and momma brain haven't left much smarts in there. And to be learning about stuff with him that I didn't encounter until HS or college - it is overwhelming at times. I had no clue who Sargon was! I have no idea how wormholes work! He wants to learn Latin and Chinese and all I can speak is enough Spanish to ask for the bathroom and order off a menu....

    My biggest fears were (and still are to a degree) not being able to keep up/challenge him. Not being smart enough. And the dreaded socialization issue - which we solved when we found a FANTASTIC HS group in addition to his extra classes. Some days I worry that our more unschooly approach will affect his ability to "buckle down and get it done" but then I think that he is so focused and driven on his own. I tend to second guess myself - even though I am seeing amazing results....
    ~ Michelle
    Momma to one crazy fun, super silly, kind-hearted, high-spirited little boy. We've strayed far from the beaten path but are really enjoying our crazy off-roading approach to life and learning.

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    Biggest fear when we started (when dd was 8 and ds was 7): How will we homeschool high school? That fear sort of grew the last couple of years, but now that we're there, it seems doable. Having other hsing families who have done so locally to talk to also helps.
    Carol

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    Son -- a Purdue University graduate: BS in Computer Science, minor in math, geology, anthropology, and history

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    My first fear was can i possibly be organized enough to get it all done. My husbands first fear was that I would have a nervous breakdown from being w the kids all day long.

    My even bigger fear was that my twice exceptional child would end up as a failure and I would feel doubly guilty having been both his teacher and his mother . . . i actually started taking him to a therapist for a bit, because I was so nervous about not having the feedback of the 'professionals' in the specail ed program . . . but i have since learned that i am actually pretty good at figuring out what he needs, I think. I have a plan that he seems ok with, and it seems fine.

    and while i'm not getting as much done as SOME people are, we are getting things done and i'm keeping to a decent schedule.
    Cara, homeschooling one
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    That my kids would grow up and not have the tools they need to pursue their interests and support themselves (financially, physically and emotionally). With two kiddos out of the nest and doing just fine, some of the stress is gone but I still have this fear for B1. BOO will always land on his feet so all I have to do is enjoy his company.
    4 kids. 2 launched - Fabulous Daughter (FD) and Eldest Son (ES); 2 in the nest - Boy1 (B1) 11/14/98 & Boy Other One (BOO) 12/16/00

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    I guess I just had this general fear of being in over my head. That what I was doing was not-normal and therefore "wrong" and that I should just leave it up to the professionals...

    luckily this wasn't and overwhelming fear-but one that just kind of creeped up on me some of the time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by dbmamaz View Post
    My first fear was can i possibly be organized enough to get it all done. My husbands first fear was that I would have a nervous breakdown from being w the kids all day long.
    This pretty much sums it up for me.

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    I used to worry that no matter how much we worked, my kids would never be "up to grade level" and then I'd be run over by a train or eaten by a pitbull or something and then my kids would have to go back to public school and they'd have to be in the "Wrong Grade" and it would be all horrific.

    My eldest is doing his second year high school online with Keystone and getting good grades, so I guess he's "up to grade level". His sister is much more advanced than he was at her age, so I guess she's probably ok too.

    The thing is that I realize in retrospect that all this "up to grade level" stuff are fears that well-meaning, meddlesome friends and family put in my head. We don't have to homeschool to someone else's idea of "up to grade level". It will all be fine. My kids are certainly not behind their peers in any way. They're ahead and happy and it will all work out. It took me several years to get to that comfort zone, though!
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    Quote Originally Posted by dbmamaz View Post
    My even bigger fear was that my twice exceptional child would end up as a failure and I would feel doubly guilty having been both his teacher and his mother . . . i actually started taking him to a therapist for a bit, because I was so nervous about not having the feedback of the 'professionals' in the specail ed program . . . but i have since learned that i am actually pretty good at figuring out what he needs, I think. I have a plan that he seems ok with, and it seems fine.
    This is my fear for my son. I have to teach him social skills as well as educate him and some days I worry that I'm not doing enough about the former. Academically he's doing great (though it takes a lot of work on my part to help him focus), so any worries there have been put to rest.
    Mother of two monkeys...daughter age 10 and son age 11.5.

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    The government.

    Occasionally I get a bit nervous about homeschooling high school, but not so much. I'm much more scared of someone stopping me from homeschooling than from my screwing it up. I always assume I can't do any worse than the public schools.
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