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    Does your daughter give you reasons why she wants to homeschool? If the teacher truly thinks nothing is amiss, yet she is down and crying about going, then there is missing information.
    Honestly, I think youd be far better off working with the private school than going for a generic, annonymous online school. The teacher knows her, has ideas about what sort of work is appropriate for her, cares about her. If she just wants to be home, they may be more flexible about that. You dont need tutors and babysitters, but you do need to help build up her happiness.

    Get to the bottom of why she is miserable, why she wants to homeschool.
    Homeschooling DS13, DS6.


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    Getting to the bottom of why she wants to homeschool has been a challenge. We have seen two therapists and a neurologist. I thought maybe it was her ADD, but she is very high functioning and is able to complete her work without problems and is not overwhelmed by the work at her new school. I don't think she is bored now that the teacher has addressed the need to increase the level of her work.
    They did not think she had depression or social anxiety. She just had one of her friends over last night and they had a blast together, so she has no problems making friends.
    She is very introverted though, does not like big crowds or groups of people and I think that going to school with all of the talking and constant hustle and bustle just generally makes her unhappy. I really don't think there is much more to it than that. She is very much a homebody, even when we go on vacation to anywhere really she would prefer to be home. I am waiting to hear back on if they would let her go for two days a week and have her home doing work the other two days. I really think that would be the best compromise, although I am sure she still will not be completely happy with that. I think that is the only set up I feel comfortable with though at least until she is in 8th or 9th grade.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nic1 View Post
    She is very introverted though, does not like big crowds or groups of people and I think that going to school with all of the talking and constant hustle and bustle just generally makes her unhappy. I really don't think there is much more to it than that.
    This sounds similar to why my DD found school stressful. My DD is gifted with a low processing speed and is very inattentive (not sure if she has ADD, but we are looking at further assessments). She did perfectly well at school socially and academically but was distraught at home. Since she was younger than your DD (we pulled her out at 8 years old), she could not really understand or articulate at the time that it was school that made her so unhappy. But now she can, she remembers it as being busy and loud and hard to concentrate. She picked up on the distress of others even if she was never the one being told off by the teacher or being bullied. And she found it very difficult to concentrate and follow through all the instructions. She did it, and the teachers could see no problems with what she did, but for her it took a huge amount of energy and just wiped her out.

    I hope the school will allow you to have her home some days so you can see if that helps and works with your schedule.

    In class, do they do anything for her like allowing her to go to separate quiet work area if it is busy/loud or wearing noise cancelling headphones to block out the background noise?
    New Zealand-based. DD 11 (year 6 [NZ system]) homeschooled, and DD 6 (year 1 [NZ system]) who is currently trying out public school.

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