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    So this is our third year homeschooling. I have a second grader and 4/5 grader at home. My oldest is in 8th grade and has decided she wants to be homeschooled also. She’s very popular, makes straight A’s, participates in almost every sport, academic team, and symphonic band. She says she just doesn’t see the point of it all and feels like she’s not learning anything but how to cram for tests.

    For some reason I have massive anxiety. I know with the younger two we will naturally progress into a high school rhythm, but she is so far along in school I wasn’t prepared for this. I knew she’s been unhappy and stressed, but she always turned her nose up at homeschooling so this is so unexpected! I guess this is just a rant! Maybe some advice starting so late?

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    First of all, homeschooling high school CAN be done. It can be a bit trickier though, depending on where you live.

    In the meantime, there are many options for homeschooling high school. You can do an all-on-one online curriculum, but I think your daughter would feel that it's just more of the same, but without the social aspects and extracurricular activities of brick and mortar school.

    You can unschool, especially if she's self-motivated.

    Then there is a middle ground. You can "out-source" some topics through an online class, tutor, co-ops, or even community college. She can self study some topics using a good textbook as a guide. She can also design her own courses, with your guidance. Examples: (1) My daughter, with an eye toward a future English degree, designed a high school course for herself that covered women writers. (2) My son taught himself programming, first through the "Dummies" book series, then through forums online, followed by a low-key local internship working for a wi-fi providing company.

    My final advice is to sit down with her and find out all the reasons she wants to homeschool--both negative and positive. Then determine if she still really wants to try it. If so, ask her what she wants to learn, and how she wants to learn it. If she intends to go to college, she'll still have to jump through some "academic hoops" for admissions, usually 4 years of English, 3-4 years of math, 2-4 years of lab science (think community college!!), 2-3 years foreign language, etc. Again, though, HOW she learns them can be entirely different from what she would do in public school.

    I could keep going (transcripts, options, etc), but I don't want to overwhelm you. Find out if you are both ready for this first. If so, feel free to ask questions here. Many of us are or have homeschooled through high school. You can also look at the Middle School/High school forum here for ideas and topics.

    Homeschooled two kids for 11 years, now trying to pay it forward

    Daughter (22), a University of Iowa graduate: BA in English with Creative Writing, BA in Journalism, and a minor in Gender, Women & Sexuality Studies

    Son (21), a Purdue University senior majoring in Computer Science, minoring in math, geology, anthropology, and history

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    Only thing I wanted to add to inmom's post is that depending on where you live it is possible that she could still do sports and band, if she wants, through the school she goes to now but homeschool her academic subjects. Even if your state doesn't have a specific law allowing this, it wouldn't hurt to ask the school if this is something that would interest her. Some schools are willing to do it on a case by case basis even if the state doesn't require them to allow homeschoolers to participate.

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