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    as unmotivated as your kids???

    Ok, I guess my problem is, I have secret dreams of being an unschooler. I don't trust that enough to let go and instead head straight to curriculum type things. I don't really want to do them, I get bored when trying to do them with the kids (mostly just the Littles, Garrett is pretty good to go on his own for most things [though he doesn't put much effort into things]). I begin to yawn, I struggle through one subject a day with them and I am spent, then I sit there feeling guilty and think I'm not cut out for all this.

    I can see them learning by leaps and bounds if I just let them do things only a "horrible mommy" would... watch TV all day, play video games, run wild outside. And really I prefer to see them learning ummmm naturally(???), and they seem to retain things better that way. I try to make things more unschoolish and again begin to panic that I need to make sure they are doing this and that, covering this and that, etc.

    It's almost a double edged sword living in a restrictive state... I hate that I have to show proof of our homeschooling to the district, but at the same time I am afraid at how lazy I would be if I lived somewhere with little or no homeschool laws.

    Gah.. I'm sure all this sounds like a bunch of scatterbrained ramble, but my brain just won't focus on one thing this morning..lol.
    Last edited by crazymama; 06-01-2011 at 12:43 PM.
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    When I start to get unmotivated it usually is a reflection on my child's motivation (when she is eager, I usually am too!) and that is a sign for us to just unschool for a period of time (a few days, a few weeks, a month?) I, like you, really love the idea of unschooling but I can't manage to *only* unschool. So we have curriculum for the basics that we follow, and unschool when we feel like it. I find my daughter learns wildly during unschooling AND when we get back to the curriculum.
    Kate, in love with Shane, mom to Emma (7/6/06) and Jacqueline (12/5/08)

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    Remember, unschooling doesnt have to be radical unschooling. Read math story books or do puzzles and number games and call it math. Read books to them and call it english. Find some fun, messy science experiments - like the old baking-soda-and-vinegar in the sink - and call it science. There is a world of options between curriculum and video games
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    I find different things to do for a day or so when my motivation or my kids' motivation seems to drop. Some days are better than others. The kids know they have to finish the curriculum I've set out by the end of the year, but I try to be flexible and find enjoyable but educational things to do on those bad days.
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    Homeschooling or unschooling is not all about a set schedule of what to do and when to do it. It should be a more relaxed learning place so the children can stay motivated and interested in what they are learning. Sometimes I get way to caught up in the curriculum and find if I am bored or having issues most likely the children are too. Mix it up with some fun activities, playing outside or at the park or cooking in the kitchen while all fun are also very much good learning areas for the children. Mom don't be so hard on yourself, they will get everything they need and more in their own time!
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    What is horrible is as I was planning this year. esp. for the oldest, I was all about finding things that were fun, and as we started I went into panic mode and pulled out "the books".. we went from my plans of just watching things on DVD for science to using the Prentice Hall Science Explorer books I have.. I even went and bought the DVD labs and the DVD "field trips" (or what ever that other one is called) and the school zone lab cd-rom to go with it. I have stuck with the keeping PA history fun for his interests, and am still tweeking his language arts to make it more livable for both of us (we started out with Caught'Ya Grammar, which is awesome, but I'm lacking horribley in my own grammar skills and it made it a ton of work for me to keep up with the hows and whys of it and are now back to Writing Strands and I have found and added in Hot Fudge Monday.. which is super fun so far )

    For the littles.. well I think my problem was I was trying to keep Reagan (4yo) up with Rylee (5yo).. and well not only is he a year younger, he is a boy and I'm learning quickly, girls are usually ready for "school" at a much younger age. I'm going to drop Reagan.. let him go back to doing what ever his heart desires in his old preschool workbook (right or not I don't care) and playing, and Rylee thrives on workbook type things.. so I will keep the McRuffy (tweeking it where I want of course) because it is pretty fun in her eyes.
    Last edited by crazymama; 06-01-2011 at 12:42 PM.
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    When we feel unmotivated we chill out and take a personal day...I can mark us in attendance and then we do what we want. I'm not going to destroy our day so some bureaucrat can make sure they feel entitled to that pat on the back.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jennifer Gray View Post
    When we feel unmotivated we chill out and take a personal day...I can mark us in attendance and then we do what we want. I'm not going to destroy our day so some bureaucrat can make sure they feel entitled to that pat on the back.
    Here Here!! Love it and I so agree with you on that.
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    I use the workbooks to very efficiently cover language arts and math, and leave science, social studies, PE/health and fine arts more open to be covered in less planned/structured ways. I've found that we cover those subjects more when I don't try to schedule them very much.
    DS1 14 in 9th, DS2 12 in 6th
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    I know exactly what you mean. It is so good to know that there are so many different types out there. I just started this week and still have two in school. I want to take them out but mostly because it's a pain in the arse for me. I am getting proggressively worse (or better) at being late and letting them stay home. I don't have a real plan and I feel like I must need some "definitive" in doing this. So far we have done reading for black history month, started journaling, and watched a couple of documentaries. But more than that we have hung out in a non-rushed, non-stressed kind of way. Structure stressed me out and that's all there is with "real" school.
    Any way, thanks for sharing and being honest. It's always nice to know you are not the only one.

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