View Full Version : What's the goal?

05-19-2012, 03:28 AM
Our local newspaper today was gushing their love for the public school about how it's getting the youth ready for the workforce or college. I had to stop once again and think about trying to get my head around a catchy line for my goal. I don't want to get my child "ready for the workforce'. That sounds like some socialist plot. I don't know that college ready is right either, because even that sounds like a nice way of saying, 'getting them ready for the workforce that pays a little more'. My goal is teach him to think for himself, to question what is presented as fact if it doesn't ring true, to make his own world so fascinating that what he creates for himself leads to a better world for others. I don't have a catchy phrase for it yet, although I know there must be one. I was just wondering if anyone here has been able to summarize their goal of what they hope to have their child obtain from all the effort you put into homeschooling.

Mud Hut Mama
05-19-2012, 05:22 AM
I'm just starting out. Literally just completed our second week of preschool homeschool but I've been thinking about this a lot. The best way I can articulate my goal is that I want to guide my children along a path of learning that will ultimately lead to articulate, well-informed, free-thinking adults with the desire and capability to make a positive contribution to this world. Very interested to hear the other responses.

05-19-2012, 08:04 AM
I agree with to think for themselves as being primary. To enjoy learning. Also to have enough basic skills to build upon to find success in a career of their choosing.

05-19-2012, 11:50 AM
Critical thinking. My first impression when I read the post was that I do want to get them ready for the workforce, but that learning those skills needed for that would hardly need ps through age 18 to accomplish! Like Farrar said, I want my kids to get a good grounding in the basics, then to be effective in pursuing their own interests & career goals.

05-19-2012, 12:18 PM
When I started homeschooling, I was reading about how important it is to write down your goals for educating your kids. I found it was a real struggle - the only reason I was homeschooling was because they couldnt function in school and despised it. So i really just wanted to give them an equivelant education while preserving their self esteem and helping them learn to cope with their shortcomings. I do also aim to have them ready for college/career because I dont want to be supporting them! I still find 'teaching critical thinking' to be something I have a hard time getting my head around. My older one seems to have real problems with it whereas my younger seems to often come up with good questions out of nowhere, but other times responds to my questions with blank stares.

i might try the critical thinking co's big book again . . . we tried 2 years ago and gave up quickly.

05-19-2012, 12:31 PM
Critical thinking
Analytical reasoning
Citizenship (responsibility (what's left when you subtract accountability), inclusion, community, participation)
Adaptability (to a changing economic and social environment)

What "job/career" ds has is only a small piece of a much bigger picture.


05-19-2012, 03:57 PM
Sorry. Pithiness and catchiness are not my strong suits. :)

I'd like for my kids to be well-adjusted and flexible. Not narrow minded or rigid. Able to think for themselves. To be self-directed and intrinsically motivated. Able to see beyond perceived limitations of environment or circumstance. To take responsibility for their outcomes and take full advantage of opportunities and choices as they see fit. To have well developed values and then to be able to live accordingly despite outside pressures. To respect themselves and others. When it comes to academics, I want them to have the basic tools necessary to function and meet their personal goals and the ability to further themselves as needed.

For now however we are mostly trying to keep up with core standards in order to comply with the powers that be.

05-19-2012, 06:04 PM
I wish I were more conversational, but alas, I will never be accused of verbosity. I too, when just starting out, was also just trying to keep my head on and get the requirements done. I had no goals.

I also read a lot of Morris Berman, so I'm probably raising kids that will end up working for NGOs. Oof

05-19-2012, 06:08 PM
What I hope to be able to provide for my daughter is an education where she is able to find her passions, reason and think critically, learn how to learn so that she is always able to continue to grow as a person. I want her to love life and find happiness whatever that may be so I want to give her the eduactional background that prepares her to do whatever she choses in life. I want her to learn to be responsible for her actions and to be a conscious human being...to treat herself, others, and the world around her with respect. I want her to see the big picture of life and to be happy in the knowledge that she can do what ever she sets her mind to.

05-20-2012, 08:50 AM
I think the goal for us is to give our children the most opportunity and ability in their lives to live them as they like. That is, to enable them to have all the skills and understanding needed to make decisions that will help them move towards whatever goals they choose, or to open doors in life that will give them the opportunity to make these decisions later. A job is only one part of this. The ability to think critically, to teach themselves, to form good relationships, to empathise, to appreciate, to always strive for what they most want to achieve... all of these things follow.

05-20-2012, 02:44 PM
Critical thinking.


And posted on my blog, in case I forget...

While on this homeschooling journey, I hope to provide a supportive learning environment that allows my son to fulfill his intellectual, emotional and physical potential. I hope to model and foster a love of lifelong growth and independent learning. I also hope to encourage the development of positive character traits, with a particular focus on independence, optimism, empathy, kindness, honesty, self-awareness, self-confidence, self-discipline, self-motivation and persistence.

Stella M
05-20-2012, 07:25 PM
To avoid school ?

That's not adequate really, is it ?

Plus it didn't work...

05-20-2012, 07:40 PM
To stick it to The Man.

05-20-2012, 08:07 PM
While on this homeschooling journey, I hope to provide a supportive learning environment that allows my son to fulfill his intellectual, emotional and physical potential. I hope to model and foster a love of lifelong growth and independent learning. I also hope to encourage the development of positive character traits, with a particular focus on independence, optimism, empathy, kindness, honesty, self-awareness, self-confidence, self-discipline, self-motivation and persistence.
Dont take this wrong - i think this is exactly what people expect ppl to do for homeschool goals . . .but it sounds like gobbledy-gook to me . . . like marketing where it sounds lovely but leaves me with no clue how this relates to what i do . . . which i think is why i found it an impossible exercise. I just look at where they are and decide what they need next. maybe a lot of the values stuff to me is just parenting, which is really just relating to other people genuinely, and to me is totally separate from homeschooling. because i was still parenting them when they were in public school . . . so for me the homeschool goals should just be whats different now than when they were in school . . . if that makes sense.

05-20-2012, 09:49 PM
. . .but it sounds like gobbledy-gook to me . . .

lol - no worries ;)

for me, academics are the easy part - this is so i remember that he's not just a brain and a full ride scholarship isn't really what i'm doing this for... school could have taught him to memorize, then regurgitate, and then be rewarded for it - that's not what our homeschool journey is about. and that is what's different in our lives now that we homeschool.

05-20-2012, 11:21 PM
Yeah, i still get insecure sometimes, that i'm not doing more 'quizzes' to 'prove' they 'learned something' . . . . the kids can recite reams of information about games, because they are interested, but its really hard to get them interested in anything academic. but i trudge on . . .

Little Brownelf
05-21-2012, 01:56 AM
To stick it to The Man.

:D: Exactly.

05-21-2012, 08:11 AM
I've always wished I could find a way to describe it succinctly but I can't. I have it straight in my head so it sounds a lot like what I'm reading here already.

05-21-2012, 09:16 AM
To avoid school ?

To stick it to The Man.

Never mind. That's my real reason. :D

05-22-2012, 06:16 AM
Honestly for me I think it boils down to this- I want my children to enjoy learning.

I never "enjoyed" learning while I was in school. It was something that had to get down 6 hours a day in rotating 45 minute periods. I hope my children never see it this way. As long as they enjoy learning I'll be happy.

05-22-2012, 07:54 AM
To give her room to grow into all that she can and wants to be without being ostricized and abused for her outside the box thinking.

05-25-2012, 10:31 PM
I want to provide my kids the tools, skills, experiences and resources they need so they can chart their own path, whether it's university, trades, entrepreneurship, political action, volunteering, parenting, or anything they set their mind to.

To me, basic skills matter, but initiative, drive, perseverance, discipline, and self-confidence are just as important. Honestly, the type of person they turn out to be matters a lot more to me than what career they choose.

I'd like them to be able to reason, write, analyze, think, and so on, but I'm not that attached. I find that I'm more delighted when they say something original or funny or thoughtful. Maybe it's because I'm far enough along on this journey that I'm not worried that they can't write or calculate. It's clear to me that they are going to make it, so I don't have to worry.

05-26-2012, 12:51 AM
I homeschool so my kids will have time and energy to pursue artistic passions (this means Broadway-musical stuff for the older kid at present; and a mix of music/art/theater/dance for younger kid); while staying on track with general academic skills.

Sure, we know performing and visual art-focused kids in public and private school too, but it's always a juggle for them between their art extracurriculars and their academics. Even if the school offers art/performing arts courses, they conflict with science exams and spelling quizzes. I aim to avoid that. I'll happily reschedule anything for the kids to perform in a recital; learn a new skill; take an awesome class; audition. And I can, with homeschooling!

I do know, first and second-hand, how hard it can be in the art and performing art worlds. But I also know that if you want to get into that world, it's often easier when you're young, and it's often harder if your parents and/or your school are nagging you about test scores and colleges and academics. I take care of the academics as simply as possible so they can focus on their passions.

I guess I do expect them to go to college, and to become parents, and to have careers and families. I hope that they will be financially comfortable, although I have no problem with a period of "starving artist"-dom either. It's a balance, and I guess I also aim to educate them on how to find their own balance of money and art; responsibility and passion.