View Full Version : School work accommodations, your thought's?

10-19-2016, 10:46 PM
So we've been offered accommodations for our son's school work / end of year tests/ college entrance tests but have mixed feelings about it. He works slower then most but I'm not sure he should have extra time. A job isn't going to give him extra time to do things. We've decided he's got 45 min. classes and if he doesn't finish the work he'll continue the next day but at a job you have to finish in a timely manner. I'm worried that we've already failed him because he "needs" accommodations but we're also failing him for the future because life doesn't come with accommodations. He's disabled enough to get accommodations but not enough for disability. So we have to prepare him for the work world which I don't think with accommodations we would be doing. I want the best for him and his teacher insists that we're doing him a disservice not taking accommodations. What are your thoughts on accommodations for school age / college?

10-19-2016, 11:13 PM
I think that it's important for children not to feel frustrated or overwhelmed as much as possible with academics. If accommodations are recommended by trained professionals, you should take advantage of them. In the future, with regards to a career for your child, that is something that will be worked out later. I've found with my daughter that she needed less and less accommodations each year. That may be the case with your son. Try it. You can always go back to not having accommodations if you feel it is not helpful.

10-20-2016, 12:40 PM
If they're offering extra time, take it.

"A job isn't going to give him extra time to do things."
Standardized testing and 45 minute class times are NOT even close to what he will experience in the working world. He may or may not have a job with high pressure deadlines to meet. He will hopefully have a job where he can work at his own pace - whatever that ends up to be.

Accommodations are just adjustments that are made to make school fit kids with different needs. You haven't caused this. He hasn't caused this. Not every kid is going to fit into the 45 minute, check off your assignments, and move on box that has been created for a large group of children - not him specifically.

If accommodations are offered. Take them. Even if he doesn't use his extra time, it may put his mind at ease knowing that it's there. Some kids freeze up and can't complete anything at all when they know there is a timer/deadline.

10-20-2016, 01:28 PM
Actually ADA federal law requires accommodations at work. If there is a documented short or longterm disability, employers are required by law to accommodate people. So this is following the law for students and working adults alike.

Like TFZ mentions, the classroom is not the same as the workplace.

Generally people go into jobs which better suit their skill set. I know that I could not have been a police officer, fire fighter, or EMT worker. I don't work well under that type of pressure. I found a career that suits my ability for slow and steady work, time to think and plan.

Testing is another ability I did not do well at, particularly under time pressure.

Allow your son to accept the help.

10-20-2016, 04:25 PM
Dear Miguel's Mom,

It seems like you are pushing your son beyond what he is ready for.
Looking back over the past year of threads, it always seems to be the same situation - you are expecting work from your 13 yr old that is expected of a 16 year old. Of course he is going to struggle! You are telling him to do something he is not ready for! Three days ago, you were saying how his writing is at a 3rd grade level!
This is a bit of madness, trying to push him through 10th grade this year, when he isnt ready for it.
Review your threads over the past year, you will see a common pattern of you having expectations beyond what a young teen can manage.

He's hoping to get bright futures scholarship. We're hoping he can finish his BS in the 9 semesters college gives for free.

We're looking into year long tech schools for his pharmacy tech degree @ 15. His birthday is June so having that right before he's 16. So he can work at a pharmacy while attending school. Is it worth going light a year for that?

This is one of the things you wrote last August. It then went into a big discussion about you planning his gap year activities.

Let him be 14! Let him be an eighth grader! Let him master, and not just "complete" workbooks and coursework.
If he was thriving at the level he was working at, there wouldnt be these issues of struggling 12 hours to complete a 30 minute assignment.
Maybe he doesnt need any special accomodations - if he was doing work that he is ready for.
Its not a race.


10-20-2016, 08:32 PM
I think you should get him the accomodations. My son, who has Aspergers, also takes forever to finish the simplest tasks and often doesn't immediately comprehend what is being asked. I have to bite my tongue and keep myself from shouting Really?! You don't see that?? From what I understand that is very common with ASD kids. It sounds like he is a really bright child, but needs the extra assistance and time in order to get his work done. Trying to force him to be faster than he is truly capable of doesn't seem to be working for him and I doubt it ever will. If the schools are offering him accommodations, please use them. If he is not worrying about finishing on time or having to write everything by hand, he can focus on what is in front of him.

I understand your fears completely. I honestly lay awake at night worrying about my son and his future. I worry that he won't be able to handle himself in the real world. I have to remind myself that he is just as capable as a "neurotypical" child, it just takes him a little longer to get there. Let him work at his own level, whatever that might be.

I often read posts about kids graduating early or with numerous college credits under their belts and I start fantasizing about my son doing that. But I think it would be too much for him. I have to remind myself to let him be who he is, not who I wish he could be. When I do, he is happier, more confident, and a better student.

As the pp brought up, your ds will most likely lean towards a career that suits him and his abilities. I have noticed that when my son is pursuing whatever interests him, he will work much harder (and faster :)) to understand it and master it than he does with anything else.

10-21-2016, 01:52 AM
There's nothing I can do about him being in 10th grade, legally he's in 10th grade. He's done the 8th grade work, 9th grade work, and some of the 10th grade work. He writes slow and doesn't get the questions if they're at all open ended. He's getting A's and B's on the assignments he turns in. He just can't turn in that much work a day and it would be the same amount of work if it was an easier class. I could give him elementary school writing it would take all day. It's the thinking to the paper that gets him and the open ended questions. figuring out exactly what they mean. like I stated before we just noticed this issue. So yes I have/had high hopes for him finishing a BS early, still do because he is capable of it just needs extra time. I feel wrong having him take accommodations in the classes he is in. We're putting him in a digital IT class to see if he likes that. We were told not to remove him from his classes because he is capable of doing them even if it takes him 2x as long. I just don't know, currently I'm having him spend 45 min. a class and then letting him call it quits for that subject. His teachers haven't brought it up yet (just started this week)but he's only gotten half the assignments done.They have weekly minimums you have to accomplish.

We got an email from FLVS saying they don't do IEP's for Homeschooled children and the Board of education said they don't do IEP's for Homeschooled children. So we don't know where to turn next.

10-21-2016, 07:17 AM
As the homeschooling parent, legally I believe you could "hold him" back if he's not up do doing the work. Public school systems, while they don't do it often in high school since graduation is based on total credits, also do the same thing.

10-21-2016, 11:38 AM
Our current plan is to restrict him to 45 min a class per day. Meaning 3 hours as he's only taking 4 classes. Spend an hour on writing and 15 min on touch typing. With breaks, lunch, and co-op that takes us into the afternoon/early evening. He currently needs 7-13 credits to graduate depending on which degree he gets. If these classes take him a year and a half to do he still has at least 3 years left in high school.

If he gets testing accommodations he needs to take the SAT next year to be eligible for the national merit scholarship and the Hispanic scholarship because he'll be in his 3rd year of high school. We are now planning to home school him until he's 19 so he can take advantage of dual enrollment. However we need an IEP to justify letting him go at his own pace.

10-26-2016, 12:54 PM
Just an update:

I emailed the ESE specialist of his assigned school district to find out if they're willing to do the evaluation. I haven't heard back yet but if not we're going to see if the "local" children's hospital does evaluations. If not we have a lead on a good pediatric psychologist in the next city over but I don't know if they take our insurance.