View Full Version : DS started preschool today :(

11-04-2010, 10:56 AM
A Christian one at that. Only part time, but still.

I am confident I made the best decision I could under the circumstances with the resources available, however I hate when life happens and I can't have my ideal world.

11-04-2010, 12:52 PM
Did I miss something? I wasn't aware that you had to make that decision. Does it affect your homeschooling otherwise (like, next year)?

Regardless, I hope she enjoys herself. My son also attended a Christian preschool but there was no religious indoctrination. They said a non-denominational "prayer" before snack time, but nothing like the truly religious prayer that was forced on him before lunch in public school (!). I don't know what prompted your decision, but I do think that preschoolers tend to benefit greatly from being around other kids, whether it's in a preschool setting, rec center classes, playgroups or what have you. If she's ahead of the game academically she'll probably still have so much fun and enjoy hearing information in another way (ie: doing the calender every morning).

Let us know how it went and how she liked it! I hope it's a positive experience for everyone! :)

11-04-2010, 01:27 PM
I don't know if his homeschooling will be affected next year. Our situation is a little weird but here goes. I work from home, but I have to be available to customers via phone and do emails and such, so I can't be an "at-home" parent. DS has been cared for by a variety of family and DH since he was a baby.

For the last year he was with my mom twice a week, DH's mom and 94yo Grandma twice a week, and the neighbors once a week...all in the mornings, and with DH in the afternoons. 94yo Grandma fell and fractured her knee and is bedridden for the foreseeable future, and my MIL found it too difficult to care for her and keep an eye on DS for those two days. She asked us for a break.

Though my mom and the neighbors are willing to take an extra day each, they are not eager to, and we don't want to take advantage of their love for him to create an imposition.

So, we decided to try a preschool (but really it's just daycare for us, we don't care about the academics they do, as we do that ourselves). There are only 2 secular preschools in my town, and neither were as close or as flexible or affordable as we needed. Also I was concerned about DS transitioning, and his best friend from TaeKwonDo attends the same school twice a week. Best friends parents are also secular, and told me they had no problems and that the religion in the school wasn't hellfire or super preachy...songs and stories is about the extent. It is also 5 minutes away, very flexible on days/times, and very affordable.

My HOPE for next year is that DS will mature enough in the next 11 months to be less dependent on his caretakers (which is happening every day, but he's still only 4), and therefore less burdensome for the extra days, or that the situation with Grandma will resolve to allow him to return, even to be a help to my MIL. Then we will continue doing our homeschooling in the mornings and afternoons and weekends.

11-04-2010, 01:45 PM
It sounds like you guys have made a good decision based on your needs right now. Not everyone would be so thoughtfully motivated. Just because things are not as you would have them now does not mean that things won't change in the future! Best wishes and speedy healing for your GMIL and I hope that the transition is smooth!

11-04-2010, 02:24 PM
I agree with Heather. I hope you can be easy on yourself for making such a tough choice. Also, so sorry about referring to your son as a "she"--I don't know where that came from!

Best to your grandma-in law, and to your family as you all transition through this new experience.

11-04-2010, 02:38 PM
Thanks guys! As I said, I am confident in my decision, but it's just hard for me to let go of my ideal. Everything should go exactly to my plan!! LOL, like that ever happens

And no problem on the she, I do that on these boards like every day. :)

ETA: I do hope and believe he will benefit from being around other kids more regularly and in a less structured way. As an only child, adopted by *ahem* mature parents, he has mostly grown up in the adult world, and he is the only grandchild and/or the "baby" of all his families so gets tons of undivided attention. He has only been with other kids during classes, a weekly playdate after library story time, kids of friends once in awhile, older cousins etc. Not a lot of free play with multiple kids in his age range.

11-04-2010, 04:29 PM
Well, I guess with one tiny exception, he did great today! The exception was he felt uncomfortable going to the music class without being escorted there and introduced to the teacher....it's a transition and comfort level thing with him. Once his friend joined him and did the intro he was fine.

He couldn't even remember the academics or Bible story or even the movie they watched during rest time, so they must not have made enough impact for him to file away.

11-04-2010, 05:21 PM
Great news, Brandi! Sounds like he will do just fine.

11-04-2010, 11:04 PM
He will love it there. I tsounds ot me like you made the best decision you could given the circumstances.