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inmom
06-05-2015, 02:22 PM
Wowie, is college orientation different from when I went! At Purdue, my mom and I spent a couple of hours that consisted of a quick meeting with my adviser to schedule classes, a walk to my future dorm, and signing up to work in the dorm come fall.

My dd and I just returned from TWO days of orientation meetings. She had her sessions while I had mine. The only overlap was the Recreational facility tour and the info fair. My sessions covered dorm life, honors program, campus safety, travel abroad, what is required for a degree, etc. While I'm glad I have oodles of information to help support my daughter, it seems like many of the sessions were catering to helicopter parents. Part of the reason we homeschooled was to give our kids independence and smart decision-making skills. We've modeled these for years, but now it's up to her. I'm hoping that as college students my kiddos are ready to strike out on their own.

On a more positive note, my daughter was able to get the classes she wanted and is super excited to go. (It helped that hers was the first orientation session of the summer.) She was very nervous and unsure when she arrived. I knew it was just fear of the unknown. She even got into the small honors seminar that she wanted!! Serendipitously, she met her roommate as well--a very nice girl.

darkelf
06-05-2015, 02:28 PM
I went to one last night.

Ack!

I do understand the letting go and hoping he can make good decisions.

aspiecat
06-05-2015, 02:58 PM
So parents have an orientation as well? Gosh - never heard of that LOL. I'm used to kids just well, going to university and that is that. Once I was going, my mother couldn't have cared less how I was going to cope. It must be an American thing as in most other countries you tend to commute to university more often than not.

I can't wait for DS to start college - it will be an exciting time for him and I totally want to be as involved as I can be without falling all over him LOL. As he's choosing to go the "community college then transfer to university" route, I don't know if there'll be orientation for the CC.

Aspie

inmom
06-05-2015, 03:41 PM
Once I was going, my mother couldn't have cared less how I was going to cope. It must be an American thing as in most other countries you tend to commute to university more often than not.

Same for me. I think I called home maybe a half dozen times a semester, and that was mostly to set up a time for them to pick me up for breaks. (I was also 5th of 8 kids and was MORE than ready to move on.) Things are so different now, though, with cell phones and texting with unlimited plans. I've already told my daughter to feel free to contact, but spend her time making NEW freinds, not always contacting her parents. I'll love to hear from her, but this is HER time to explore and discover and MAKE DECISIONS all on her own.

I let her know that there are very few serious mistakes that she can make now that can't be either solved by her or gotten past. A bad grade or a fight with a roommate is not the end of the world. She's a smart cookie and knows to steer clear of potentially bad situations if possible.

CrazyMom
06-05-2015, 03:47 PM
What you're describing was the same for us, inmom. Two days of details about things parents really have no control over (nor should they). I'll admit I did like all the safety information, and learning about resources available to the kids....and financial info was pretty useful.

Elle did her schedule independently. I had no idea what classes she'd take until it was a done deal.

Glad your daughter got the classes she wanted and that the roommate is nice...that makes a HUGE difference:) Elle loved her second semester roommate. First semester though...wow...they couldn't have made a worse mismatch of personalities and priorities. LOL.

Best of luck to your daughter! Bet she's excited:)

darkelf
06-05-2015, 04:02 PM
My Ds will be commuting and he is only 16.

He doesn't have his driver's licence yet, so we will have to figure out something. (There is a great bus system that could get him to school. It is the after school that might be an issue for the first quarter. (He will be able to drive 2nd and 3rd. )

He can only take classes by permission for this program, so I know what classes he is taking and got a book/supply list already. (And I ordered most of them from Amazon last night) There is one very expensive book and a couple things we will be looking for at the bookstore. And he needs rain gear.

LKnomad
06-05-2015, 04:07 PM
My public school son will be applying for colleges next year. I am already stressed out about the whole thing. The HS son is still 4 years away. How exciting for you all!

HawaiiGeek
06-05-2015, 04:10 PM
That is just crazy. My orientation week was the week before school started, my parents dropped me off after helping me move in, hugged me, my little brother (age 6) cried and they drove away. I had to figure everything else out with the help of the RA etc. I loved it - it was so great to be independent. I was the oldest and so ready to go. Remember going into the big auditoriums to walk from desk to desk to get signed up for classes? Times have most certainly changed. We are doing our children (in the collective sense) a huge disservice by not giving them independence earlier.

groovymom2000
06-05-2015, 07:44 PM
Gah-I am SO not the type of parent to go to an orientation. I feel my rebellious self creeping out...like the rest of you, my parents dropped me off and I figured it out. I don't even think we had an orientation at all, it was kind of a sink-or-swim environment. I guess when it's my turn I will try to be good...

inmom
06-05-2015, 08:37 PM
... I feel my rebellious self creeping out...

LOL, I found myself arguing with some of the presenters in my head. But I bit my tongue...