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05-31-2015, 05:02 PM
Happy summer, everyone! Just wondering how each of you structures "chores" in your households…for the kids, not yourselves. Pay/not pay, daily/weekly lists, assigned/choice, daily required chores vs voluntary, reward systems? Let it all out here!

05-31-2015, 08:15 PM
I never pay for housework. The kids get an allowance, but it's not tied to work around the house. After all, I don't get paid for working around the house, so why should they?

When they were younger, I would usually make the kids do a few tasks before or after meals. Things like, tidy up the living room and then we'll have lunch, or put this load of laundry away right after lunch. We're already interrupting our studying/activities for a meal, so it's a good time to squeeze a few chores out.

We do a weekly clean-up on Saturdays. I write a big list of what needs to be done on the kitchen whiteboard. Everyone writes their initials beside the tasks they want to do. It's a very obvious way of seeing who is doing more work, or how much is leftover for Mom to do. From a young age, the kids could easily figure out what was "fair" or "reasonable" based on who was older/stronger/faster, etc... I also make sure that I write down the "invisible" things that I'm doing that day, like grocery shopping and cooking dinner so that I get "credit" and the kids realize that I do a lot.

We've been doing things more or less the same way for years and it works pretty well. Now that the kids are older, I can just ask them to get a few things done while I'm out and I know they'll do it. I'm just working now on getting them to cook dinner regularly.

05-31-2015, 09:00 PM
Mine get a small weekly allowance....not tied to chores, but totally at risk of being lost due to bad adittude. Chores are done out of duty to the family......we all fill the trash can, we work together to take it out OR we wear our clothes and make it dirty, we help do wash, fold and put away. Common sense stuff and I always point out when they are being unreasonable and whining. Guilt is my tool of choice. ;) Not yelling. It works for my kids temperaments.
Bigger "project type" chores...like painting, early or late garden stuff, splitting and stacking firewood....that gets extra cash according to the amount of work done with a good adittude. They have to do this stuff either way....they've just come to understand they might as well have a good adittude and get some cash.
The boys do their own basic breakfast, and lunch but I'm working on teaching them to cook their own dinner favorites.
I guess I'm not much of a 'chore list' person. Not much of an organizer.....if it needs to be done, just do it.

05-31-2015, 09:45 PM
No pay involved here.
My 9yo really wanted a chore chart - she likes to anticipate her day and week that way. Every day she has 1 major chore - doing dishes, sweeping, or organizing laundry - and a couple of minor tasks.
My 5yo takes out the compost every day.
They both feed the chickens, let them out for their free range time, and close their hutch at night.

05-31-2015, 10:03 PM
Mine have regular chores that are unpaid but tied to priveledges. No feeding the animals=no horseback riding, etc.

Sometimes there are extra things that need to be done that are optional and paid. Sometimes there are extra things (like haying) that are not optional and not paid.

Pocket money isn't fixed, it's more given out when we do something that they might need money for. Like if we go to the fair, I give them money to spend at the fair. If they don't spend it all, they can save it. THis may change when they get older and go places by themselves.

I also give them money to spend on things like gifts for others or supplies for projects.

Basically, it's "from each according to his ability, to each according to his need." Dirty commies, that's us.

ETA: I have a few standing chores that are paid - anyone, anytime can fill up a bucket with rocks from the field/garden and earn $5. Same goes for fixing fences, that is paid by the hour.

When paying for extra chores - I pay the same rate to the kids (and neighbor kids) as I would to a field hand. I think they need to know how valuable that work is - and it never costs me much cause the little kids don't last more than half an hour anyhow. They pride they take when they finally work a (wo)man's shift and earn a (wo)man's pay is invaluable.

06-01-2015, 06:11 AM
DS and DD alternate emptying out the bathroom rubbish daily. Each one also has to fold a load of laundry (they tend to pick towels because that takes 2 min. lol) when there is clean laundry to be folded. DD vaccuums daily since we have dogs that shed. And, they each have to clean their rooms for 15 minutes daily (they like to take lots of stuff out and I like them to put all of it back when they're done). We don't call them chores, we call them family responsibilities. They get $5 per week if they don't skip anything at all. They get docked $1 if they skip a day and they still have to do it the following day. I was opposed to the $5 per week--it was hubby's idea. However, now, if there is some random unnecessary thing they want, I just say, "You can buy it if you really want it with your money." Every once in a while they have exercised this purchasing power. They do tend to save for "big" things. It has eliminated a lot of whining about me not getting whatever they want.

06-01-2015, 09:01 AM
We have household chores/duties that are unpaid. Then there are things that have to be done that I don't want to do, and so those get paid. My boys clean their own rooms/bathroom, and we rotate the half-bath between the three of us. They each do their own laundry. They help around the house when I need it-emptying trash, etc.
They get paid for things like: mulch shoveling/spreading, washing the cars, cutting the grass and other assorted yard work. They can also earn $$ for other household things like wiping baseboards, cleaning out and organizing cabinets, etc.
They have no weekly allowance, but they earn plenty of $$ for their needs right now.

06-01-2015, 03:05 PM
We are entirely on the bribery system. Schoolwork with no fuss gets $1/day with a $5 bonus for the weeks worth of work (without too many arguments). We used to give an additional 5/week for loading and unloading the dishwasher, but he refuses to follow my (control freak, perhaps) directions on how to load it. (We have a strict *if you dont like how its done, do it yourself! policy at the house.)
Pretty much everything not necessary comes out of his money, although I sometimes contribute towards books or *luxury* clothes items (recently a Pokemon t-shirt). He does a good job of hoarding his money, and not frittering it away on junk.

06-02-2015, 02:42 AM
We have the 15 minute family clean every night. Everyone participates. Mom, Dad, Kid, Extra kids, My mom, Cousins....whoever happens to be at my house eating my food....is required to pitch in. (Ok, my mom doesn't HAVE to, but you know she does...lol)

A shocking amount of stuff gets done this way. It really lightens the load.

If the house is deep....I'll hold two 15 minute clean-ups on Saturday and Sunday.

Family clean-ups are not rewarded...they're a duty exchanged for the privilege of living here. For visiting kids...it's a duty exchanged for liberal visitation rights and stocked snacks/soda fridge and a million rides home. I do a lot for these kids....I expect them to cooperate pretty willingly. 15 minutes a day is not a lot to ask.

If laundry is backing up, I put bounties on loads of laundry. (which must be washed, dried and hung/folded/put away to collect the money)

I've been known to offer some yard work or special cleaning (the fridge, the fireplace, windows, oven, closets and cupboards) at bounties....when I know the kids needs extra fun-money.

06-02-2015, 05:57 PM
Anyone else read The Opposite of Spoiled" ?

06-02-2015, 10:35 PM
Kiddo came up with most of his own chores and there's no schedule. He really wanted to be in charge of cleaning the bathroom, so when I need the mirrors cleaned or the sink wiped out I tell him and he does it. Could be once a week, could be three times in a day, that's one of his chores. There's no pay for chores, it's just work. The only mandatory daily chore is cleaning his room, because otherwise it's a deep sea expedition just to get to the bed. On the other hand, we are all responsible for our own stuff. So if Kiddo left his Legos in the living room, then it's his responsibility to clean them up, even if that means cleaning the entire living room to get them all. If I leave a sewing project half cut on the floor and someone else wants to use the space, then it's my responsibility to clean it all up.

06-05-2015, 11:42 AM
They get $5 per week if they don't skip anything at all. They get docked $1 if they skip a day and they still have to do it the following day. I was opposed to the $5 per week--it was hubby's idea. However, now, if there is some random unnecessary thing they want, I just say, "You can buy it if you really want it with your money." Every once in a while they have exercised this purchasing power. They do tend to save for "big" things. It has eliminated a lot of whining about me not getting whatever they want.

We do a similar sort of thing. She does not get paid to do chores, but if she doesn't pull her weight or has a bad attitude, she can lose out on her allowance.

I agree on the eliminating whining, as "where is your money?" usually zips those lips!

06-06-2015, 03:05 AM
Normal duties, cleaning room, putting away your laundry, helping Mom, etc. NO PAY
Oldest: Feeds dogs at night, does trash cans in/out once a week for PAY.
Youngest: Does chicken pen every morning, M-Th(my work days). Fresh water, food, check on everyone and let them out. PAID
You don't do it, you don't get paid.
If he has to do extra day for me on days I normally do it, then he gets paid overtime basically.
Extra stuff like when we cut down our giant hedge and had 10 trailer loads we loaded, hauled and unloaded. They made extra money.
LOVE Crazymom's idea of bounty on laundry. Going to try that!
And the 15 min. clean-up rocks. I usually bust my hump the next morning before daycare kiddos get here and am exhausted. Doing it as a family every night would be awesome and 15 min. is NO BIG DEAL!

06-06-2015, 10:16 AM
My kids get spending money not tied to chores.

I do daily lists. Some things are always the same (pick up your room, make your bed, clean up your own mess). Other things are daily, but I rotate who has what weekly. For example, this week ds is on dishwasher duty and dd is on dog poop duty. Some things just happen like yard work.

We do most chores in the AM, I just need to start my day clean. We do a sweep of the status of the house before dinner to tidy up.

06-06-2015, 05:20 PM
We have five kids (ages 3 to 17) and it's different for different ages, of course. We try to arrange it the way we would with roommates. Everybody needs to pitch in or things go bad quickly, but we work together to figure out who does what according to what jobs people prefer and are best suited for.

I've written about what works best for us a few times over the years, including chore lists for different ages and how to use chore sticks (which make it fun for our kids and some friends who also use them).

Chore lists for every age -- and how to keep kids on board (http://www.examiner.com/article/chore-lists-for-every-age-and-how-to-keep-kids-on-board)
Fourteen ways to end the chore battle with kids (http://www.examiner.com/article/fourteen-ways-to-end-the-chore-battle-with-kids-1)
Chore sticks help make chores fun for kids (http://www.examiner.com/article/chore-sticks-help-make-chores-fun-for-kids)

I also have to keep lots of lists for myself or I'm pretty bad about doing my chores too. :)

06-14-2015, 05:07 PM
I have assigned 1 chore to each day of the week. If dd does 5 chores a week minimum she can earn a dollar. If she doesn't do the chores then she passes up that opportunity to earn money. No nagging.
Money is motivating for dd right now. She does not get an allowance and we won't always buy her things she wants. Right now she is saving up for a new game system after breaking hers.
There are chores that are not listed that she is expected to help with like taking care of pets. These are not optional and do not earn her money.

06-15-2015, 05:45 AM
Anyone else read The Opposite of Spoiled" ?

Um, no. But I have just requested it from the library. I never heard of it. Sounds good. I hope I haven't failed already lol.