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CrazyMom
03-15-2015, 02:36 AM
So, how did your parental journey begin?

CrazyMom
03-15-2015, 10:28 AM
Wanted to be nature girl and have a home birth....but have too many medical issues myself for that to be safe. Was all lined up to do a birthing center...and have the kid in a real bed, and do most of my labor in a hot tub...which sounded AMAZING. And then the fates intervened. I developed pre-eclampsia at six and a half months. Had a month long hospitalization, took steroids to mature the kid's lungs, and eventually showed signs of going into liver and kidney failure. Needed the kid OUT:) Elle was premature, had intrauterine growth retardation (imagine a baby with no body fat...bones with skin hanging). All my mom's babies were over eight pounds. Elle was under four pounds and six weeks early.

Mother's don't say this....but my baby was one of the ugliest little babies I'd ever seen. LOL. She was a little Ethiopian-skinny squirrel baby with blotchy skin and a big nose. LOL.

But! She had great color...nice pink mucous membranes. She cried heartily, and wiggled and ate like a piglet to make up for lost time. And all of these things meant "healthy" to me....which made the rest meaningless. Was just so relieved she was ok!

But yeah....I had general anesthetic. Could not do a spinal, since my platelets had crashed. Really didn't want to be paralyzed if I could avoid it.

But we made it:)

Hubby ran back and forth like a mother hen between his sick wife and incubated baby. That first week...he could not get enough of that baby. He was there to do every feeding...which is feat, since under-cooked squirrel babies need to be fed constantly.

Took about a month in an incubator to get enough body fat on that kid for her to be able to hold body temperature safely.

She got sprung on my birthday. LOL. At 4.5 pounds...she seemed sturdy and robust to us. LOL. Everyone else was horrified.

Rough start, but she did great:)

quabbin
03-15-2015, 10:33 AM
There are very tight legal limits on what midwives can do in my state, and home births are rare.

Ultimately I was glad I did not try the birth center with midwives (nearly an hour away): DS was unexpectedly premature, so they would've had to send us to the hospital and doctors anyway.

CrazyMom
03-15-2015, 10:35 AM
Been there, quabbin:)

AddlepatedMonkeyMama
03-15-2015, 10:44 AM
Hospital maternity floor with awesome midwives. I probably could have had my daughter at home if I'd had the guts to do it. She was posterior position (my first words after she was delivered were "Thank God!" My next words were "Never again!"), but otherwise smooth delivery with no difficulties.

banjobaby
03-15-2015, 10:46 AM
With my first-born I had planned to have her at an alternative birthing center with midwives, but instead I ended up having her in the backseat of my doula's car. Oops! My second and third were born at home with a midwife.

alexsmom
03-15-2015, 11:30 AM
I went to the third-closest hospital where hospital volunteers I knew refer to the maternity ward as *The Country Club* - it was a suite with wood floors, jacuzzi, rocking chair, couch, nice view out the window, etc. I was expecting monogrammed bath robes, but alas, not to be found.
The first time around I was a newbie at it - and let them move me to a broom closet afterward. I also made the mistake of drinking a bottle of red gatorade before going in, which came up during hard labor, all over my mom who was in attendance. (Not sure if thats a good thing or bad thing - it is reminisced upon as a highlight of the experience.)
Second time around, I picked a day when they typically had fewer patients so I could stay in the suite, and had a epidural almost immediately, and had a very comfortable labor and delivery. (Yes, I asked my OBGYN what days she thought would be less crowded - apparently nobody signs up to be induced on St Patricks Day when its on a Saturday, and if I lasted until then, we could do it. So I spent my last week resting or walking with my legs together, because I didnt want to have to go through all the early stages of labor at home.)
And DS (and DH) were present through the whole second labor and delivery. :) I wrote it up as science on his schoolwork. ;)

Merry
03-15-2015, 11:55 AM
I had a variet of experiences.

First was in a birthing center in PA. Wonderful family centered birth with my mother, grandmother, younger brothers (my 11 yr old brother cut the cord). Sitting in a hot tub helped the pain so much.

The rest of my births were in IL where birthing centers are illegal. My second was a home birth with midwives. Many friends were there to support my daughter during the birth.

Third and fourth were born in a hospital - twins and I was older, I also developed severe preeclampsia but fortunately at 39 wks. I wasn't very familiar with the hospital and it turned out to be horribly traumatic. The doctor had told me I could deliver in a regular room but changed his mind when I got there. I delivered on a hard OR table lying completely flat on my back, I was delirious and couldn't recognize anyone with their masks on. The doctor made me get an epidural since the second babe was breach and I begged for them to dose it after the first came out (I wasn't ready for that pain again)! So then I couldn't push and they had to vacuum the second one out - I still feel guilty about that. Ugh, they kept me on a separate floor from the babies for the first 24 hours and I wasn't allowed to nurse them. I cried the entire time. I seriously get PTSD just thinking about it.

Fifth was born in the hospital where I deliver babies - I knew the nurses and midwife well and it was a lovely peaceful birth (still hurt like heck). Was actually my favorite birth of all.

banjobaby
03-15-2015, 12:13 PM
Merry, the first legal birthing center opened in a suburb near Chicago several months ago, which is so exciting! Sorry about your traumatic birth experiences. You have nothing to feel guilty about.

CrazyMom
03-15-2015, 02:14 PM
Merry...I believe you about hot tubs helping. God, how I wanted one in labor.

KittyP
03-15-2015, 03:14 PM
Water homebirth for me. I would definitely do it again if we ever manage to have another baby, it was pretty amazing.

echomyst
03-15-2015, 05:06 PM
First birth was a natural hospital birth. Had wanted to have a homebirth but it was too expensive for us (and, as a Canadian living in the U.S., I was really, REALLY, REEAALLLY balking at the cost of birth here!).

Second birth was a home water birth, expenses be damned. Wouldn't have wanted it any other way, especially since baby #2 came out so quickly that we wouldn't have been able to make it to our (non-emergency) hospital in time anyway :-P Barely had time to cuddle eldest daughter to sleep, then boom! out came baby #2.

dragonfly
03-15-2015, 05:43 PM
Maternity ward of the hospital with a midwife. Fairly nice for a hospital room, but I was very anxious to leave--checked out 26 hours after the birth, mostly because I didn't have insurance and didn't want to pay for the room, but also because sleeping was impossible with people in and out and talking on the PA system at all hours. (Not to mention the screaming from others in labor down the hall.)

Oh, and no drugs.

skrink
03-15-2015, 07:00 PM
Hospital. High risk pregnancy, no choice.

Misha
03-15-2015, 09:01 PM
First birth - hospital, two doulas, easy easy birth.
Second birth - went into pre-term labor at 7 months, medicated, on bed rest. Water broke a week ahead of due date, went to hospital, was induced to help contractions. Baby freaked, heartbeat slowed and stopped, twice. My sweet, mild-mannered doctor suddenly became very take-charge and within seconds I was wheeled in for a c-section where that baby was born within a matter of about 2 minutes. I kept waiting to hear her cry, and I couldn't. She finally started, little tiny kitten cries.
Third birth - I wanted to VBAC, I switched doctors to a VBAC friendly doctor, and did a lot of visualizing. I'm a firm believer in following my intuition and when I went into labor, I felt that something was wrong, and I asked for a repeat section. That turned out for the best, because my doctor told us that I had a large dehiscence which could have easily led to a rupture had I chosen to attempt the vbac.

My baby having days are done. We're both in our early forties but don't necessarily feel done. We've been researching fostering, and fostering-to-adopt for the near future.

Teri
03-15-2015, 09:16 PM
After my first baby in the hospital with an epidural, I opted to not have a medicated delivery. So, three out of four were natural, but in the hospital.

KristinK
03-15-2015, 09:45 PM
3 were the birthing center choice - so comfortable and relaxing. Beautiful rooms, wonderful attendants, delicious homemade food, amazing midwives.
1 was a homebirth, not by choice. She just came too fast to get anywhere, and my midwife was stuck in a snowstorm, and detoured by construction :)

KristinK
03-15-2015, 09:51 PM
Misha, I was just talking with a mom who fosters-to-adopt. She had the most gorgeous 7wk old inuit baby in her arms. What a doll. Such an amazing gift to give to those children...and to the families that just need a little help and time to get themselves together before taking their child back :)


water-birth for #4. was amazing. I had wicked hip pain with all of them, and the floating was so so SO helpful. If we had a #5 (which we do NOT plan, as much as I love babies), it would hopefully be a water birth as well. I did NOT like having a homebirth, as there was no respite from the chaos of...well...HOME ;)

JLMama
03-15-2015, 10:21 PM
Baby # 1 - Hospital

Baby # 2 - Home Waterbirth

Artmama
03-15-2015, 10:36 PM
Baby #1 (now 21) - Hospital with Midwife all Natural
Baby # 2 (now 13) - Hospital with Midwife - Nasty back labor and they insisted I be on a monitor so I couldn't move around like I wanted to - Painkillers - I was outright loopy when she was born - Her oxygen levels dropped unexplained and she ended up in niku for 5 days - Overall experience SUCKED
Baby #3 (5 next week) - Home Birth with a Midwife - All Natural and Awesome
If it ever happens again I'd definitely want it to be at home!

ElizabethK
03-15-2015, 10:50 PM
Two hospital births here. No c-sections but had an epidural each time.

I initially wanted home births but it would have been completely out of pocket (compared to complete insurance coverage for my first and only $250 for a hospital stay for my second). And my husband, while being supportive in nearly everything I try to do, is pretty much against home birth.

And I thought my first was a pretty funny looking newborn, too. I had actually never seen a newborn so when she came out all squished and red and slimy I did not have an appropriate mom- reaction because I was fully expecting to give birth to the Gerber baby. I was better prepared for my second!

RunningYogini
03-16-2015, 01:27 AM
All natural hospital birth with a midwife. Wonderful experience. I sat in a hot tub but it slowed things down. Start to finish was five hours! The midwife told us that my husband better know how to deliver a baby at home should we decide to have another! LOL! No more babies for us, though. One is plenty.

CrazyMom
03-16-2015, 02:42 AM
By the way.....Home school Dads...don't feel left out on this one. Would love to hear your experiences with welcoming your kidlettes, too.

We really (literally) couldn't do it without you guys:) I know my hubby's help and support was more important to me than anyone's....and he was amazing:) He got both me and my daughter through the storm. He even colored one of her toenails with a permanent marker....to make sure we had the right kid. LOL.

I'm like....Seriously? We're the only people with a big-nosed undercooked squirrel baby. Do you really think that's necessary?

And he was all like...Bite me, Darling, I'm not taking chances. He was SO about HIS baby. Very proud, very territorial, crazy smitten. He was a MUCH more enthusiastic newborn parent than I was....and WOW was I grateful for that!

I was in surgery recovery when I woke up from the C-section. No hubby. No baby. And I'm thinking....What the hell? Where did they all go?

And a nurse looks at me and says....You're not awake yet.

But I was and said.....yes, I am.

And she goes....Wow! You wake up quick, girl!

And I go....What'd I have? (I'm inwardly relieved that she seems so perky...and that no one is staring at me looking solemn)

She says to me.....Look at your wristband. If it's a girl, it's pink. If it's a boy, it's blue. What'd you have?

I picked up the wrong wrist....the one with the hospital admitting band...and it's purple.

And I say....It's purple. A hermaphrodite?

And the nurse laughs and says, No! A little girl!

And I blank out for a minute and the same super happy nurse is there....with a polaroid of my husband looking like a nervous terrified wreck...holding ugly squirrel baby. LOL. But the baby was pink and howling mad in the photo....all great signs. The nurse explains hubby is in neonatal ICU with the baby while she's being evaluated by specialists cause she's early and I'd been so sick.

I ask....any apparent problems?

Nurse says....None. So far she's doing great. Even her oxygen sats were good on room air....which was really surprising. For being so undercooked and stressed, she was a remarkably healthy kid.

The kid was never tube fed, and never needed oxygen. Just was too skinny and small to not die of hypothermia for a while...so we let them cook her and visited twice a day until she could come home (hospital was a 30 mile drive. if I hadn't been so sick, I'd have stayed there all day, but I was enjoying naps, and resting and getting my health back so I'd be up to her homecoming). Went with my mom in the morning, and hubby at night. My favorite aunt worked in neonates during the day, and kept a sharp eye on her for me. Even got her picture in the lobby of the hospital for a while. Elle was a tough little cookie. All evidence of her preemieness was short lived. By six months, she'd caught up and was on target developmentally with other six month olds.

Worked out great....but also cured me of ever doing it again. I damned near died. Hubby and I took joint measures to close the baby making factory.

Had intended on having two or three. Got one.

Have never been disappointed:)

MNDad
03-16-2015, 07:53 AM
By the way.....Home school Dads...don't feel left out on this one. Would love to hear your experiences with welcoming your kidlettes, too.

We really (literally) couldn't do it without you guys:)

:)

Hospital. Prolonged complicated labor ending in C-section.

Two days later, DW developed pleuritic chest pain, shortness of breath and low-grade fever. All of you medical folk will recognize that as pulmonary embolism - which, of course, it was. The worst experience was not having to deal with the heparin injections etc.; it was the fact that the hospital (the US News and World Report top hospital in the US, BTW...) was woefully ill equipped to deal with a new baby and a sick mom. Just figuring out how to have the baby in the room was problematic. The peak of the difficulties came at 2 AM one morning when DW and I were exhausted trying to comfort baby. Nurse comes in to do vitals and asks: "Why is your baby crying?" It was only completely fatigue that kept DW from blowing her stack. (Hint: cry is what 2 day-olds do. It's their job.)

Looking back on the experience, though - it was the start of a true partnership around parenting. If we could make that happen without the help of family - we can do anything.

fastweedpuller
03-16-2015, 09:27 AM
C-section after borderline preeclampsia and 3 weeks of bedrest. She was 37 weeks along to the day when my protein level started rising.

We had a doula and a birthplan. Frankly--and maybe this is just me--birthplans and doulas and midwives kinda make a birth a "failure" if you're not doing it the natural way. Sometimes moms get sick, sometimes babies have birth complications.

I am fortunate that my longterm gynecologist was also the head OB/GYN at the teaching hospital at the county hospital in Minneapolis. He insisted we try as long as we can to "do what you want," but he was worried, too. So my doula was in the delivery room with us.

(There's a midwives wing and a regular wing at that hospital; patients can choose. And doulas are on staff at the hospital or are subsidized if they're independent.)

It's all just as well it was a c-section; she was breech (not unheard-of at 37 weeks) but she also swam a knot into the umbilical cord. Probably would've endured more problems if we'd gone the natural-birth route. She was a skinny thing though: almost 21" long and just shy of 6lb. They let us stay in the hospital an extra day because my milk didn't come in until 4 days out.

I only wanted one kid, so every time something traumatic would occur, I would tell myself "well we're only going through this once." Everyone was uniformly wonderful, and it was a good experience...that I never wanted to go through again :D

BatDad
03-16-2015, 10:35 AM
Looking back on the experience, though - it was the start of a true partnership around parenting. If we could make that happen without the help of family - we can do anything.

We have learned this with every aspect of our lives.

DS9 - DW was a nurse assistant at the time, at an assisted living facility. A patient's wife was a midwife and we became friends. We only saw the doctor for the ultrasound, and everything else was with midwife. We scheduled an induction and checked in at the hospital. It was the best of both worlds; we had our midwife and we were in a hospital in a suite. The doctor was on call and ready if anything went south. Twelve hours of labor. DW wanted the natural way, until the pain kicked in. She begged for the needle after that. Other than that, everything was smooth. It was the two (then three) of us in the room, the way I wanted it to be.

DS3 - DW was an RN by then. She worked right up to the day (her choice). She wanted to go more natural, and we used a birthing house. Again, we only saw a doctor for ultrasound. Well, she came home from a nighttime 12 hour shift. She showered and laid down. Her water broke on our sofa. We had an hour drive to the birthing house. We got there, and were told she was not ready. Off to the mall we went, so she could walk and we could get brunch. We returned to the house and the action started. Things would have probably gone better if she was rested, but when the action started, she was going on 28 hours awake. We had a few issues, and were transported to the local hospital via ambulance. All together, by the time DS3 came, DW was awake 50+ hours. We had just enough time for cuddles, and the nurses took him so we could sleep.

In the end, I would always suggest how we went with DS9. Using a midwife, but through a medical facility. I am happy to say we are done, and though DW jokes about getting a girl, we choose to stop at two for various reasons.

Solong
03-16-2015, 10:57 AM
Dd10 - regular, eggular hospital birth. She came on her due date. My water broke in the tub. 12 hour labour, all the interventions. I was just totally naive about the whole thing. I'd been told at puberty that I would never have children, and was in a bit of denial right up to the end. Then, I met her. I wanted six more.

Ds3 - born in a remote post. He was almost two weeks late, so I was induced. 36 hours of labour. They didn't 'offer' things like epidurals. The last 12 hours or so are a bit fuzzy. His giant head got stuck, and it became an emergency c-section. I do recall clinging desperately to the nitrous oxide mask as they rolled me away. I wouldn't let go of it, so they just disconnected it and let me take it with me. I was done after that experience. Dd was there for about 24 hours of my labour, then a friend took her when things started to turn. She plans to create her future family through adoption.

I do remember looking over at dh between contractions, and seeing a pile of short hairs on my pillow. I was disgusted. "What is THAT?" Poor guy. "You pulled out my beard hairs."

skrink
03-16-2015, 11:40 AM
We had a doula and a birthplan. Frankly--and maybe this is just me--birthplans and doulas and midwives kinda make a birth a "failure" if you're not doing it the natural way. Sometimes moms get sick, sometimes babies have birth complications.

This. We're all different, with different needs and wants. There is so much judgement around birthing decisions, especially amongst many of the younger moms I know. It's like a badge of honor to have done it a certain way. I figure a birth is successful if mom & baby are both healthy at the end.

skrink
03-16-2015, 12:57 PM
Dd10 - regular, eggular hospital birth. She came on her due date. My water broke in the tub. 12 hour labour, all the interventions. I was just totally naive about the whole thing. I'd been told at puberty that I would never have children, and was in a bit of denial right up to the end. Then, I met her. I wanted six more.

Ds3 - born in a remote post. He was almost two weeks late, so I was induced. 36 hours of labour. They didn't 'offer' things like epidurals. The last 12 hours or so are a bit fuzzy. His giant head got stuck, and it became an emergency c-section. I do recall clinging desperately to the nitrous oxide mask as they rolled me away. I wouldn't let go of it, so they just disconnected it and let me take it with me. I was done after that experience. Dd was there for about 24 hours of my labour, then a friend took her when things started to turn. She plans to create her future family through adoption.

I do remember looking over at dh between contractions, and seeing a pile of short hairs on my pillow. I was disgusted. "What is THAT?" Poor guy. "You pulled out my beard hairs."

I have read this a few times and honestly lol'd each time, in a cringing, OMG sort of way. I can't even pick a favorite part. :D

Dd has never witnessed a birth but has asked lots and lots of detailed questions. I've answered her honestly, trying hard not to be too grim, and she is utterly horrified at the very idea of it. She has also decided that adoption is a most excellent way to go.

Solong
03-16-2015, 02:41 PM
Thanks, skrink. I was equally as elegant during my pregnancies too, lol. They're out.

I totally didn't get the whole birth as a rite of passage/female warrior thing. Just get them the eff out, thank you. At the end, with ds, it was all I could do to flip myself over to put in the next Harry Potter dvd. Hated pregnancy, hated delivery. Loved the result, loved breast feeding. It's so sad that I missed this current window of opportunity to sell my breastmilk to high-level athletes. Lost opportunities...

Laina
03-16-2015, 03:41 PM
Mine were born in a plain old hospital so that's what I put, but my second was born in the water in the birthing tub there, so in that respect it was more along the lines of "cool birthing trends."

IEF
03-17-2015, 02:25 PM
With regard to "cool birthing trends":

The trend to medicalize childbirth began during the industrial revolution around 1900. It began with the lower classes as a reaction to the overcrowding and lack of sanitation in their housing, while the upper classes continued to birth at home. It became popular among the upper classes in the US when "Twilight sleep" was brought over from Germany.

God did not create the human race in the late 1800s, nor was your great-grandmother a patchouli soaked New Age pot smokin' dreadlocked hippie who oughta be stood up against a wall and shot for believing every thing she saw on TV.

/PSA

halfpint
03-17-2015, 02:54 PM
Baby beat the midwife :)

DD was born 3.5 hours after my water broke, and her being our first, neither of us realized how fast labor was progressing. By the time DH called the midwie back and told her to come, I was already in transition. DH caught her, handed her to me, and the doorbell rang. Good thing cause neither of us really knew what to do next!

halfpint
03-17-2015, 02:59 PM
Thanks, skrink. I was equally as elegant during my pregnancies too, lol. They're out.

I totally didn't get the whole birth as a rite of passage/female warrior thing. Just get them the eff out, thank you. At the end, with ds, it was all I could do to flip myself over to put in the next Harry Potter dvd. Hated pregnancy, hated delivery. Loved the result, loved breast feeding. It's so sad that I missed this current window of opportunity to sell my breastmilk to high-level athletes. Lost opportunities...

Yep. If I could hire out being pregnant, I would. And I had about as perfect of a pregnancy/birth as one could possibly hope for. If I hated that much the easy way... dear lord help my husband if it's trickier next time!

skrink
03-18-2015, 04:23 PM
Yep. If I could hire out being pregnant, I would. And I had about as perfect of a pregnancy/birth as one could possibly hope for. If I hated that much the easy way... dear lord help my husband if it's trickier next time!

I liked the *idea* of being pregnant, and there were stretches of time when I did actually love being pregnant. But. Heparin injections, hemorrhoids, migraines, heart issues, back pain, UTIs... Big picture it was a big, fat, never again experience!! Toss in a little PPD and here I am, mother of one. :P

Heather62
03-18-2015, 04:52 PM
One C-section in a Turkish hospital and another in an American hospital in Germany.

JerbysMom
03-19-2015, 05:13 PM
The little brat was breech so they sliced me open and retrieved him.

RTB
03-19-2015, 05:40 PM
These are great!

I was a high risk OB nurse before HSing.

I had both my kids in the hospital with midwives. Since I worked in the area it did not feel foreign to me anyway, and my experiences were good both times.

I love the idea of natural unassisted childbirth, but if we were living in 1850 on the prairie, with the way my pregnancies / deliveries /' postpartums went, I'd be pushing daisies. But I always wanted a home birth - does that count? :)

alexsmom
03-19-2015, 09:20 PM
I think the idea of a natural home birth is really cool and romantic! Kudos to those that achieve it!
For me, it goes in the same romantic category as living in a research forest in canada, living in alaska and eating my own ducks, or keeping a herd of goats for making cheese. Dreamily fulfilling, but not really in the cards for me. ;)

alegre
03-20-2015, 12:30 AM
natural water births with a doctor in a hospital. not sure which category that goes in.

jenblackwell2
03-20-2015, 07:07 PM
I said hospital, but it was a little more of a mix between plain hospital and birthing center. I also had wonderful mid-wives! It was a pretty good experience.

meanoldmommy
03-20-2015, 08:30 PM
Both at home, one in the water. Had nothing to do with cool trends or feeling smug about medicated births. I was/am terrified of hospitals and that fear would have translated and created problems. I say wherever mama is most comfortable with least fear is where her baby should be born. No regrets for me, as both were perfect and I could sleep in my own bed and have people bring me foooooood!

crunchynerd
03-20-2015, 10:27 PM
I've run the gamut except never had multiples.
4 births between 31 and 41:
Failed induction leading to primary cesarean, just over 8 lbs.
Homebirth VBAC, healthy, 10 lbs and a few ounces.
Another homebirth VBAC, this time in the water, 9 lbs.
Another planned homebirth, but this time I developed a serious complication and planned transfer of care to a VBAC-friendly OB and hospital, but went into labor the night before the appointment to transfer, and made it to that hospital just in time to deliver (fast labors) a healthy 10 lb baby, all-natural hospital VBAC.

If I had it to do again? Definitely homebirth with midwife and labor/birthing pool, hands down. But I do NOT want to go through it again! Not even close! Getting too old for this stuff, and I don't seem to forget how ghastly painful it is, like we're supposed to. But being in the hospital did make it harder, though the nurses were absolutely phenomenal, supportive, cheering me on, accommodating my need to labor and birth standing up, etc. I couldn't have made it with less than that kind of support, and I think that's pretty rare in most hospitals, even today.

pdpele
03-21-2015, 12:40 AM
Had an embarrassingly easy time - birth center, midwife (certified nurse midwife), not attached to a hospital, so no drugs. I think if I did it again I'd do homebirth. I think I was afraid of having to clean up a mess or something and wanted to do it somewhere else. Back labor, but that's all I knew, so oh well. Midwife said I was a textbook birth. Nothing I did - just luck. I do not like doctors and hospitals. And I loved being left alone to pace, sit on the toilet, nibble and drink, go in at 9am and out by 5pm.

I was so hungry afterwards that we rolled through a Whataburger on the way home. Still makes me laugh. I had your baby and you feed me Whataburger on the drive home with our hours old infant in the back! There's a joke in there somewhere about being a redneck if...

rwilkenfeld
03-25-2015, 11:13 PM
I had an unusual situation. I was uncomfortable with my husband in the room when I delivered. He's a great husband and father, but TERRIBLE at dealing with me when he can't "fix" the problem. Plus I wanted to try to go unmedicated if I could. So I had a hospital birth, with a doula. And she was Fan-freaking-tastic.

The actual baby-having took 31 hours.....and I got an epidural at hour 27 as a compromise between c-section and getting to keep trying via labor. I really loved having a support person there---someone that could help explain what was going on, and support my choices. She actually started suggesting pain relief before I was ready, and never made me feel like any part of the birth was a failure.

By far the weirdest part of the whole hospital thing was trying to find someone to help us buckle her into the carseat. Because we weren't smart enough to figure out to loosen the straps. Awkward.

HawaiiGeek
04-01-2015, 05:53 PM
Having delivered many babies as a family physician, we would actually chuckle when people came in with birth plans. It basically insured that everything went wrong quickly. People have definitely been having babies for years without any medical assistance, but they also died a lot. Anyway I wanted a midwife and had a plan, then DS was breech - I did everything to try to turn him, but alas - c-section. Then all set for VBAC, DD is breech. Are you kidding me? By DS2, I knew I could VBAC, but figured since I was medical we often have the problems as the patient and just didn't want to risk uterine rupture. So 3 c-sections, I was crushed because I had been raised (by a labor and delivery nurse) to think it was a badge of honor. Now 12 years later, I am finally totally ok with how everything worked out. I have 3 healthy children. I am glad that other people have stated how important it is to be considerate and remember that everyone's story is different often for reasons beyond their control.

OreMom
04-08-2015, 09:56 PM
After I had my first boy, there was UNLIMITED milkshakes! I never wanted to leave the hospital!;)

Melyssa
10-13-2015, 05:29 PM
I had my daughter via a home water birth with a midwife.

squares
10-13-2015, 06:06 PM
Having delivered many babies as a family physician, we would actually chuckle when people came in with birth plans. It basically insured that everything went wrong quickly.

You mean like a "birth plan" that says "My baby will be born to the strains of Ode to Joy just as the sun breaks over the mountains to the east, and I will be needing no assistance (medical, pain, or otherwise) other than the occasional mopping of my brow with an unbleached, organic cotton cloth dipped in spring water lightly anointed with tea tree oil"? Because, yeah, that's a problem.

A real birth plan shouldn't cause any problems, though. There would be some room for preferences ("I would like to be able to move around freely and birth without epidural anesthetics" or "gimme the meds immediately, don't mess around") and contingencies ("I would like my spouse/mother/sister/whoever to make decisions for me if I am not in a good state to do so") or other needs ("my mother/sister/ex boyfriend is not welcome to be in the room with me under any circumstances"). Those things shouldn't get in the way of a birth, just help clarify preferences and needs.

HawaiiGeek
10-13-2015, 06:51 PM
Yes squares the first birth plan, the second never bothered me at all. Though I did prefer to at least get a hep-loc iv in place so we weren't messing around with iv access in an emergency, but I was fine with not running fluids and letting them walk and have a doula etc.

Shoe
10-14-2015, 12:10 AM
Ours were both in hospital, each with plenty of different complications, but eventually everything turned out okay.

(I wonder if another category in the poll for adoptive parents would be appropriate here?)

CrazyMom
10-14-2015, 01:15 AM
Great point about adoptive parents! Wish I'd thought of that!

Stella M
10-14-2015, 01:26 AM
All three of mine were born at a birthing centre. Best of both worlds, imo.

Maela
10-14-2015, 08:30 PM
I had two homebirths. My first was not fun, but resulted in a healthy baby and mom, and my second was amazing! Same midwife for both; she was great.

aselvarial
10-14-2015, 10:15 PM
Mine was born 7 weeks early via c-section. He was breech and there was a leak in the amniotic sac and that's how we lost his brother (infection picked up due to amniotic leak) so we didn't want to risk waiting and taking that risk again. I'd already had the steroid shot to help his lungs mature 3 weeks prior and he was born at just over 33 weeks. An incredible 22 inches, 7 pound, 33 week baby. The nurses kept asking if we were sure about that due date, but his development was in line with 33 weeks, just, he was BIG. Didn't get to take him home for almost a month....less than a week before Christmas. :-)

johannaengland
10-15-2015, 08:49 AM
My births were a mixed bag. I was in the military with the oldest 2 and worked on the L&D unit, so I knew everyone who helped deliver.

#1 was born with a midwife in small military hospital where they still wheeled women down the hall to a "delivery room" when the baby was crowning.

#2 was born at a flagship Naval hospital in DC with a resident that I knew in attendance. Baby almost died due to a bandolero cord, so I was happy to be in the hospital for that one.

#3 was born in a civilian hospital that the Navy (ex was still active duty) sent us to. Nurse was Satan and it was the worst labor experience ever. Birth was okay - baby was basically born unassisted as the nurse didn't believe that she was ready to be born.

#4 was born at a birthing center, in a jacuzzi with a midwife in attendance. Midwife was great and stood back while I caught baby myself. Midwife didn't touch baby for about 5 minutes, until I was ready.

johannaengland
10-15-2015, 08:52 AM
Stella M, I absolutely loved my birthing center experience, too. :)