View Full Version : Teaching Relaxation/Stress Relief?

09-10-2013, 11:35 AM
Any ideas for ways to teach my kids how to relax when they are worried or stressed?

In particular, I'd like a link to short little audio clips or videos. I have taught them what I know about it whenever it comes up, but some topics just seem to work better when they come from outside the family. After all, what I remember is what works for me, and that is not necessarily what works for them.

09-10-2013, 11:46 AM
I'll be following this. Dd definitely could use new ideas - agreed that some info is better received when Mom's not the one passing it along! I just ordered some guided meditation cds. We'll see how it goes.

09-11-2013, 07:57 AM
Yoga, meditation, and a quiet place to be alone have helped here (for the Kid and myself). And this will sound weird, but I also recommend a fish tank (or lava lamp or something similar) - something they can stare at when they need to focus on getting the stress and chaos down.

Pema Chodron's audio talks have been a lifesaver for me, personally.

I would ask the kids: "What do you need when you feel out of control?" Brainstorm.

Helpful Auntie
09-15-2013, 05:15 PM
When I taught middle school/high school physical education, we would teach progressive muscle relaxation. Not only does it help release tension being held in muscles, but it also engages the parasympathetic nervous system and releases "happy" neurotransmitters.

There are several you tube videos for progressive muscle relaxation, but many of them have that "floaty-meditation-musicy" feel, which is great if you enjoy that, but it's not necessary for results. Still might be good for practice until you/they have the skills to walk through the progression on their own.

Also, for in-the-moment stress (like during taking a test, etc), a simple exercise is deep, diaphragm breathing. Forcing yourself to take several, slow belly-breaths will also trigger the parasympathetic nervous system and counter act effects of adrenaline. If they can learn to interrupt that stress cycle, they'll have more control and ability to think more clearly.

Cynthia Williford
09-16-2013, 12:06 AM
When my son was younger, we bought Lori Lite CDs for him to listen to which helped him with relaxation. She has a YouTube channel that you can check out Relaxation Bedtime Music - YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL0144343EF5987B63) One thing that really worked for him was progressive relaxation. Here's an article about how to do it: How to Teach Children Progressive Muscle Relaxation (http://childrenwithanxiety.com/articles-resources/how-to-teach-children-progressive-muscle-relaxation) You can also make your own tapes/recordings by writing your own relaxation script and setting it to music you find soothing. Here's a guide for writing scripts: Free Relaxation Scripts - Easy Relaxation Techniques to manage stress (http://www.innerhealthstudio.com/relaxation-scripts.html)

09-16-2013, 05:45 AM
My son uses something called 'tapping' - basically you choose a phrase to say (there is a structured format) while you tap parts of your hand/face, e.g. “Even though I feel overwhelmed, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

New to Tapping - EFT Tapping Techniques (http://efttappingtechniques.com/eft-tapping/new-to-tapping/)