View Poll Results: Are you teaching Sex Ed? If so, for what grade?
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Yes- for 6th grade
Yes- for 7th grade
Yes-for 8th grade
Yes-for 9th grade
Yes- for a grade not listed
Yes-Not sure when we will teach it
06-01-2011, 05:30 AM #1
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Weekly Poll: Are you teaching Sex Education? If so, for what grade?
This is something that I had experienced while my oldest was still in school. In the 5th grade, the school system feels that it is a good time to show all the children, sex education films. They separate the boys and girls, of course, but some of the topics made my very sensitive child uncomfortable enough that he made myself sick. So my husband and I discussed it with him at home but didn't go into to great detail, waiting for his mind to catch up with his body. This next year will be his 9th grade year and I have to decided to take it slow by first introducing one of "The Anatomy Coloring Book", and we are lucky enough to have a POE center nearby that is all about the body. They offer classes which might be an option down the road.
So when do you as homeschooling parents think that it is appropriate time to teach sex education?Pandahoneybee -
Homeschooling two boys (17 and 12),3 dogs, 3 fish, 2 goats, 2 guineas and one grown man in NC since 2008! AND proud mama has 6 Rhode Island Red girls!!
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06-01-2011, 05:48 AM #2
We will certainly teach sex education; I'm just not quite sure when it will happen, since my son is only 8-years-old. As it is, we're not shy about talking about sex in our home, and he's aware that sex is something normal for adults who love one another. I think I'll just go with the flow and see when he expresses curiosity, or when puberty closes in (whichever comes first) before adding formalized sex education to our days.
06-01-2011, 06:28 AM #3
I voted no, as we discuss puberty, their bodies, and sex as the topic comes up and when each kid is ready.Carol
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06-01-2011, 07:03 AM #4
I have no plans to teach Sex Ed as a school subject. I don't really see it as that kind of thing, really. I understand why schools do it, because some parents don't bother and it is important to learn, but we have always been open about it in our house. My 8 and 4 year old both know the names of both male and female body parts, they both know (basically) how babies grow, and how breasts can make milk for them. The 8 year old understands the the sperm and the egg join to create the baby, and has asked specifically *HOW* the egg and sperm get together. I explained it to her clinically, and also that it's something that couples do because they enjoy it as well as for making babies. She also knows about puberty and that she'll be getting her period at some point in the next few years, and growing hair, etc.
06-01-2011, 07:42 AM #5bcnlvrGuest
I put "other". My answer is "yes", but from the get-go. My kids are 23, 17, 14, 9, and 6. All boys except for the oldest. We talk sex ALL THE TIME. I count it as homeschool. I still have my Netter Anatomy books from when I was a med student (very helpful). I get those out and make b+w copies for the youngest to color. Then we discuss. With the olders, condom use, STDs, babies, self-care, puberty, hormones, masturbation, relationships, etc. Whatever. It's all game. No stone left unturned. Sometimes even at the dinner table. *wince*
06-01-2011, 07:52 AM #6
I put grade unlisted because we do talk about it from the get go. We have farm animals so the basics are covered by the time you're old enough to wonder why that ram is climbing on the ewe (usually around 5 or 6) we talk about human sexuality as they get older. Definitely cover condoms, birth control std etc before the hormones kick in so that the knowledge is there when they do.4 kids. 2 launched - Fabulous Daughter (FD) and Eldest Son (ES); 2 in the nest - Boy1 (B1) 11/14/98 & Boy Other One (BOO) 12/16/00
06-01-2011, 08:14 AM #7
We'll discuss it when the time is right (when he's interested, getting to a certain age) but I haven't given it any thought yet since he's only 8. He knows some about how babies develop but doesn't ask much about how they get there in the first place. He's had no exposure to things that would cause many questions--he doesn't watch TV (except shows about engineering and the like), reads only age appropriate books and doesn't have older siblings or friends who might make comments. A (short lived) age of innocence, I guess.
He did recently read a book with daddy about puberty which was pretty hilarious. DH tried to skip a couple parts (wet dreams! yikes!) but otherwise openly answered any questions as they came up. We'll definitely be proactive, but I guess we have a couple years before he's really interested.
Sadly, he has a ps friend who, at the age of 7, has a "girlfriend". Apparently *all* the kids in his rural Nova Scotian school have paired up (holding hands, calling each other bf and gf, kissing on the cheek) which this boy's mom thinks is hilarious and cute and I think is downright appalling. The friend asked my son recently if he has a girlfriend and my son of course said no. His buddy said "well you should, I do" and DS replied totally innocently "WHY?". The friend of course had no response. I mean--yuck! So sad to me that kids so young are already thinking in those terms.
eta: this post makes it sound like we haven't talked about it much but we answer any question as it comes up. We're a very open, honest and matter of fact family, but this subject just hasn't made much of an appearance yet.
Last edited by hockeymom; 06-01-2011 at 09:18 AM. Reason: clarity? not enough coffee, clearlyMama to one son (12)
06-01-2011, 08:59 AM #8
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We are another "from the get go" family. I answer questions as they have come up. For puberty, they have all had that covered. The girls (8 and 9) LOVED the American Girl book about the body. I really don't think we need a formal class for it since they are getting it covered in an ongoing way.
I think about 5th grade is a really good age, personally. You want them to know about it before their body starts changing.Teri
Joseph (5/00), Libby (10/01), Caroline (9/02) and Alex (4/89)
06-01-2011, 09:16 AM #9
I chose other, because since my daughter is 5 I haven't really thought much about whether or not to do a formal "class" for sex ed. Mostly though I'm answering questions as they come up right now, and I suppose if I feel the need to fill in with a curriculum later I will.
Also it's kind of funny, in my fifth grade year they couldn't find a teacher for the boys, so we all had to be taught together.
06-01-2011, 10:19 AM #10
I voted "other." Sex ed is a continuous process from infancy into adulthood (and for some beyond). Sex ed happens as needed and when appropriate. Our son is 14 and started puberty last summer. His voice changed from a child's to a tenor, then a baritone and has now settled on bass. This obviously is not the only change. We live in Europe in a popular vacation beach town. It is common to see women topless at the beach and both males and females using the publicly displayed boardwalk showers naked. This has provided lots of fodder for sex ed discussions. Sonny also knows that he can (and he does) come to us with any question of concern. Talks of the human body, its chemistry and functions as well as its ailments and diseases are common place in our home (dad is an MD and I have a MPH) so sonny knows he always get the truth and not lockerroom sex advise. When it comes to the "how to" and the emotional part of sex ed it is of course based upon our own opinions and experiences which we impart to our son as needed. Also, his dad is very religious and I, of course, am obviously not. This gives sonny two distinct opinions of the morals and ethics baggage that sex has been saddled with, although our opinions are not always far apart but are held for differing reasons.Come to the Dark Side, We Have Cookies!
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