View Poll Results: What socialization issues do your homeschoolers experience on a regular basis?

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  • They are so socially inept that I fear they will become either a serial killer or Amway salesperson

    1 2.13%
  • I feel like they are less socially savvy than other kids their age.

    3 6.38%
  • They seem about as social (or anti-social) as most kids their age.

    20 42.55%
  • They seem to have a better ability to socialize with people than most kids their age.

    17 36.17%
  • I wish my homeschoolers were a little LESS social so we might actually see them occasionally.

    2 4.26%
  • Other (elaborate in the comments)

    4 8.51%
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    Default Weekly Poll: The (GASP!) Socialization Question

    That's right. You heard it here folks. Homeschoolers have issues with socialization. Now this may be shocking to you - - especially to those of you who are new to this whole homeschooling thing - - but I'm letting the cat out of the bag, right here, and right now. But please don't let it get out, or else we might have people actually start asking us questions about socialization in places like the supermarket checkout line. We might even be hassled by our hair dresser, or even our mother-in-law!!

    So this poll is completely TOP-SECRET, okay?? No one in the general public is to EVER associate the words "socialization issues" with homeschoolers...this is Just. Between. Us.


    Now that you have had your laugh for today, let's take a little closer look at this whole socialization "issue" and see how you really feel about it......
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    I said other. I have two kids and they are entirely different people.
    Dea is less adept in some ways & more adept in other ways, when compared to other kids her age. We don't have a home phone & she doesn't have her own cell phone, so her phone skills are not that skills of your average 12 year old girl. She also has some issues with keeping friends, but that is because of her ADHD & Bipolar, not because she's homeschooled. Also, the keeping friends issue is only an issue with some kids. However, she is better able to socialize with kids of a wide variety of ages - from babies to teens years older than she is. She is also very good at socializing with adults (and always has been).

    Jay is very outgoing, most of the time. He will talk to anyone, as long as he's got me (or another adult he is very comfotable with) with him. He regularly engages the adults around us (in line at the store, the cashiers, the librarians, etc.) in conversation. There have been many people that were shocked to hear how young he is, due to these conversations. He befriends kids of all ages whenever we're at a place that has kids (the park, etc.). Our biggest social problems with Jay are 1)making sure he doesn't divulge the wrong info to the wrong people and 2) he is very tactile - likes to hug people, sit on people's laps, etc. (only with people he knows) & not everyone is comfortable with that.

    Neither child has any trouble making friends. Also, I take the fact that the neighborhood kids ring our doorbell 20+ times a day, asking if the kids can come play, as a sign that their social skills can't be that bad. After all, if my kids were the reclusive, anti-social freaks people assume homeschoolers are, I doubt the neighborhood kids would want to spend so much time with them.

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    Geez Topsy, you didn't make it multiple choice LOL

    I wanted to click, "They are so socially inept that I fear they will become either a serial killer or Amway salesperson", so bad.

    But decided to behave and chose number 3 instead. ( Mine are young, how social can a 4 and 2 year old be, if they don't bite at the playground I am happy !!! )

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    They are so socially inept that I fear they will become either a serial killer or Amway salesperson.

    I picked:
    They seem to have a better ability to socialize with people than most kids their age.
    Both of my boys are outgoing and social. Their individual personalities color that, of course - PeaGreen is moody and may or may not be in the mood to be chatty, but when he is, he has absolutely no trouble being so. LittleBoyBlue is generally more of a loner, but gets along well with all ages and doesn't seem to be able to socialize well with any age group.

    When I was little, things like pumping gas, talking at the take-out speaker, talking to the waitress, the librarian, a teacher that wasn't mine... any of that, I was VERY cautious about. Not shy, but I was always aware that I didn't know them. My kids have NEVER met a stranger. They think that everyone is as enamored with them as I am. I think that's awesome.

    We just started homeschooling in January, so I can't say how much of that is due to homeschooling, specifically. What I can say is that I have noticed that some of the bad socialization habits that they were picking up on have disappeared. LittleBoyBlue was in 2nd grade, and the distinction between kids who were 'older' and kids who were 'younger' was more noticeable. Had he not been exposed to that attitude in school, I don't think that he would have made it on his own. He was really starting to make comments about playing with his 'little bother' (instead of 'brother') and now, those comments are few and far between.

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    I chose they seem to have a better ability to socialize with people than most kids their age. My daughter turned 6 this past Monday and I swear she was born with an "outgoing" gene. LOL. She has absolutely no problem making friends, she will walk up to other children at the playground and say hello. At her homeschool art class, she was the first to introduce herself to the teacher and her other classmates...and she is so social at her dance class that sometimes I have to remind her she is there for DANCING and not TALKING and GIGGLING.

    My son is only 1, so he does his best to smile at strangers.

    I'm not worried AT ALL about my kids and socialization. Although some of my family members and friends are...also the grocery store cashier and that one mom at the dance studio. Everybody is worried but me!

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    I voted "seems to have a better ability to socialize with people than most kids their age". DS is extremely social, he'll talk to anyone anywhere and especially loves adults. He has always had a much larger vocabulary than most kids his own age and has always been interested in different things (car exhaust systems instead of Sponge Bob, or whatever) so while he does have to sometimes explain himself to other kids, there has always been common ground in activities like sports. I've noticed too that his friends seem to look to him for answers--they'll ask him what certain words mean or to explain a concept that might be new to them, or to read things for them. At the same time he definitely has a silly gene and can be as goofy as any other 7 year old boy, so it balances out.

    Until he was 5 or 6 his speech was very difficult to understand (he had been diagnosed with severe apraxia when he was 3, something we allowed to go away on its own rather than make an issue of with therapy) but kids still loved him even if they didn't always know what he was talking about! Now we get comments all the time from adults about how well spoken he is, and they truly seem to enjoy having conversations with him. They are often surprised at the depth and serious interest in his questions and observations. Although his speech never bothered him, it's wonderful that his speech has "caught up" with his brain, especially since he literally spends 13 hours a day talking.

    When I hear the "what about socialization" question, all I have to do is point to whatever he's doing (like talking to a team mate) and the questions immediately stop. There is absolutely NO CONCERN about socialization at all. In fact he gets so much more opportunity now than he ever did in school, where asking too many questions and talking with friends was frowned upon.
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    I so wanted to check off "They are so socially inept that I fear they will become either a serial killer or Amway salesperson" just so it might have a response and not feel left out!! I did literally LOL at that!

    The reality is that for now my kids are just like any others their ages. My little guy may be a bit less social but it's only because he doesn't have anyone close to his age (4) to relate to here. I am hoping that will change soon with our upcoming move. He does, however, love his brother's and sister's friends and they all luckily love to have him play with them most of the time. He also will speak to many adults; he seems to get a vibe about certain adults and then just doesn't shut up! But my other two are normal 8 and 10 year olds, but a bit more quiet (I just have quieter kids) until they get to know their potential friends better, then all bets are off and I need earplugs.
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    They seem about as social (or anti-social) as most kids their age.
    My kids have friends, are reasonably polite and function well enough in social situations. My son is more reclusive than his sister (he takes after his dad...I rarely leave the house, except to go to work or grocery shopping), but is still well liked by his peers and has a girlfriend, so I guess he's doing all right. My daughter is quite bubbly and sociable, though some of her enthusiasm for life seemed to have drained away last year with all the bullying she faced.
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    I have one kid who's way more social than average and one who's somewhat less social than average.

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    at ages 5 and 3, my kids love talking to just about anyone, unless they just don't feel like it. you know, like most people. :-)
    ...parenting Kid1 since 2004, and Kid2 since 2007.

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