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    Happy New Year's Eve and Happy New Year's Day (to those who check in sporadically.)

    I'm normally not one to make (or keep) resolutions. However, in keeping with the typical new year-new start theme, let's list our "goals" for the year, if you have any.

    1) Try meditation. Everything I've read about it seems positive. I just have a difficult time sitting still AND making time to do it.

    2) Not worry so much about DD. She's heading into her final semester of college (hopefully) but her depression, OCD, and anxiety have really been difficult for the last few months. We're hoping she'll graduate on time and find her way to some meaningful (both in what she does and what she earns) employment. However, she's 22 and an adult. I can't solve her problems for her. I can give advice, and be supportive, but she's got to find her way.

    What goals do you have for 2019? They can be homeschool-related, personal, occupational....you name it!
    Carol

    Homeschooled two kids for 11 years, now trying to pay it forward

    Daughter (22), a University of Iowa senior triple majoring in English with Creative Writing, Journalism, and Gender, Women & Sexuality Studies

    Son (21), a Purdue University junior majoring in Computer Science, minoring in math, geology, anthropology, and history

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    Happy New Year!!!

    We finally made it up to CO to get DS's best friend. They are happy as clams. I'm dropping them off this afternoon to play unlimited indoor laser tag. New Year day plans are for them are to do a polar bear plunge - but I'm not sure that is going to happen. Snow is in the forecast with highs in the 20s. It has been below freezing for a week now, with lows in the single digits, if it snows, I'm not counting on the roads being easy to travel.

    I'm with you Carol on the meditation. I've done it in the past, enjoyed it, but never been able to stick to it. This year, new strategy. Start with an oversimplified goal, a micro goal, advance slowly, drop down to the initial goal if I find myself flaking on more involved goals. Then, polish up my diet, and drop a few pounds - the universal goal of everyone after the holidays. I usually save homeschool goals for the fall. The winter slump usually seeps in too deeply for me to be extremely homeschool motivated - I'd just feel like a failure for not meeting my (typically too ambitious) goals.

    We are on winter break! I did not realize how much we needed an extended break - huge sigh of relief. We've taken days here and there, but not a real, be lazy, watch too much TV, go nowhere break.
    Rebecca
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    Quote Originally Posted by RTB View Post
    Happy New Year!!!

    We finally made it up to CO to get DS's best friend. They are happy as clams. I'm dropping them off this afternoon to play unlimited indoor laser tag. New Year day plans are for them are to do a polar bear plunge - but I'm not sure that is going to happen. Snow is in the forecast with highs in the 20s. It has been below freezing for a week now, with lows in the single digits, if it snows, I'm not counting on the roads being easy to travel.
    So, how did the Polar Bear Plunge go? I went for a run in the snow this morning, but you'd never get me to put on a swimsuit and take a dip!!
    Carol

    Homeschooled two kids for 11 years, now trying to pay it forward

    Daughter (22), a University of Iowa senior triple majoring in English with Creative Writing, Journalism, and Gender, Women & Sexuality Studies

    Son (21), a Purdue University junior majoring in Computer Science, minoring in math, geology, anthropology, and history

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    Ugh. Goals for the new year. Should we actually make goals that we aren't all that excited about (speaking only of myself, of course)?

    I think one of mine would have to be to expand our social circles. This year, I'm going to schedule some meetups with homeschool groups and the 4-H Club. We had a lot going on and it was hard to work to fit these in. I really, really have an aversion to social gatherings, but I want DS to make some friends who have made some of the same educational and lifestyle choices as we have.

    Right now, he has two friends that he can call upon, but I find it difficult to get together with them, because they are either overscheduled or busy with school and homework. We want to make some friends who actually have time to play!

    Inmom, I hope things go better for your DD. I know dealing with OCD, depression and anxiety can be tough. My friend's husband has the same conditions, and recently, he was able to get off of his meds.

    RTB, how long is your winter break? I had scheduled our school start at Jan. 2, but in a weird way, I don't feel like I've had a break at all. Wish it would go longer.

    Just curious, when do you all start schooling again after winter break?
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    Oooh Goals! Ive been preparing since November!
    For Homeschool, I need to spend more time working alongside my older one. Even reading aloud with him, and discussing as we go, I started us up yesterday, the first two days have gone well. (Its 12:30 and we have finished school and lunch.)
    Ive known too many people “my age” who have been dealing with the C word, or other major health problems that have cropped up. If something like that happens to me, I want to be in the best fitness possible. So eat better, exercize more... that sort of thing. Our dinners typically look like (meat + starch), so I am trying to add in vegetables to the mix. My first goal is to get one red, one yellow/orange, and one green veg side dish per week. There is almost no overlap in what DH and I like when it comes to veggies, so Im going to have to start making things I dont usually eat, and DH is gonna be presented with stuff his mother instilled loathing in him about.
    The downstairs of my house has been pretty much decluttered, and when I stay on it, I can keep it presentably clean. Id like to work on getting he upstairs to that same level. Laundry and toilets are my housecleaning demons though.
    Thats what Im aspiring to, for the most part.

    Inmom and RTB, is meditating when the front of your mind is clear of thoughts, and afterwards you feel refreshed and sometimes “inspired” by a solution that comes to you? Ive dabbled in some meditation apps, but seem to get to the same state when I am quilting and focusing on getting the needle where I want it to go. I like to think that when Im so involved with hand-eye-foot coordination, the mental parts of my brain get a little rest.

    Happy New Year everyone!
    Homeschooling DS13, DS6.

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    Oh yes, AM, that is how I think of meditation anyway. I am no good at the regular sit still and calm your mind type. I am too fidgety and antsy. I used to find yoga meditative when I got in a good rhythm of breathing and sun salutes, but now even that my mind wanders too much. My current meditative success is horse riding. My body and less-thinking/more-reacting parts of my brain have so much to do that my thinking parts of my brain get a rest.

    Year goals.
    *Keep up our regular hiking and add in going on short camping trips more.
    *Take DD to swim in salt water more because it seems to be the only thing that fully clears up her full-body dry scaly skin. In the colder months she will just have to have salt baths.
    *Sort out my sewing stuff so I get rid of or finish with all the fabric and projects I have stored. The aim is to get to only have fabric that I am actively working on. It is the last area that needs the minimalist treatment in our house.
    *Work = sort out my website and market myself more.
    *We are going to try going meat-free for a year. Mainly to save $ because meat is so expensive, and partly for health. We are already dairy free because of intolerances and allergies, and meat-lite. So we are going to go kind of vegan but retain eggs and honey.
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    Vicsmom, we also struggle to find friends to play with, and we have tried all our homeschool group and activities resources that I can find. Everyone is all so busy or not the right fit or lives too far away. Its ok for DD10 as she does not have high social needs, but it is pretty much the main reason that DD5 wanted to go to school. I also really do not like social gatherings. I would much rather be doing something with a group of people and occasionally chat during the activity then be sitting in a group. It really peeved me off recently when I went out of my comfort zone to take the DDs to a homeschool group thing, on a freezing cold day, and a day I could be doing work. And I sat around and chatted to people for 3 h, even though it is not my thing, and they (the DDs) both proceeded to play on their own (not even with each other) the entire time! I hope you have more luck than me and find some people.
    New Zealand-based. DD 10 (year 5 [NZ system]) homeschooled, and DD 5 (year 0 [NZ system]) who is currently trying out public school.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alexsmom View Post
    Inmom and RTB, is meditating when the front of your mind is clear of thoughts, and afterwards you feel refreshed and sometimes “inspired” by a solution that comes to you? Ive dabbled in some meditation apps, but seem to get to the same state when I am quilting and focusing on getting the needle where I want it to go. I like to think that when Im so involved with hand-eye-foot coordination, the mental parts of my brain get a little rest.

    Happy New Year everyone!
    I do get in that frame of mind when I swim laps, or sometimes when I run. I think I'm looking for something deeper, or at least something I can turn to when I'm not exercising? I think just like my exercise, though, I need to make it a regular habit, whether I want to that day or not. I've been sporadically reading through Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics, but then I put it down again and forget it for a while. Some people also recommend apps, but I try to avoid putting any on my phone if I can help it.

    Does anyone who meditates regularly have any suggestions?
    Carol

    Homeschooled two kids for 11 years, now trying to pay it forward

    Daughter (22), a University of Iowa senior triple majoring in English with Creative Writing, Journalism, and Gender, Women & Sexuality Studies

    Son (21), a Purdue University junior majoring in Computer Science, minoring in math, geology, anthropology, and history

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    I try to meditate regularly. I am not very good at it, but I try to be mindful and find small ways to do it.

    There are lots of ways to look at meditation. Exercise is a popular secular one (prayer and singing other others, but religious-based.)

    There are walking meditations for those who need to move. It is less exercise based and more thinking about walking. Thich Nhat Hanh has written a few books on it. While he is a Buddhist monk, the walking mediation is quite basic and secular. Think about your feet touching the ground, your breathing, etc.

    Watching a candle is very meditative. It gives people something to focus on, yet it can really help clear the mind and see where the goal is. Also making a meditation jar which is more of a snow globe that you can make. Shake it up and watch the glitter fall. If they are made right, it can take time for all the glitter to fall. (This is a technique that is frequently used with kids.)

    Breathing meditations are helpful too. Just focus on breathing. There are a variety of ways to do this.

    I do breathing meditations the most, followed by walking mediations. I have trouble not focusing on something. My favorite is the candle mediation, but it is not always practical.

    I have resources on some of these, but they are Buddhist-based.
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    I had read about walking meditation, but had forgotten about it. Maybe I'll start there. Thanks, Miriam!
    Carol

    Homeschooled two kids for 11 years, now trying to pay it forward

    Daughter (22), a University of Iowa senior triple majoring in English with Creative Writing, Journalism, and Gender, Women & Sexuality Studies

    Son (21), a Purdue University junior majoring in Computer Science, minoring in math, geology, anthropology, and history

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