• Parenting

    by Published on 06-01-2015 11:44 AM
    1. Categories:
    2. Secular Homeschooling,
    3. Parenting,
    4. Day in the Life
    Article Preview


    The full discussion thread for this post can be found here.

    When you hear the word gifted, what immediately pops into your head? Do you think of the straight-A student? Or, a musical prodigy? A prolific artist? A pint-sized mathematician? Do you assume that everything comes easily to a gifted child? That he has a leg-up over his peers? Do you envision his mom as a tiger mom, hot-housing him from sun up ‘til sun down? Do you imagine his parents are the pushy, competitive type?

    My 7-year-old son, Leo, is twice-exceptional; he is profoundly gifted and learning disabled. As his mom, I’m forever frustrated by the gifted label. The label makes you think that gifted is neat and clean, as it conjures images of beautifully wrapped presents with neatly tied bows. That’s far from my reality, folks. I love my son more than words could ever express but this journey has been anything but a neatly wrapped package. Instead, I’d liken it to a wild, white-knuckled, roller coaster ride. It has been messy, and loud, and fraught with various concerns. Why? Two words: asynchronous development.

    A better definition of giftedness: giftedness as asynchrony


    The current gifted label carries with it many misconceptions and assumptions. The reality is, the social and emotional functioning of gifted children is largely ignored by the general public. I’d like to share my favorite definition of giftedness, and it is a stark contrast to that neatly wrapped present:

    Giftedness is asynchronous development in which advanced cognitive abilities and heightened intensity combine to create inner experiences and awareness that are qualitatively different from the norm. This asynchrony increases with higher intellectual capacity. The uniqueness of the gifted renders them particularly vulnerable and requires modifications in parenting, teaching and counseling in order for them to develop optimally. (The Columbus Group, 1991).

    What is asynchronous development?


    While most children develop in a relatively uniform pattern, gifted children are asynchronous in their development, and the more gifted the child, the more asynchronous that child may be. Do you want to know which children are the most asynchronous of all? The twice-exceptional children, those children who are both gifted and learning disabled. Children like Leo.

    Many ages at once

    It is often said that gifted children are “many ages at once”, they are quite literally out-of-sync. So, what does that look like, exactly?

    Well, let’s take a look at my little guy:


    This photo kinda sums him up, folks!

    Chronologically, Leo is 7-years-old. And he looks like your typical 7-year-old, but we all know that looks can be deceiving. We had Leo assessed last year and results indicated that his cognitive skills are above the 99.9th percentile across the board. That means that, intellectually, Leo is functioning at a level more than twice his chronological age. Socially and emotionally, however, he functions like that of a 5- or 6-year-old. In one moment, Leo can be extremely poised and mature, and in the next moment he can dissolve into a mushy mess of a boy. Just think about that for a second, folks. Can you imagine the frustration he must feel? His mind - his cognitive functioning- is like that of a teenager and yet those thoughts are housed in a 7-year-old body, a body with 7-year-old emotions. ...
    by Published on 04-29-2015 11:26 AM
    1. Categories:
    2. Secular Homeschooling,
    3. General Homeschooling,
    4. Parenting
    Article Preview



    Would you believe we've NEVER done a blog hop at SecularHomeschool.com? I'm not sure why, because it truly sounds like fun. So let's give it a shot, eh??

    We're all about the positive around here, so let's make this first ever blog hop a brag-board of what's gone RIGHT this homeschool year. You may have had 160 bad days this year, but we know there were at least a few that reminded you why you got into this adventure in the first place. Those are the ones to tell us about on your blog.

    • What did your kiddo(s) accomplish that surprised you?'
    • What change to your routine or schedule fixed some underlying aggravations?
    • What did your outside family members notice and take time to compliment you on?
    ...
    Published on 01-06-2015 09:41 AM
    1. Categories:
    2. In Other Words,
    3. Parenting
    Article Preview

    Homeschooling parents give and give and give. We are teaching from birth to graduation, and from breakfast to bedtime. We moms and dads tend to have the philosophy that every moment is a teachable one, so we are always on the alert for opportunities to impart wisdom and to ask questions that get our children thinking. How empowering it is to grow up in a household where knowledge is at such a premium! But for homeschooling parents, themselves, this atmosphere of always being in professor mode, can sometimes be a drain mentally and emotionally. We can easily hit burn-out by constantly being the imparters of knowledge and never the recipients. So what can we do to recharge our own intellectual batteries?

    Reclaim Your Brain

    I think the biggest thing we can do to reclaim our brain is to seek out new learning for ourselves. I am a big proponent of continuing education classes. In most communities, these are often offered through your local community college, although you might also find other organizations such as libraries, community centers, and parks and recreation departments creating programs for continuing-ed, as well. Our local community college, for example, is currently offering courses with such titles as "The Quest for Political Identity in the American Republic," "Local Geology", and "Eastern Religions." The great thing is that many of these continuing education
    ...
    by Published on 11-30-2014 09:59 PM
    1. Categories:
    2. Secular Homeschooling,
    3. General Homeschooling,
    4. Parenting
    Article Preview

    Are you a Pinterest fan? Do you love to countdown to the holidays, but are concerned about the religious overtones of most advent calendars?

    Guess what?

    Secular Homeschool has their very own Pinterest board dedicated JUST to Advent calendars!

    Get some ideas!
    Project with the kids!
    Project for the kids!
    Surprise the kids!

    Countdown to Christmas, Kwanzaa, Chanukah or Winter Solstice or whatever you want!
    Don't miss out!

    And hey, if you one you would like to share...PIN it to our board!!! Share and share alike!

    Treats, Candy, Acts of Kindness and even just reading a book every day.... you can do a holiday countdown in many ways!

    Personally, this Mom loves the little chocolate ones we grew up. Fond memories of my Grandparents providing me with a new one every Thanksgiving. I was a patient girl and did the correct one daily. My brother, he would eat several days at a time and then beg me for mine. Ummmm no!

    I usually buy my boys the Lego Advent Calendar and the chocolate one but I do LOVE the wrapped storybook countdown version we have on our Pinterest board!

    Psssst, pass it on to your fellow SHS members! The more, the merrier! ...
    Page 1 of 10 1 2 3 ... LastLast
  • Recent Group Posts

    pdpele

    experience with neuropsychologist evaluation?

    It was daily with the trainer for ~3 weeks then daily at home for about 3 months. There were a series of memory games that she did. Interestingly, the mode was "relax and pay attention."

    Group Nurturing Emotional Intelligence

    Started By pdpele Today, 09:03 AM
    TheFoxZoo

    Discussing Discussions

    Why, oh why, oh why?

    I just feel so unclean because of this....

    Group Boring People who Hate Debate

    Started By TheFoxZoo Today, 01:38 AM
    TheFoxZoo

    Discussing Discussions

    The Madeline thing got me too. "I am not a christian anymore, but I cannot even read a children's book without tying it to the Bible."
    I just vote with my non-participation on threads

    Group Boring People who Hate Debate

    Started By TheFoxZoo Today, 01:14 AM
  • Recent Blog Posts

    Miguel'smom

    Hypo manic mommy

    So this is my first post and some back round is needed. I have bipolar, as does my husband. Bipolar is a mood disorder that causes points of depression and mania. Mania for me includes psychosis,...

    08-02-2015 11:08 PM
    BoldHeartMama

    Homeschool: Let Go or Be Dragged

    The start of the school year came and went for us without fanfare. Roscoe’s pre-schoolmates and the kids of most of my friends had started kindergarten by September 2nd, but the boys and I remained...

    07-26-2015 08:39 AM
    BoldHeartMama

    Roscoe's Plan for His Week of Homeschool: Animal Dissection

    The latest branch of Roscoe's inquiry into the animal world—his first and enduring passion—comes in the form of dissection. It's something he has expressed interest in for many months now and began...

    07-26-2015 08:36 AM
    BoldHeartMama

    Preparing for the School Year

    Summer still feels in full swing but the calendar says it's winding down. Our first homeschooling year begins in just a few weeks and some of you have expressed curiosity about what we are doing to...

    07-26-2015 08:34 AM