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    Default Aloha from coastal SC

    Mom to 2 beautiful adventurers with 1 year of MBTP (Moving Beyond The Page age range 4-5) just finished 2 days ago with my 4yo while trying to keep my 3yo engaged and included. I came to homeschooling in an accidental yet anxiously-over-researched way.

    My 4yo has been speaking in full sentences since about 14 months old, she was potty trained in 2 days at 10 months, she is crazy perceptive, taking abstract ideas or disparate things and linking them logically. She’s also a perfectionist, overthinks things a lot of the time, is a social butterfly, feels all of her emotions deeply (like Marianas Trench deep), is in the 99% for her age in height (so acts and looks much older than she is), is obstinate, loving, inquisitive, energetic. In essence, she’s normal and unique & one of the 2 greatest joys of my life.

    My 3yo is a Hugosaurus Rex who wants to be just like her sister but has trouble because of an undiagnosed speech issue. We understand her (especially my 4yo & I) and anyone who’s around her a lot & listens picks up quickly but most people don’t listen, ignoring her or just turning to me for a translation of what they see as gibberish- especially when juxtaposed with her older sister’s advanced communication skills. She is beginning to lose confidence and has stopped talking to people she doesn’t know because she too is very perceptive and understands that people think she’s somehow deficient. We have talked and she hugs me and says she wants friends but doesn’t know how to tell them so they can understand. So, my vivacious, confident, curious, empathetic, energetic, fearless little bruiser is, well... normal and unique; as parents I think you get it. There’s always a struggle or something that just makes your heart hurt.

    We have moved 6 times in the last 4 years and have had little to no support via friends or family (not because they’re against HS, in fact, my DH’s immediate family are all educators and have all expressed support and faith in my abilities to teach - instead it’s been because we aren’t physically near anyone + severe health & life issues have kept contact minimal). Our hope and intent is that we are staying put for the foreseeable future and I am trying hard to build a support network. We have moved to the Hilton Head area of SC and I have found that, as soon as parents find that I am against religion in education, my kids and I become pariah. So now, almost 1 year after moving here and continuous efforts, we have one friend with a 2yo and another on the way but every other connection I’d thought we’d made has disappeared or is tenuous at best.

    I’m desperate for some sort of support network, as are my kids. We were happy with MBTP this past year + The ABCeDarian (phonics and reading) & The Life of Fred (math) and I’m about to get the MBTP 5-7 curriculum. We would love to look at joint classes with others, field trips, venting sessions, play dates, anything... formal, informal, whatever... but my girls (and I) are in dire need of some social aspect in which we don’t have to walk on eggshells or hide who we are in order to be accepted.

    hope that wasn’t too much

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    Welcome.

    Hold on to your one family you have made friends with and value them, even one is great!

    We have mainly found friends (for the kids) through after school activities (dance, ice skating, pony camp, music lessons, sports, etc.) that we do with public school kids.

    For me, I don't have large socializing requirements, so am happy with the odd catch up with friends and a weekly activity (private horse riding lessons, so 1 h of a me + horse + instructor, not very social but enough for me). Do you have any hobbies or activities that you could join a night class for and go to when the kids are in bed and you have your DH home to look after the kids?

    So in essence, if it is too hard to find the elusive all-in-one friends for you + kids + homeschool, split it up. Have you homeschool friend, your kids friends through activities with public school kids, and your needs in your own activities/hobbies.

    Also, I think you would like the Your Rainforest Mind book and blog.

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    Thank you!

    Your thoughts seem insightful and insight seems thoughtful. I just had a couple bursts of actual laughter reading the informal quiz (all but one, maybe two, apply): thank you. I’ll be getting the book & looking more into the blog.

    Splitting it up seems like a great option and one I’ll continue to explore! Wish me luck in uncovering secular HSers in my area, they seem to be the unicorns of my universe: made of myth, fable, & magic but no sightings thus far. Only time and perseverance will tell

    DH & I are trying to budget for additional extracurriculars; right now it’s swim only but both are way into tutus and any kind of body movement + my little loves to tumble and tackle. DH & I used to practice BJJ, I used to row + long-distance run. My time management since kids has gone kersploosh but the activities with others is still high priority. So far no luck but we will keep plugging.

    Many thank for the welcome, ideas, and positivity!

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Aloha from coastal SC