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    Good morning!

    I am the mom of a very sweet, but very ADHD son who is currently in the 6th grade. Due to his behavior and ADHD tendencies, he has been kicked out of private school and is currently having serious issues after his second year in public school. However, he is very bright and intelligent. His father and I are divorced, but get along very well. We have decided (along with his counselor) that homeschool may be the best answer in this situation.

    I feel overwhelmed, but optimistic. I currently work from home, but also as an independent contractor as a Verbatim Hearing Recorder (VHR) with the SSA. My ex lives very close to us, and he is very willing to participate in this new adventure.

    We are thrilled to find this group that provides a place for secular homeschoolers. We thoroughly believe in providing a secular education for our son. I look forward to getting to know like-minded people and learning more about how to provide my son the very best education opportunities.



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    Welcome! Tell us a little about your son’s interests and strengths, and we might be able to help you towards curriculums to try.
    Its great that you and his dad are both committed to trying this - as long as everyone is flexible, you can homeschool perfectly well. Open your mind to learning outside of the Monday-Friday, starting first thing in the morning idea of schools.... you can set things up for what is convenient to the three of you. If you are going to divide the ‘teaching’ workload with your ex, pick the subjects that each of you will cover - and dont try to do them on the other days.
    Deschooling is recommended by everyone who has brought their kids out from a bad institutional experience, and although it may seem like a waste of time to you, they assure that it isnt. You can think of it as taking your summer break early, and easing gently into homeschooling. Start with his favorite subject, and let him pick what it is. This way you will be learning how to homeschool him, without added obstacles of subjects that dont interest him. He wont fall behind for taking a few months off of any subject, really.

    You can ask, or search the archives for topics that worry you. Youre not the only person to pull their bright kid from school to start homeschooligng, or the only divorcee, or the only work at home mom making it work.
    Homeschooling DS13, DS6.


    My spelling was fine, then my brain left me.

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    Thank you so much for the encouraging words. I appreciate it.

    My son loves computer coding and programming, science labs, building/engineering, art projects, and most hands-on learning. He plays basketball daily and loves animals (we have 2 cats). He is always drawn to animals and enjoys interacting with them. He has a vivid imagination, and is not afraid to ask questions.

    Your deschooling recommendation really struck home with me. He has had a very negative institutional education experience. He has remarked several times that he feels like a failure. I didn't consider this, but I think taking a break and starting slowly will be a valuable experience for us all.

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    Thanks so much!

    He likes hands-in and interactive work. He really enjoys computer programming and coding, science lab, art projects of any type. He plays basketball daily. I was struck by your suggestion for downtown between this year and starting home school. That had not occurred to me, and I think it is a great idea. Currently, I am very interested in finding curriculum that will keep him engaged and help him feel more successful.

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    There are lots of tips for deschooling - some may seem reasonable, some may seem far-fetched and extremist to you. To me, it seems deschooling isnt “doing nothing”, so much as finding ways to actively heal your child’s self esteem, sanity, and confidence.
    Go to local state / national parks, enjoy the time together, perhaps fill out the Junior Ranger programs for the free stickers / badges. Theyre low-pressure, and of course, dont get graded. And if he doesnt want to do the programs, fine, just enjoy the time together.
    I find its helpful to have project books on hand so I can always tell my older son to go do something... Building Minecraft castles from a book, learning knot-tying, Calligraphy, SnapCircuits, StoryBlocks, Popsicle Stick Bridge building, Paper Models that Move... even the expensive Tinker Crates all work to achieve something that’s at least marginally educational, and gives him something to do other than veg out or waste the day away playing video games.

    You could also do art projects with an international flair, like in this Geography Through Art book (I found it through BuildYourLibrary).

    If he likes drawing, he can immerse himself in that activity, and you can guide it by checking out library books on drawing-related topics of interest (How to Draw Anime, Still-Life Drawing.... whatever floats his boat.) It’ll help him associate books with positive learning experiences, without judging or failing... like how we as adults are when we learn something new that interests us.
    Dont over-structure it for him, and you will learn both how he learns, and what times of day he has the best energy. (Plus, not being tied to an arbitrary school-dictated waking, eating, and peeing schedule.... yayayay!)
    Homeschooling DS13, DS6.


    My spelling was fine, then my brain left me.

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