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    Default Do you ever envy other generations?

    I have long wondered if anyone else looks at the baby boom parents, and ever envied them the relative ease in which they lived, even as parents?

    Food allergies may have existed, but rarely did any harm and certainly weren't commonplace. There was no such thing as a peanut-free school. Kids drank Tang and ate Twinkies and still weren't fat. Manwich was a meal, and there was always room for Jello. When it came to shopping, kids often waited in the car, or else went to the store with a short list, for their mother, and no one got arrested.

    Kids had a lot of free time to play, in school. An hour for lunch, and an hour for recess, in addition to daily P.E. including dodgeball. Kids roamed their neighborhoods on bikes, skinny skateboards, Big Wheels, and on foot, and their parents didn't fear harassment from local authorities or other adults.

    As a result, parents had time to themselves, also, because kids were allowed to be out playing, unsupervised, til dark. And you could throw a party and the biggest worry was whether you remembered to put a fresh Renuzit in the bathroom and made the Chex mix, rather than worrying about which environmental sensitivities and food allergies would make both of those impossible.

    Those baby boomers had it good. They were in like Flynn. They had it made in the shade. They still do, compared to my generation's outlook on retirement. Can we be blamed much for finding wistful allure in bubble lights and Peanuts specials?

    The cute "Charlie Brown" neighborhoods of split-levels, raised ranches, etc. with broad sidewalks, trees, large yards, and picture windows, that were what middle-class families could afford then, are now prohibitively priced.

    Is it any wonder that we look on that era with a mixture of envy and yearning, and a tinge of resentment?
    40-something mom of 4 kids who haven't been to school, taking it one year and one day at a time.

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    Maybe its seeing "the good things" and forgetting about the not so good. Free time for playing was great, but de facto racial segregation - not so much.

    My mom was born in the 50s - and I dont think her flavor of feminism has helped any. Without a career earning money, I am wasting my life away. My MIL's sisters gave her a similarly hard time about staying home to raise her boys (One became my DH).

    Im not really disagreeing with you about envying some parts of the good ol days, but I think if we were actually zapped back there, we wouldnt enjoy it as much as we think.
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    Get off my lawn, AM!! I'm with Crunchynerd!!

    Nah, the grass is always greener....but you have to admit there were a lot fewer distractions (and intrusions) then, than there are now.......that must have been nice....

    Thanks technology!
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    I don't envy any other generations, but I do feel a lot of resentment about being sandwiched between Boomers and Millennials. My mother referred to me as a Millennial a few months ago and we had a HUGE argument about it. At the end of it, I was like, holy crap, Gen X is the forgotten generation. We're tiny. And we represent a weird historical moment between the old times and the digital new ones. Sigh.
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    I don't. My parents are Boomers, but grew up with parents that could completely check out and no one cared. My Dad's dad worked offshore, even after my dad's mom died, and the older brother (14 or so) was left in charge for 6+ weeks at a time.

    I'm atheist. That wasn't AT ALL accepted when I was a kid.
    I homeschool secularly in the Bible Belt. Not an option 20+ years ago.
    I lived with my husband for 8 years before we got married and NO ONE called me a whore. My mom got called a whore for divorcing her first husband after she had a child in the early 80's and marrying again within a year.
    My sis-in-law is a lesbian, with a wife, and most ppl don't even blink when my son goes to visit for a week at a time. 30 years ago? My mom wouldn't have even let me ASSOCIATE with a lesbian, much less go stay with one for a week
    Geek-cons didn't exist. At ALL.
    My husband's best friend lives in London. One of my close friends lives in Rotterdam. And we can talk to them all the time.
    I can share pictures of my son with friends, or see their kids minutes after the picture is taken, while hundreds of miles away from each other.

    If anything, I envy my son's generation. If humanity doesn't blow itself up, or rip itself apart, the future could be an amazing place for this sci-fi geek.

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    Quote Originally Posted by farrarwilliams;2 20183
    I don't envy any other generations, but I do feel a lot of resentment about being sandwiched between Boomers and Millennials. My mother referred to me as a Millennial a few months ago and we had a HUGE argument about it. At the end of it, I was like, holy crap, Gen X is the forgotten generation. We're tiny. And we represent a weird historical moment between the old times and the digital new ones. Sigh.
    This. And I saw so many of my friends go through hell, or get weird ideas of relationships, or really bad coping skills because their parents divorced and acted like the kids were collateral damage. Baby Boomers are quite selfish (generally speaking).

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    Yeah, I mean, as a generation, I don't have a huge amount of respect for Boomers. Like, the people who got the stuff done, made the Great Society, lead for Civil Rights, etc. weren't Boomers yet Boomers always seemed to be taking credit for it. *We* changed the world, man. Yeah, sure you did. Every generation does. And now they're a large portion of the racists and the homophobes we're now all waiting to die off.

    Not that I think Gen X or Millennials are so much better...

    Of course, any generation has tons of people who are great. And horrible. At the individual level, it's pretty meaningless to judge.
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    Honestly, I don't envy other generations, either older or younger. I think each generation has had it's own crosses to bear. Granted, the boomers are a huge group, so of course government and policies are pretty much targeted to them right now, because between a very large voice and deep pockets, they have the power. (Sort of ironic since in their youth, the boomers were all against "The Man," and now they ARE "The Man.")

    Right now, I REALLY don't envy the younger millennials--those in college. I see my kids and friends so totally stressed out about their future, far more than dh and I were. We looked forward to it; I see these kids afraid of it.

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    The only thing I might kind of envy, esp. if I were in a situation like yours crunchymum, is that earlier generations lived closer to their families, so...a mom might have some help. The help of course comes at a cost, but...

    And yeah, so glad I am GenX for so many reasons, and I do blame boomers (like the husband a mere 2yrs older than me) for lots of this entitlement crap both actual (Soc Security) and philosophical (I am, therefore I buy). But do I envy generations earlier than the Boomers? Hell no. Why? 1973, baybee: Roe V Wade. 1960: The Pill. 1955: Polio vaccine. 1942: Penicillin. 1920: Women's suffrage. Think about the US before any of these dates, and...well, nope. Glad I am here now.
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    I have hope for the future generation, that we'll get over this racist backslide, and get back on the path of progress.
    I've heard a bunch about my grandmother's childhood. I really don't envy that. There is so much bad. With the segregation, and then her family was super poor. Stole the neighbor's doll so they'd have a toy, used sleeves for socks. Now we have Toys for Tots and donation bins that go to helping people like that. I remember growing up and all the fear and hate for the atheist neighbors. Now I'm married to an atheist. I'm a rather young mom, but still I notice a huge difference. Having not the best childhood colors my view of that whole time period though. It's hard to look back on that and not see all the ways the world is better now. We are the generation that will call the cops if your kid is left alone in the car, but the previous one would watch a child being abused and wouldn't report it because they didn't want to get involved. I mean they still do that really. Some people don't want to get involved in other people's lives.
    I have to wonder when it comes to childhood allergies and things is it because we are seeing a decrease in infant mortality rates? Are some of these kids with allergies and other issues we don't remember being such a big deal because the kids that would have had that would have died before their first birthday? Is it because of the global age we live in where almost everyone has a global platform to be heard and story goes viral so easy, so we have more a constant influx of news? Or is it really simply because there are more allergies because of something we are truly doing wrong?
    I'm not trying to judgmental or angry with the series of questions. I'm just honestly curious about it. Doing a google search doesn't really come up with much though, far too many conspiracy sites get top billing in google. It's been said before but every generation has it high points and it low points. I love the fashion of the 1920s but there is so much of that time period that I wouldn't to back for. Same with the 1950's I love those dresses, some of the tv shows. The excitement of some of things going on. This generation has the same, some great exciting things happening, some really cool things we get to experience, play with and learn. We still have our dark side too. It's all part of the human experience, and it's easier to look back and think they had it better but it probably all about evens out in the end.
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