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    It also helps when you reach the point of really and truly not caring what anyone thinks about your choice to home educate. I will not debate this. If someone asks for resources to check it out, I will suggest some, but I do not care if they follow up or not. I am not at all invested in convincing anyone or defending our choice. If someone truly just wants information or is wanting to address their own doubts about perhaps trying it, I'm more than happy to share how I have overcome those. But for those who are only trying to criticize and argue to give me doubts, and they are easy to spot as their tone is very different, I will not waste my breath.

    I will politely decline debate once. After that, I am no longer polite about it. I will turn to arrogance (regarding my own education, experience and intelligence), stubbornness (it took years of facing down naysayers pre-kids for me to build this confidence), the worthless nature of my own K-12 education, and a somewhat abrasive conversational tone. They asked, I kindly offered a place to find more information, and declined to debate our choice. If they didn't catch my clear signal to back off and kept going after that, it's on them. People do not return to me with another attempt at debate after this.
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    I am the same way. I have no desire at all to debate it with people who think otherwise. I'm more of just you do what works for you and I'll do what works for me.
    Mama to 2 kids, DS(7.5) and DD(5)

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    "Family Matters Why Homeschooling Makes Sense", by David Guterson is a good one. He teaches high school English while hsing his kids. He also wrote "Snow Falling on Cedars", a novel I loved. I think he does a good job with the pros and cons and with talking about the limitations of ps. Of course I never would have gotten my family to read it. They had to see for themselves that hsing was going to be OK and most of them have come around.
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    It's been a long time since I looked at Home Education Magazine's website www.home-ed.mag.com I believe. But I do remember there being something like a free ebook or pamphlet that was an intro to homeschooling.

    I really enjoyed David Guterson's book and I love Snow Falling On Cedars and the movie!!!

    I think that it's highly doubtful that I would ever get my in-laws to read anything either. They just needed to learn to accept that I was the parent and that everything was going to turn out okay.

    I nearly gave my MIL heart attacks with my firstborn, and the first grandkid---natural birth at a birthing center, breastfeeding into toddlerhood, cosleeping, vegetarian family and homeschooling---she's come around now though. But whew it was her nightmare at first.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Walking-Iris View Post
    I nearly gave my MIL heart attacks with my firstborn, and the first grandkid---natural birth at a birthing center, breastfeeding into toddlerhood, cosleeping, vegetarian family and homeschooling---she's come around now though. But whew it was her nightmare at first.
    Your MIL and mine should do lunch. They could commiserate!
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    Quote Originally Posted by wife&mommy View Post
    I am the same way. I have no desire at all to debate it with people who think otherwise. I'm more of just you do what works for you and I'll do what works for me.

    ^^^ I agree ^^^

    You can't really change other people's minds when their goal is to change yours. So it's easier to live and let live.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Walking-Iris View Post
    I nearly gave my MIL heart attacks with my firstborn, and the first grandkid---natural birth at a birthing center, breastfeeding into toddlerhood, cosleeping, vegetarian family and homeschooling---she's come around now though. But whew it was her nightmare at first.

    LMAO! I bet that was a fun couple of first years! ha ha!
    DS - 7 - An active, senstive & brilliantly clever negotiator
    DD - 5 - A drama princess who wears her heels & tiara to collect rocks in the mud.

    2011-2012 GOALS = to not stress out my children or our family with the learning/teaching process...to teach the love of learning...to enjoy my children to the fullest so when they fly the coop, I don't look back with regrets.

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    I do wonder about the motivations behind some people's questions / comments. Sometimes they are genuinely interested or even admiring, sometimes it comes from real concern, but many of you seem to be getting various versions of "Hey you're WRONG".

    Why would somebody talk like that? I wouldn't dream of telling another parent "Schooled kids have inferior social skills" or asking "Aren't you worried that your child won't be able to keep up with the homeschooled kids?", much less expect the parent to provide books, articles and studies to show that school is a good choice.

    I really suspect that many people are simply being defensive: they would prefer that everybody conform so that they don't ever feel obliged to question their own choices.
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