02-07-2011, 08:28 PM #1BrendaEGuest
What is your teens Schedule/style?
Weve made some changes this year in 8th grade. We went from years of get school done in the early mornings to early afternoons to something more... carefree?
In respect to the idea that teens begin having natural changes in circadian rhythm. Such as naturally staying up later and waking later in the morning. I have begun giving her freedom to regulate her hours. She has been waking at 9.30- 10 am and does just a little work, then proceeds about her day and activities like PE and being with friends and GAHHH facebook etc.. Then she takes her work up to her room around 10 PM and works until 12pm -1am, then sleeps. It seems to be keeping her in a good mood with a good attitude and her work is not suffering, in fact she is doing even better.
I dont know if this is really just.. unhealthy or going to hurt her in some way I havent thought of.
Am I the only parent of a teen making it so easy with the strange hours or?? How is your teens schedule?
I have the benefit that she has been home schooled for ages and is really great at the whole self directed process. All those hours of teaching face to face have significantly dwindled. I expect well thought out and written essay answers etc and she provides it. She even cites her sources (which I never even asked her to do).
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02-07-2011, 08:48 PM #2
We too have let our pre-teen daughter change her schedule to meet her changing circadian rhythms. She starts her school work much later than the younger ones. We let her sleep later, and she usually starts her work around mid-day. She's very self directed and gets everything done without any prodding. Since letting her control the schedule, she's been happier and doing great work.Stacey
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02-07-2011, 08:54 PM #3BrendaEGuest
We started just that way too.. It kind of bounced around from the old way to the new way a few times. This year though has been steady. When she was 11 and 12, sometimes there needed to be an attitude adjustment and it all had to do with out of whack sleeping schedules. The only worry I now have is if I let her continue on even though she is finally steady, that she might become a COMPLETE night owl. Could be genetic
02-07-2011, 09:08 PM #4
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We start school at 1pm. My daughter stays up late also. Me too for that matter
02-07-2011, 10:58 PM #5
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The teen i'm homeschooling is the only morning person in the family other than me . . .but we've adjusted somewhat to the rythm of the family. He gets up between 8 and 9, hubby and i are done showering and dressing by 9-ish . . . on martail arts days, school starts by 10:30 and on non-martail-arts days, 11 or 11:30.
My daughter, tho, she was a serious night owl. She couldnt get to sleep before 12 or 1 and needed about 10 hours of sleep. She was chronically overtired and would get the flu for at least 2 weeks every year, and be a total beast. I worked with the school so her jr year she took only 2 classes at school, 2nd and 3rd period - our high school starts close to 9, so she would shower at night, roll out of bed around 9, dress and eat and i'd drop her off at the door just before her first class at 9:45 (something like that). The rest of her classes were independent study and night classes at the community college. Her sr year, everything was at the community college or independent study. Her first class was at 11 i think, and she sometimes had time for a shower in the morning!
Not fighting her schedule really made her happier and healthier. We didnt get along well enough to home school, but i think honoring your self, including your internal clock, is a great thing for a homeschooler to learn. If she finds there is something on a daylight schedule she really wants, she will make it happen. Plus, I remember around 20, getting up in the morning became easier.Cara, homeschooling one
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02-07-2011, 11:06 PM #6
My 11yr old gets up later. I think that's fairly typical, although my eldest daughter has always been an early bird and still is.
I think it's all personal preference. I really prefer dd to do her maths in the morning because I find I'm a better teacher at that time. I guess we have a compromise - she sleeps later than I'd like and I get her up earlier than she'd like. I also don't like her sleeping for hours while everyone else is doing morning chores etc.
The only thing I'd be worried about with that sleep schedule is whether or not she'd be grumpy on days when she has to get up earlier.
If it's working for you though, I say don't worry
02-08-2011, 12:49 AM #7
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Miguel's only 8 but he's always been a night owl and needing 10-12 hours sleep. I rarely see him up before noon. He has to be in bed by 9-10 pm depending on how tired he is and we are but even if it is completely dark in his room he's still awake at 12-1 am. I feel that even resting is good for him. We sometimes let him read all night if he's completely absorbed.
02-08-2011, 01:01 PM #8BrendaEGuest
There are all kinds of articles about night owls being *coughs* geniuses... mouhahahhahahahahha
ok ok ! uhmm... *looks at ceiling for a moment* My daughter was ALWAYS a morning person until recently. That made raising her so hard as I am a 100% night creature. 5-6 am wake ups from cute 5 years olds "Mooooommmy, the suuuuun is on!" in sing song joy was a bit of torture. At least it was cute. So I am totally loving this circadian rhythm change. I have no idea if it will return to her morning vibe or not once she reaches her majority... it remains to be seen. I just dont want to do any damage either by LETTING her ..sleep until what seems like will eventually become noon.
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03-04-2011, 08:34 AM #9
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My daughter has always been a night owl, from about the age of 5 or 6 on. When we started homeschooling this past November (she is 15 now) her school work and learning improved, but we fought a lot about getting up and doing it. About a week ago, I gave up; I'm tired of fighting with her. So now, she sleeps until she wakes up, and she is awake til the wee hours of the morning. I know she was still up when my husband left for work (around 430) because I heard him say goodbye to her. This sleeping arrangement is still "new" so after reading the above posts I am going to looking into the "circadian rhythm" and Hope that her attitude and school work improve.
this might be a double post, not sure where the first one went
03-05-2011, 11:56 AM #10
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Theresa, you have no cause to hang your head over your daughter's sleeping habits. What works for you and your daughter is just that--what works for you. As long as she does the work that she needs to do, what does it matter if it is at 8:30 am of 8:30 pm (or 2 am, for that matter). Anyway, I assume you are a homeschooler, at least in part, because you do not care to fit into any strict mold that society at large would thrust upon you. So hang in there and good luck with your daughter. Hope this routine works well for you both!Deanna
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