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    Default Anyone pondering throwing in the homeschool towel after this year?

    Just curious. We have families in so many different stages of homeschooling pop through the forum at different points. I'd love to hear from anyone who feels like maybe they've reached the end of the line with homeschooling for any reason. Maybe finances. Maybe kiddo(s) wanting to go back to the classroom.

    Definitely not gonna try and talk anyone out of anything, I just thought it would be good for those who were thinking in that direction to be able to chat with others in the same boat.
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    Not throwing in the towel, per se, but DS is going to a friday program at a private school, and he really enjoys it and has said he wants to go all week. My work is ramping up and (honestly) I'm ready to be able to work more normal hours and not try to juggle what work I can around him. We also moved last year and I think he's missing the depth of his old friend network. I'm not sure if there'll be a vacancy for him, so I am starting to think about plans for next year.

    Actually, one of my issues is being able to let go of his education if that happens, so I would like to talk to other people about that. I've also found that having a long break isn't beneficial, but I'm not sure whether I could 'do school' when he's on summer breaks from actual school, say. I think it would be more unschooling, but I'd like to keep some kind of routine.

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    Were you listening in on my conversations today? We just started doing a blended program through our school district for my daughter and it turns out she loves school. Granted she only goes for electives/specials so who doesn't love those parts of school? I love the idea of her having a community and something of her own. I just can't wrap my mind around letting go of all the reasons I started this in the first place. And I'm glad for these forums because I feel like y'all get it. I hate the idea of her taking state tests and us not having the freedom to learn and explore based on her interests. But in all honesty, being a SAHM has been incredibly difficult for me and as much as I hate to say it, I would like the one on one time with my youngest daughter while my oldest was at school. But it's times like these when I wonder if I feel this way because it's tough, or if I legitimately need to reevaluate our decision to homeschool. Thanks for letting me ramble!

    Edited to add: I also wonder if I would find homeschooling/momming easier if we weren't in a super remote area with little to no secular homeschool support.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mommaP View Post
    I just can't wrap my mind around letting go of all the reasons I started this in the first place. ...as much as I hate to say it, I would like the one on one time with my youngest daughter while my oldest was at school. But it's times like these when I wonder if I feel this way because it's tough, or if I legitimately need to reevaluate our decision to homeschool.

    Edited to add: I also wonder if I would find homeschooling/momming easier if we weren't in a super remote area with little to no secular homeschool support.
    My Girl will be in 8th grade next year. Until recently, I was fairly certain we would be homeschooling through high school, though Hubs is ok with public high school. She is making noises about public school. Boy could use more one-on-one time (though I suspect Girl would resent that).

    Where in AK are you? Fairbanks, where I am, is not "super remote," so I guess we're not neighbors, but the lack of secular support is evident even here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BakedAk View Post
    My Girl will be in 8th grade next year. Until recently, I was fairly certain we would be homeschooling through high school, though Hubs is ok with public high school. She is making noises about public school. Boy could use more one-on-one time (though I suspect Girl would resent that).

    Where in AK are you? Fairbanks, where I am, is not "super remote," so I guess we're not neighbors, but the lack of secular support is evident even here.
    Melissa we are in Valdez. There are a decent number of homeschoolers here, but a lot of them meet in a church for group stuff. I'm not anti church, but I am just wishing there was more for us non churchy folk. We're not here much longer, so I really struggle with the choice to keep pushing on or to throw in the towel.

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    I am on the cusp of putting my 7 yr old son into a Montessori school and work there 3 mornings myself. It is so nice to have a place to write this as some groups shut down all discussions of the possibility of ending or taking a break from homeschooling. And I so appreciate a secular group as well.

    We moved to Ohio last Spring and did not intend to homeschool, but I could not find the right school for my son and for me- so we gave it a go.

    I think I would be more likely to continue it if we could have found more local secular and/or Montessori homeschool groups, but I've had no luck.

    At this point, it is such a mixed bag. I would love for some outside support for his education and physical activity and social/peer opportunities, but I do love our freedom- from both of our social anxiety issues, from morning routine stress, from 5 days of school a week (3 would be great), from me having to get my s$$t together and be "on", the freedom to go on a fieldtrip or roadtrip on a whim, etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Scadams View Post
    At this point, it is such a mixed bag. I would love for some outside support for his education and physical activity and social/peer opportunities, but I do love our freedom- from both of our social anxiety issues, from morning routine stress, from 5 days of school a week (3 would be great), from me having to get my s$$t together and be "on", the freedom to go on a fieldtrip or roadtrip on a whim, etc.
    Yes, this ^^ The school DS would attend will do 4 days a week, but most of his friends currently are in the Friday program, so he would be really unhappy about not being there on the day they are. I love to be able to go places or just take a break. We moved here last spring and have made some friends, but he's starting to really enjoy the group socialisation at school.
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    We are actually getting better at this homeschooling thing as time goes on. Our 12 yo son likes being at home so far. We are taking it one year at a time & our kiddo can make the choice when/if he returns to school.

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    We're committed through next year, 8th grade. However, at this point, my children want to go to high school.

    I would like to home school all the way through, with some outsourcing and local college courses. The main reason my children want to go to school is the lack of friends. Their last three HS friends are going to school next year. So, we will see how it goes. I believe we truly are the only secular HS'ers, at least over age 7, in our area. As I've said in the past, we are open to hanging out with people of faith if we can keep religion out of the mix and they can accept our lack of faith - so far we haven't met those people.
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    We're in this boat. A few weeks ago, DD declared that she might be interested to "try school." Felt like a gut-punch, if I'm honest. The three of us talked multiple times about it over a few days, discussing pros/cons. We travel a lot, and that would be the main con to school. DD reversed herself and said she didn't want to go to school.

    Well by then, I had put some wheels in motion - a date to tour the local charter school, and arrangement for her to spend a day at school at the school I favor, a private school that focuses on outdoor education. The three of us loved the charter school, but that public school calendar is a real bugger.

    The day she spent at the private school - she came home very exhausted, but declared the experience "awesome." She said she didn't want to go to school, but if she DID go to school, she'd want to go there. We should hear in a couple weeks whether they have an open spot for her, so no imminent decision is necessary. We just keep saying we are doing our due diligence and scoping out options. A close friend's children went to that school, and in conversation, she said so long as DD was keeping up, she didn't think they'd have a problem with absences due to travel. I'll address that issue with the school AFTER we get a place there.

    I would say at the moment, despite my initial horror at the idea, we are leaning to school. We feel like we've had a great run on this HS journey, but DD's desire in the first place was really about friends. All her gymnastics teammates go to schools, and she feels different and left out of those conversations. Bottom line is that the school is excellent, and I feel absolutely positive that DD will thrive no matter where she gets her schooling.

    What we'd REALLY like is for her to quit the gymnastics team. Three times per week at 3.5 hours each, plus travel to meets and such. She's not going to be on the track for national greatness - we are realistic. The discipline, team spirit, hard work, and excellent exercise she gets are all pluses. But it is an absolute pain in the ass dealing with last minute changes to practice schedules, et al. DH and I are done, done, done with it, but DD is hearing none of that. It will come to a head this summer, I figure. She wants to go to Girl Scout summer camp for a week, and we are taking the RV to Canada for a month. I doubt the gym will be happy to promote her to the next level if she'll be missing 6+ weeks of practice. We'll see.

    Good to see we're not the only ones considering transition. I get VERY weepy thinking about no longer HSing, but at the same time, MY life would be so, so much easier if that was no longer on my plate. Just trying to stay open-minded and hoping that the right path will present itself in a very obvious way.
    Working mom homeschooling DD (8) who is working on a 4th-5th grade level and keeps me hopping!

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