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    We've been homeschooling for six years, and it's been a truly amazing experience for our daughters (13 1/2 and 11). I was asked today to homeschool a friend's 7 year old daughter, who is very bright and definitely gifted in math.

    I'd welcome any insight, pros, cons or experiences from this group. I'm really at a loss as to what to do. My husband feels it's ultimately my decision. Our girls are both supportive and feel we should at least give it a try. I don't want to rock the boat - things are going so well for our girls. I hate to mess it all up. Yet, I want to help this little one.

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    Would you have this kiddo in your home 5 days a week?
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    Also, is it legal? You should check.

    When dd was having trouble in Montessori, one of the other teachers "went rogue" and started her own school. She held it in the house of one of the families who dropped out of that Montessori, and the school ended up being 6-8 kids, lasted 2 years. We interviewed and were very tempted...but teaching kids not your own without the cover of a "real" school is illegal in Michigan. Not sure if that's the case in FL.
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    Quote Originally Posted by fastweedpuller View Post
    Also, is it legal? You should check.
    I did some research a while back on states where the laws actually specify that the instruction must be done by the parent. Unfortunately, FL is one of those. Now, there are a hundred reasons to justify why that isn't always the case (as in online schools, etc), but I just wanted to point it out. I went and grabbed from my bookmarks, and here's the specific language in the FL bylaws:

    "(1 ) A “home education program” means the sequentially progressive instruction of a student directed by his or her parent in order to satisfy the attendance requirements of ss. 1002.41, 1003.01(13), and 1003.21(1)."

    Now, whether your help could be construed as still "directed by the parent" I couldn't tell you. Could be open to interpretation?
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    Yes, 5 days a week. The more I think about it the more I feel 4 days a week would be so much better.

    I've sent the statute to an attorney for clarification. I was concerned about the legality of it as well. I'll need to wait for clarification. However, I'm making tons of lists - pros and cons.

    Thank you, Topsy, for the info.

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    I was going to say the same thing. I think you can register yourself as a private school to get around it - private or umbrellas don't require any teaching certificates, etc. But then you would also be responsible for stuff like transcripts and reporting your tuition earnings, etc. Be careful.
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    I think it's a huge undertaking. You really have to have a beyond deeply good relationship with the parents to make it work, I think. Homeschooling can be a topsy turvy thing.

    I'd lean against it just because she's such a different age from your kids. She needs totally different topics and a totally different type of teaching attention.
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    For me to do this for a friend, there would have to be a very good reason - like, the child needed homeschool because of a learning disability or emotional issue -and- the parent was simply not able to do it because of problems of their own. Or, they would have to pay me a lot. We've only been doing this since May, but I've been tutoring a friend's kid for dyslexia for over a year for free. I offered. I'm glad I did and i don't regret it - but I can tell you that as sweet as this kid is, and cooperative, and all of that - I can't imagine having him as an extra full-time student. I'm already spread thin with one + life + a pt from home job!

    This would be a big, hard undertaking unless the child came with their own curriculum and was able to work independently and just needed a place to sit and someone to ask for help every now and then.

    Anyway, that's my .02. I read your question when you posted it and had this thought, and it still hasn't changed! You may be a far more patient and organized person than I am, and love the teacher role - so your mileage may vary. I'm grumpy, selfish, want to go to the gym, and already am a crappy housekeeper so I know I would fail in that role unless it was an act of love!

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    I can't speak for other states but if I were going to do this here, I definitely would not register as a private school. Schools are required to follow a bunch of building regulations that my house can't live up to. I would also look into child care regulations. I know here that if you watch two unrelated kids you need to have a license for child care. I would be careful about taking money for it, and put in writing what the money is for. I'd have her sign something agreeing that she is doing the schooling, not me, even if I help with "homework". I'd probably end up making a ridiculous packet of disclaimers... but I would definitely want to help, and I think it would be really good for my little one who gets so lonely sometimes.

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    Co-Mom, I have lists of my personal weaknesses and new year's resolutions. One of those is taking better care of myself and exercising. However, when it comes to our homeschool program, I am a very organized and structured. I'm a good planner. You could pop by my house for a cup of coffee or glass of wine anytime, and I'd be ready.

    For me, it's my job and I give 100% to our girls. I'm proud of what we do.

    I've been reading, researching and talking, and I discovered that this family friend doesn't need a teacher. They need a governess. 8 to 2 won't work. They will always want more from me. And, I'm not prepared for a third child.

    And, Co-Mom, they are willing to pay me a ton. Way more than I'd ever expected. It would cover all of our household bills. I actually thought my husband would want me to homeschool this little one because of the money, as it might take pressure off of him. However, he insisted I needed to make this decision without money being a factor.

    Farrar, you made a strong point about age differences. This is a huge area of concern for me. I don't know if I could manage the three age brackets and deal with this child who is so gifted.

    Thank you all so much for the information. I will most likely decline the offer. I appreciate all of your comments.

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