View Full Version : Weekly Poll: Would you ever consider homeschooling someone else's children?

01-04-2012, 10:02 PM
I have a local homeschooling friend who keeps battling a specific illness. Just when she thinks she has it licked, it knocks her right back on her butt again. She really doesn't want to put her kids back in school - - especially since her flare-ups are sporadic - - but she isn't sure what else to do since the difficult times make homeschooling near to impossible for her.

There is part of me that has wanted to just pipe in and offer to take on the homeschooling duties during those difficult times for her, but then there are so many reasons why I haven't followed through with it.

I'm scared of figuring out yet another curriculum.
I work from home
My boys and I have a comfortable rhythm that I hate upsetting
Homeschooling someone not in your own family isn't legally supported in my state
I'm a fairly selfish individual. :p

These all sound like incredibly reasonable excuses in my book. Of course, they don't help my friend at all. So, to either assuage my guilt or maybe make me look at my selfishness face-to-face, I thought I'd check in with you SHS'ers via this week's poll.

Stella M
01-04-2012, 10:40 PM
No, I wouldn't, for the reasons you've mentioned and others as well.

I have been part of a roster that helped babysit a homeschool mom's children when she was in treatment for cancer; the roster was helpful, because no-one had to do 'all' of the work. The mom only asked for childcare though...any homeschooling that got done was a bonus. And my children were little, so a day of playing with 'extra's' every now and then was no problem.

01-04-2012, 11:30 PM
For me, it would really depend on the ages of the children. If they were old enough to work independently with a little input from me, I might. If I had to teach them reading and read everything to them, no. That would be too much for me.

01-05-2012, 12:51 AM
It depends on the child- and the parent would have to provide the curriculum (old enough to work alone), or if they were younger, they would have to be the age of my children, cooperative, and use the same lessons we do, only with compensation (they pay half the price of the curriculum) and i'll make copies. Its too expensive and too much of my time and effort for me to do it for free. And the kid would have to be a stellar kid.
Some days, I would pay for someone to drop off other kids to do a few lessons with mine!

Miss Angela
01-05-2012, 09:08 AM
Absolutely I would help. It makes me a better teacher dealing with other personalities, helps my organization, gives my kids extra social coping skills, but most importantly it teaches my children the value of helping others even if hinders my time in some way. The rewards of helping others and that learning experience for both my children and me would make it worth it.

01-05-2012, 10:19 AM
I answered other, because I would definitely offer to help, depending on the parent(s), child and situation. I've already hosted and assisted with art classes in our home and it went really well. Our girls were thrilled to have children in our home, and I enjoyed teaching and being with these children.

01-05-2012, 12:31 PM
If my sister ever has kids, I've told her I absolutely would homeschool her kids.

01-05-2012, 02:02 PM
I chose other, but really it boils down to this: if this someone was an exceptionally good friend OR was family, I would. Otherwise, no way.

I don't pretend to have the magic homeschooling prescription. THIS is what is working for my family, with my kids... but they aren't 18 yet LOL. I have faith and confidence that we will all be happy, but that isn't the same as saying some other parent would like how our homeschool is run.

And when we did have other children for a week(relatives we are close to, actually), my daughter cried every single day because she wanted me all to herself. Of course, I only had two students (including her) but it just wasn't the same. She had to wait for the other girl to finish up, wait to move on to the next thing, wait to ask her questions or make her observations. I wasn't as relaxed, either- more busywork, less direct interaction with my own two.

So yes, I would homeschool a relative's child, but I know it means my own would have a lot less of me. It isn't something I would do lightly.

01-05-2012, 02:12 PM
I don't know that I would be of sound mind and body to take on more than my own kids. But, if a situation ever arose where I was asked and it was feasible, I would at least give it shot. So far, nothing close to this has happened, aside from the neighborhood kids being extremely interested and wanting to watch stuff with us or participate in a science experiment or something. It's funny. They all tell me that their teacher goes to fast and want me to explain stuff to them. I do it gladly but that's as far as it goes.

01-07-2012, 02:50 PM
I don't have the temperament for it - barely have it for my own lovely daughter. Co-learning as a group with other adults and kids - yes, I can do that. Also, it may be an age thing - as the child gets older I would be more likely to be able to help.

SueEllen Grieves-Curl
01-07-2012, 07:55 PM
No. There are other things she can do to make sure her children are getting their schooling while she is sick. My liver acts up every once in a while and when it is acting up I am sick and weak. My kids still do their work those days. They have more computer time and get some of the work done that is on the computer. And I lay on the couch. And they still do their reading with me sitting right next to them.
But one of the good things of HS is that they can take a break and just do reading, playing games and other things that will keep them together and minimize the messes on days she does not feel good. Have the kids create a drawer for each of them that is full of quiet activities so they can have easy access to them.

01-10-2012, 07:48 AM
I really don't know so I voted Other.
I struggle with my own kids being 7 years apart and at totally different levels and needs so I'm not sure I could add another persons child and having to learn how they function, learning style and curricula etc.

Dd is 6 and needs my constant attention. DS is 13 and likes me to hold his hand not to mention if I'm not paying attention no work gets done, so I just don't know how I'd go at this stage.

01-12-2012, 11:24 AM
I voted that it depended on the child/ situation...although I KNOW it would be a struggle. Like was said previously, I struggle with my OWN...but I have to say that being on the 'receiving' end (my best friend tutors my older kids alongside of hers when they are doing a high school math), I a EXTREMELY grateful for those who will sacrifice!!! Some people are just more organized...more intellectual...and that makes it possible for for those of us who are not quite as 'quick-minded' to be able to have 'the best of both worlds-' keeping our children at home AND giving them a stellar education!